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To be struggling on 3k per month?

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Strictlyskint · 27/11/2025 11:04

I am a single mum and really don’t know where I am going wrong. I am usually fine until there is a week to go until payday. Christmas is coming up and I am really stressing

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randomchap · 27/11/2025 11:20

Phone and sky stand out there. Any way of getting a cheaper phone and cutting back on your tv package?

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Strictlyskint · 27/11/2025 11:20

Amba1998 · 27/11/2025 11:16

A single mum on £3k and someone who has nothing left a week before pay day can’t afford to be frivolous.

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But my parents say I earn more than some couples and should be fine. It makes me feel so rubbish

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Strictlyskint · 27/11/2025 11:18

So I have,

mortgage 550
council tax 170
phone bill 60
car insurance 70
water 150
gad and electric 200
petrol 70 pw
cat food 50 pm
food 150 pw
sky 70

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randomchap · 27/11/2025 11:17

Seriously, list all your expenses.

You don't need to do it here, but do it and hopefully you'll see where you can make savings

FromTheFirstOldFashionedWeWereCursed · 27/11/2025 11:16

IME, it's quite hard for older people, if they bought years ago, to fully understand what a massive proportion of salaryis taken up by mortgage/rent these days. Don't let your parents' views make you feel bad. But if you go to the MoneySavingExpert website forums and are thorough and truthful about your spending, they'll offer you good budgeting advice.

Amba1998 · 27/11/2025 11:16

Strictlyskint · 27/11/2025 11:09

Should I be managing though? I don’t think I am very good with money and quite frivolous

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A single mum on £3k and someone who has nothing left a week before pay day can’t afford to be frivolous.

Darkchocokatetorte · 27/11/2025 11:15

List all incoming and outgoing.

Parents don’t always help!

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Strictlyskint · 27/11/2025 11:14

Buscobel · 27/11/2025 11:10

Maybe you aren’t going wrong. It’s simply that every time you buy something, the price has increased and that adds up over a month. Gas, electricity and everything else just keeps on rising. It’s a good idea to really track what you’re spending though.

my parents make me feel terrible as they said I should be absolutely loaded. Im
not

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Row23 · 27/11/2025 11:14

You might not be going wrong - it depends how much your mortgage / rent and bills etc take each month and then how many kids you have. You could be spending 70% of your income on rent and bills for example, and then whatever is left has to cover all your food, which with kids we know can be super expensive. Plus any clubs they participate in etc.
It doesn’t sound crazy to me that you’d struggle on £3000 depending on how much the basic cost of living is for you.

Elmeux · 27/11/2025 11:13

Depends on what your expenditures are really. If your mortgage/rent and utilities alone are coming in at £2000-2500 pcm, then it wouldn’t be unreasonable to be struggling towards the end of the month. But if you’re left with a a couple of grand after paying all your bills then maybe yes, you are frivolous.

Buscobel · 27/11/2025 11:10

Maybe you aren’t going wrong. It’s simply that every time you buy something, the price has increased and that adds up over a month. Gas, electricity and everything else just keeps on rising. It’s a good idea to really track what you’re spending though.

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Strictlyskint · 27/11/2025 11:09

ExtraOnions · 27/11/2025 11:05

Have a list of all (and the key word is all) of your income and expenditure -use an app to track spend, sometimes it’s a load of small things that add up

Should I be managing though? I don’t think I am very good with money and quite frivolous

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ExtraOnions · 27/11/2025 11:05

Have a list of all (and the key word is all) of your income and expenditure -use an app to track spend, sometimes it’s a load of small things that add up

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