I'm going out of my mind.
My DH does this thing where he withdraws and just sort of stops talking to me. If I ramble on about stuff eg my day, the kids , everyday stuff, he won't respond so I sort of just shut up and leave him be. If I ask him a question, he'll ignore me or mumble and answer and not look at me or make eye contact. Again, I just don't talk any further and leave him be.
He's not exactly a chatterbox so it's not like a sudden change but almost a slow gradual change and before you know it, it's been several days/ weeks where he hasn't spoken to me properly. During this time, he'll just go into his bed and put his headphones on and ignore everyone.
When I ask him about it, he says it's me that's not talking to him and puts the blame partially on me or he outright just lies and says hes fine and it's in my head.
When he is like this, it obviously hurts me and out of the blue as soon as it appears, he becomes "normal" again, only for it to start again in a few weeks. And on and on this repeats.
I'm left hurt, things are okay, then hurt again. It's like a yo yo of emotions and I'm utterly exhausted by it all. Its started again and I've told him what is wrong. He acknowledged this was happening and walked off saying he doesn't want to talk.
I know you must be thinking what on earth I'm doing with such a guy but I had a shit childhood and was treated badly by my family so I take a lot of crap from ppl as it's my "norm". Sounds crazy I know but I only realised this recently.
I'm asking what the hell is this behaviour. Is it depression, I've not heard of ppl acting like this when depressed. He becomes rude and just my existence annoys him. Is it a personality disorder?! Has anyone come across anyone else like this before?!