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I got fired today!!

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Amiunemployable · 27/11/2025 17:31

I started a new job on 1st September.

I was given an offer of employment letter when I started but never received a contract.

Today I was fired. Apparently I've had too much time off and failed my probation.

They've said I've had eleven days off. By my tally it's six days. Not eleven. Two were caused by migraines with aura which I've never had before and my GP reckons it was highly likely to have been caused by my office lighting as the migraines only started after I got the job. And since i stopped using the overhead office lights, (i sourced my own alternative) I've been migraine free.

I know it's still a high amount to have had off but I recieved PIP for a disability that does unfortunately mean it's difficult for me sometimes to get to work. But I've done my best.

Have I got a leg to stand on here? I never received a contract. Was never informed of a probation period. To then be told I'd failed a probation period that I didn't know existed? I signed nothing that mentioned probation.

I wasn't offered an extension to the probation period or a improvement plan, etc. Just straight dismissal, with no prior warning, for failing a probation period I didn't know existed. And also told I've had 11 days off and I don't think it's been that many.

OP posts:
KilkennyCats · 27/11/2025 19:13

Rosscameasdoody · 27/11/2025 19:07

I agree, but what matters here is that the employer hasn’t bothered to ascertain any of that and has not intervened despite there being a probation period, to which sickness absence is linked. They have simply waited until the OP has crossed the line at which she can be dismissed. At the very least there should have been intervention, at which point OP could have declared her disability, and then it could have been determined whether or not the absences were due to that disability. If not, then there is likely no case to answer and any application to the tribunal service would be dismissed on those grounds.

Presumably when op phoned in sick she explained “My child is too ill for school today, I’ll have to stay home” and “I’ve got a vomiting bug”, etc.?
You can’t seriously be suggesting employers are obligated to investigate possible disability on the part of their employees without any indication whatsoever that this may be the case?
What “intervention” would have been appropriate in the above circumstances?
Some people really do believe in the nanny state 🙄

YourLoyalPlumOP · 27/11/2025 19:13

Rosscameasdoody · 27/11/2025 19:12

Yes it is where the employee has a disability as defined by the Equality Act 2010. Has been the case since - well, 2010 !!

That’s not what she was asking though.

YourMotherSortsSocksInHell · 27/11/2025 19:13

Isekaied · 27/11/2025 17:50

Sounds like counted the weekend or days you don't work in that 6 days.

So if ill on the Friday till and didn't go back for over a week until the Tuesday.

That would be only 7 days off work. But including the weekend sit would be 11 days in total.

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This is how many, probably most, employers calculate sickness absence.

If your first day sick is Friday and you return the following Wednesday, that's counted as 5 days, not 3. Unless you were better on Sat/Sun then sick again on Mon/Tue it's classed as one continuous absence. If you said you were better over the weekend but ill again on Monday, it would then be classed as 3 days but 2 separate absences (and 3 separate absences in a rolling 12 months generally triggers further action such as an OT referral).

It sounds as though this is what has happened, you've either had e.g. one absence Fri-Tues (5 days) and another of e.g. Thu-Tues (6 days). Or worse, 2 absences Fri-Mon and another Friday sick but put your FFW date as Monday morning so counted as 3 days*.

Either way, that many days in less than 3 months is pretty poor. Was your employer aware of your disability?? If not, I doubt you have any grounds for appeal but IANAL.

*This is why, if you are sick on a Friday (regardless of when the absence started), but return to work on the following Monday, even if you were sick as a dog till Sunday evening, ALWAYS put your Fit for Work date as Saturday morning so that the weekend is not counted as sick.

Edited to clarify the thread had moved on a bit in the time it took to write this post.

Rosscameasdoody · 27/11/2025 19:12

Pollqueen · 27/11/2025 19:11

Nope, not law yet

Yes it is where the employee has a disability as defined by the Equality Act 2010. Has been the case since - well, 2010 !!

Rosscameasdoody · 27/11/2025 19:11

LoudNoiseCantCope · 27/11/2025 19:06

You can still dismiss someone if they are disabled, you just can’t dismiss them because of their disability, and you must make reasonable adjustments.

That doesn’t mean someone can just take endless sick leave, although a reasonable adjustment may be to allow them more absence if related to their disability before moving to formal capability. But no one would try to claim unlimited sickness absence is a reasonable adjustment.

This. The more enlightened employers discount any sickness absences linked to the direct effects of disability, and they are not counted towards disciplinary action. It’s not a matter of law at the moment, but it’s encouraged as part of reasonable adjustment. There is absolutely nothing stopping an employer from letting a disabled employee go providing that they can demonstrate that if the disability itself is affecting their performance, all attempts at reasonable adjustment have been attempted before dismissal. The key word here is ‘reasonable’.

LoudNoiseCantCope · 27/11/2025 19:11

JKLolling · 27/11/2025 19:08

Well if unlimited sickness absence isn't a reasonable adjustment then OP being disabled is nothing to do with anything then is it?

I didn’t say it in relation to OP’s situation, but in response to your idea that people can take multiple periods of absence with no redress.

Pollqueen · 27/11/2025 19:11

LittlePurpleTeapot · 27/11/2025 18:15

I thought the two year rule had been changed so that employees had full rights from day 1?

Nope, not law yet

Twinkylightsg · 27/11/2025 19:10

Rosscameasdoody · 27/11/2025 19:07

I agree, but what matters here is that the employer hasn’t bothered to ascertain any of that and has not intervened despite there being a probation period, to which sickness absence is linked. They have simply waited until the OP has crossed the line at which she can be dismissed. At the very least there should have been intervention, at which point OP could have declared her disability, and then it could have been determined whether or not the absences were due to that disability. If not, then there is likely no case to answer and any application to the tribunal service would be dismissed on those grounds.

Does someone starting a new job really need to be intervened to say hey you been off 11 days in 2.5 months that's not OK? Surely we have not come to this point in society where people are this dumb?

It's getting worse by the day with the handholding people are expecting.

YourLoyalPlumOP · 27/11/2025 19:10

Amiunemployable · 27/11/2025 18:22

And yeah, I'm shit scared and worried. I've lost my job. I've got a disability and a seven year old (with autism) with no childcare help. That makes getting another job in an already dire job market pretty hard.

I've never had to claim benefits before. Claiming for PIP earlier this year is the first time I've ever applied for a benefit, and I could have been claiming it for years before now. I've always worked since I left school at seventeen. I even went to Uni as a mature student and got a degree to try and better my prospects, and now here I am. Fucking fired. And fucking scared about the future.

111 call handler and any call handler type jobs. Data entry jobs.

there’s some working from home jobs right now.

Doteycat · 27/11/2025 19:10

Rosscameasdoody · 27/11/2025 19:07

I agree, but what matters here is that the employer hasn’t bothered to ascertain any of that and has not intervened despite there being a probation period, to which sickness absence is linked. They have simply waited until the OP has crossed the line at which she can be dismissed. At the very least there should have been intervention, at which point OP could have declared her disability, and then it could have been determined whether or not the absences were due to that disability. If not, then there is likely no case to answer and any application to the tribunal service would be dismissed on those grounds.

Theres nothing to ascertain.
Call 1. Ive a migraine cos of the lights, I wont be in.
Call 2. My son is sick i wont be in.
Call 3. Im sick with a bug i wont be in.

There is nothing to ascertain. Its v clear it has nothing to do with any disability.
You can try push the narrative that the employer didnt give a shit, but you are wrong. The employer looked at the facts and acted on that. End of.

YourLoyalPlumOP · 27/11/2025 19:09

Amiunemployable · 27/11/2025 18:16

Look, I'm not actually looking to take this further or go to a tribunal or anything. I don't have that kind of fight in me.

I'm just worried about what I'm going to do going forward.

And yeah, I'm a bit annoyed that there was no contract, no mention of probation, no warnings. No back to work meetings after absences to discuss, etc. They were very happy with my work, and my time off hasn't been mentioned before today. As I said, there were no warnings, no discussions. It just feels shitty. No opportunities to improve and keep my job, etc.

They dont have to though

its shit. But they’ve done everything they needed too

Laura95167 · 27/11/2025 19:08

Amiunemployable · 27/11/2025 17:56

Look, i don't even know what I want here, but I've just lost my job right before Christmas. We're in a cost of living crisis, I've got a disability and a seven year old to support, and the job market is dire at the moment.

Hence my username - it took me months to get this job!

Some of my time off was due to the aura migraines caused by my office lights. Totally new for me.

Some other time was due to my son being poorly and having to look after him.

Another was a sickness bug.

All totally unfortunate but happened in quick succession.

Most office jobs do have probation periods, and that is 3 separate sickness incidents and one special leave to care for your child.

Your sickness period in days may also count weekends i.e. Friday and Monday, is 4 days of sickness not 2.

Youre clearly capable of securing a job, so next time I would disclose your disability. You may have recieved more leniency if they knew about a protected condition

AmberRose86 · 27/11/2025 19:08

Twinkylightsg · 27/11/2025 19:08

I don't know of any jobs that dont have a probation period. Do you?

It’s not a thinggggg it means nothinggggg

poppy2024 · 27/11/2025 19:08

Did you get paid full while off ?

Twinkylightsg · 27/11/2025 19:08

Amiunemployable · 27/11/2025 17:43

I understand the time off is high. I've acknowledged that. I also understand that it's perfectly reasonable as grounds for dismissal.

What I'm disputing is, firstly, the number of days. I believe it's 6, not 11. Secondly, I never received a contract of employment, nor was I made aware, either written or verbally, that there was a probation period or what length it was. So, the first I've heard of the probation is when I'm being told I'd failed it.

It was an office based admin role.

I don't know of any jobs that dont have a probation period. Do you?

JKLolling · 27/11/2025 19:08

LoudNoiseCantCope · 27/11/2025 19:06

You can still dismiss someone if they are disabled, you just can’t dismiss them because of their disability, and you must make reasonable adjustments.

That doesn’t mean someone can just take endless sick leave, although a reasonable adjustment may be to allow them more absence if related to their disability before moving to formal capability. But no one would try to claim unlimited sickness absence is a reasonable adjustment.

Well if unlimited sickness absence isn't a reasonable adjustment then OP being disabled is nothing to do with anything then is it?

ChristmasTimeChristmasJoy · 27/11/2025 19:07

Put in a claim for universal credit now.

Rosscameasdoody · 27/11/2025 19:07

NeverDropYourMooncup · 27/11/2025 19:01

As somebody with all the experience anybody could ever wish for of maintaining employment with disabilities (and also getting fired at times), this employer had - as a new starter - somebody taking time off almost immediately with headaches, a sick child and a tummy bug. None of those flag up an undeclared disability, they flag up a flaky employee who has only been there for a few days at most before calling in sick, then calling in 'my kid's sick' and then 'I'm sick' again.

I agree, but what matters here is that the employer hasn’t bothered to ascertain any of that and has not intervened despite there being a probation period, to which sickness absence is linked. They have simply waited until the OP has crossed the line at which she can be dismissed. At the very least there should have been intervention, at which point OP could have declared her disability, and then it could have been determined whether or not the absences were due to that disability. If not, then there is likely no case to answer and any application to the tribunal service would be dismissed on those grounds.

Zov · 27/11/2025 19:07

Ah, that's a bit shit @Amiunemployable I am sorry to hear that. Did they know when you started that you have certain issues/conditions? If so, they should have been much more tolerant with you with the time off you have had. I hope you find something else soon, and you are NOT unemployable. However, as many posters have said, I don't think you have a leg to stand on here (sorry...)

Maybe best to wait til after Christmas now, and apply for something else, and be very upfront about your health issues.

All the best. Flowers Life sounds a bit shite for you just now. I wish you well. And yes, do apply for universal credit tomorrow!

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LoudNoiseCantCope · 27/11/2025 19:06

JKLolling · 27/11/2025 19:03

I genuinely am not trying to be disablist.

But are you saying disable people should be unfirable from day 1 of any job regardless of what their disability is (my mild asthma counts as a disability for example) while people who don't consider themselves disabled should be held ti a much higher standard? How is this fair at all? If this would the case I would do everything I could not to hire a disabled person as an employer as you are then stuck paying for their multiple episodes of time off with no redress

Edited

You can still dismiss someone if they are disabled, you just can’t dismiss them because of their disability, and you must make reasonable adjustments.

That doesn’t mean someone can just take endless sick leave, although a reasonable adjustment may be to allow them more absence if related to their disability before moving to formal capability. But no one would try to claim unlimited sickness absence is a reasonable adjustment.

AmberRose86 · 27/11/2025 19:05

Rosscameasdoody · 27/11/2025 19:02

Yes, they can. The Equality Act confers right to apply for tribunal for unfair or constructive dismissal from day one if the employee is disabled, their disability meets the definition of disability under the Act, and the reason for the dismissal is thought to be connected to that disability. They apply to the tribunal service, who make the decision as to whether they have a case in law and approve or decline the application as appropriate.

Edited

That’s discrimination it’s not unfair dismissal. It’s legally not the same thing.

heatherberry · 27/11/2025 19:05

If you haven't declared your disability you can't sue them for discriminating against a protected characteristic.
You could have also requested or highlighted that you hadn't received a contract after starting with them (personally I would never start a job without a contract, that is a huge red flag). I don't think you've got much to stand on really. Without a contract and no declaration of any disability it's your word against theirs. 6 days or 11 days is neither here nor there in this case.

If this is a first job for you (which the impression of the post leads me to assume that it is?) take this as a big learning curve. Dust yourself off and get another job.

YourLoyalPlumOP · 27/11/2025 19:04

No

thwy can fire you for any reason that isn’t protected before 2 years.

6 days is a extremely high amount. I started a job and have a disability and haven’t had a day off in any of the time. It’s been over 6 months now

there isn’t much you can do. I do have a disability but I’m lucky because I explained about mine which is stupidly rare. But it’s well managed. I get migraines with aura but I just push through.

it’s rubbish. I’m sorry. But sadly you’ve got no leg to stand on.

JKLolling · 27/11/2025 19:03

Rosscameasdoody · 27/11/2025 19:00

What would be more of a concern to me is that as a manager you are unaware that a disabled employee has rights from day one, not dependent on two years service.

I genuinely am not trying to be disablist.

But are you saying disable people should be unfirable from day 1 of any job regardless of what their disability is (my mild asthma counts as a disability for example) while people who don't consider themselves disabled should be held ti a much higher standard? How is this fair at all? If this would the case I would do everything I could not to hire a disabled person as an employer as you are then stuck paying for their multiple episodes of time off with no redress

AmberRose86 · 27/11/2025 19:03

IwishIhadcheese · 27/11/2025 18:52

Don’t be that person.

It’s a fair observation is it not?

My managers have always expected childcare responsibilities to be split and will always ask if the dad( and it’s always the dad) is doing his bit if the mum is starting to miss a disproportionate amount of work due to childcare issues. I’m a manager now and I’d do the same if it came up.

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