Partner and my dog

Exactly. Anyway I sincerely hope MN doesn't delete the thread. if you post in AIBU you have to accept that you might get responses you don't like.

Nothing on here is abusive to the OP so it should stand.

Deleting the thread might put the problem out of sight and out of mind for you, but the problem will still exist: you need to train your dog.

No dog big or small should be leaping at anyone when excited. That’s why responsible owners train their dogs to avoid anyone being hurt or their dog being hurt.

So, let me get this straight. You start a frothy, weird post, asking a really dumb question, then don't like the answers you're getting, so want it deleted?! Is it a slow day?!
How old are you? Are you always this dramatic? Did you want us all to justify your concerns and tell you to LTB?!
Tapping a dog when it has caused pain to someone is not animal abuse and you know that full well. It was a knee jerk reaction to being twatted in the bollocks! (I haven't got balls, but I can imagine it's not the nicest thing to have to endure when they're injured!) And he hardly beat your dog senseless.
As countless other posters have said, take some responsibility and train your bloody dog! And if you don't know that this is the most very basic responsibility of owning a dog, you really shouldn't have one at all.
So sorry that this post hasn't gone the way you'd have liked it to, all you've done is create yourself a pile on. But that's what you get for asking a stupid question 🤷🏼‍♀️

You have to contact mumsnet support to get a thread deleted. They probably will not see your 'please delete' messages.

I’d be very pissed off if my Dh hit the dog, but he never would because they don’t jump up. One of them is very clumsy and accidentally thumps into us and god forbid you bend to change into walking boots when they’re in the same room, heads like concrete. Train them both, OP!

Nope ... just want dog owners to be aware.

The assumption that animals are for our use comes with the need to understand that at heart they are just that .... animals.
Any dog owner who says their dog wouldn't hurt a fly is entirely missing that point.

The relationship between humans and the animal kingdom is complex and morally chaotic. We slaughter some animals to eat, but dote on pets and bury them with full honours when they die. We actively protect some species knowing that their survival will wipe out the animals on which they predate.

There is no logic to any of it, and the morality is debatable.

We start from the basis that we have a right to control the animal kingdom, to fill emotional gaps in our lives by making pets of them, to decide which species should live or die .....

But the bottom line is that animals are wild creatures at heart with the instincts that go with that. Every animal who is forced to comply with the social niceties of our homes is having its very nature distorted.

Is that OK? Who knows?

Please train your big dog not to jump up at people. It is all too likely to frighten or irritate or even hurt people; & there’s a real risk that some day it will do this to a stranger in the park, and that stranger will kick the dog in self defence, and/or report it to the police.

Training dogs matters. That’s the issue here. Your dog’s behaviour & your own failure to see this. Your partner did nothing wrong at all.

The people suggesting you can infer from this that your partner will hurt a child are being ridiculous. I have dogs & children. The situations being - madly- compared on this thread, defending yourself against a large dog jumping up & child abuse, basically, are completely different. Even suggesting they are the same is imo minimising the reality of violence against children.

You urgently need to train your dog.

So Mischance wants to change 10k years of human experience because she knows better. Hmmm…

We teach our children manners rather than let them be the feral little animals they’d like to be. No difference with dogs. In the absence of humans dogs teach each other manners with a growl/shove/nip. In fact all animals that live together teach their youngsters the rules of society. Otherwise that society breaks down. Im sure you’ve read Lord of the Flies.

FGS stop being ignorant and train your dog. Believe me people hate untrained dogs big or small. It’s not the dog’s fault, it’s your fault.

Your partner shouldn’t have hit it, but maybe it genuinely was a reflex reaction. It’s your responsibility to do something.

I adore dogs .However I think anyone would be miffed if jumped at and hurt into the bargain!He got caught unawares is all.No is not animal abuse.If only real animal abuse was this mild .Train doggy in future .there is a note to keep doggy in another room when postie arrives from the PO!

As Minchin pithily says:"Just because ideas are persistent does not mean they are worthy."
Animals have indeed been taken over by humans for a very long time to benefit us. This does not mean they should be treated as humanoid. Trying to bend them to our will comes with problems because nature will out. Underneath all the training and socialising the wild animal remains.
The OP's dog is doing what comes naturally to him. Does he want to be turned into a substitute human? Who knows? It us still a question to be asked.

Have you seen how dogs correct each other for bad behaviour? If often involves teeth.

What planet have you beamed down from? Humans have domesticated dogs for over 10,000 years. This mutually beneficial relationship predates agriculture. Do you think only wolves and dingos should exist? Shall we just stop farming too and go back to living in caves?

Or you could just train your dog 😉

She absolutely is - but that’s her problem to solve, not her partners.

But it’s not ok for the dog, is it? The OP is failing her animal completely.

Tad of an over-reaction. Most of us can tell a large dog from a human and modify behaviour accordingly. If dogs jump up at me I push them off, firmly, The cause of this nonsense is the badly trained dog.
I have friends whose dogs behave like this. I like the people and but the dogs' behaviour is a bloody nuisance. Speaking as a long term dog owner, I would never ever have let my dog do this. No one wants to be leapt at by 27kg of Labrador.

Animal abuse … fgs train the dog

Why would you want this thread removed, with crying face emojis - has something happened to your dog ?

But OP says her partner is wary of dogs and doesn’t trust them - he’s not a dog lover with the patience and tolerance levels that you have, and that’s okay.

I have excellent self control. I’m exercising it now.

Yes, I would definitely react if someone punched me in the face. But as that isn’t what happened here, I’m not sure what the point is that you’re trying to make. What I wouldn’t do is hit an untrained animal for doing what untrained animals do. And I know this because I used to foster dogs, 99% of whom were distinctly unsociable. I have been bitten, jumped up at, trodden on, walked over and clawed at. I managed not to hit any of them.

It’s not abusive 🫣

Abusive is smacking hard out of anger - not responding to extreme pain caused by an out of control, untrained large dog.