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That a single parent having her salary topped up to over £6k shows how unaffordable family life now is

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Tryingtryingandtrying · 26/11/2025 23:37

I was reading about a woman, take home pay if £2800 and topped up by UC to over 6k. This must be £100k or thereabouts equivalent before tax. How can this be fair when earning that much actually loses you child benefit and free childcare? As she has 3 kids she will now be even more better off, not sure what the answer is though.

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Crikeyalmighty · 27/11/2025 10:11

Bellsbeachwaves · 27/11/2025 09:48

I don't disagree with you. I guess the Tory's wanted landlords paid and childcare businesses opened. I guess I'm saying it's a bigger picture than simply benefit bashing. Something has gone wrong and I'm interested in the solutions.

@Bellsbeachwaves I agree with you on this - the system has created this kind of thing and we need to look at the underlying issues -

for instance someone living in Leeds would likely get maybe £1200 top up at the absolute most because the rent element woukd be so much less and possibly childcare costs too .

we need to look at solutions which to me are making sure that we are not paying private landlords to charge what they feel like in a free market with significant demand ( like London) - my view is that there needs to be far more social housing in areas of high demand - or we look at situations like underwriting /gifting deposits/ on shared ownership - if people are working , I’m sure more would appreciate the security. At a point when the supply is improved bring in rent caps depending on size and area - yes some might get out of it altogether but plenty who are in it for capital growth will not . Give the pension and insurance companies massive incentives to convert unused commercial buildings into nice social housing or shared ownership housing or mixed - - and stop allowing developments to be built with no element of it - completely stop right to buy in any way .

Christmascarrotjumper · 27/11/2025 10:09

ContentedAlpaca · 27/11/2025 10:03

Indeed, but on balance better than her not working because she can't afford childcare, becoming deskilled by that gap and potentially not earning or contributing in the future.

Why is it either or? Why can't she work, but live somewhere more affordable?

viques · 27/11/2025 10:05

bridgetreilly · 27/11/2025 01:00

Hopefully that first couple can now afford some condoms.

Having seen that she is pregnant with child number five I imagine that they would be blowing up any condoms like balloons to decorate their house since they don’t seem to understand the principles of basic contraception.

ContentedAlpaca · 27/11/2025 10:03

Christmascarrotjumper · 27/11/2025 09:59

She's 40 years old. She's been a single parent for 9 years, and her youngest is still a baby. It's quite a sizeable "snapshot".

Indeed, but on balance better than her not working because she can't afford childcare, becoming deskilled by that gap and potentially not earning or contributing in the future.

Nurseleaver82 · 27/11/2025 10:00

Hi i'm a single parent and i take home about 2800k per month. Everytime i (and i do regularly check) i go on a benefits calculator, it tells me no! Lol. I mean i get the single persons council tax, child benefit £100 approx a month and thats it. I would love this extra money you speak of? Ive tried the lottery and its not working either. Suggestions??

femfemlicious · 27/11/2025 10:00

ContentedAlpaca · 27/11/2025 09:53

I find the amount mind boggling in the face of someone earning 100k is considered wealthy, but benefits can be topped up to more than that.
Maybe this is something that needs looking at for the 100k earner in certain circumstances.

However the woman receiving benefits is working full time and the childcare payments will only be for a short amount of time until her children are school age, after which her effective income will decrease. These payments are enabling her to continue working, so are serving an important function as well as ensuring she can support herself once she is older with the pension she will be paying into.

The 100k earner will surely be in the better position of the two once they no longer need to pay for childcare.

The point I take away for this is a single income of 100k can be a high income or a low income depending on where you live and what your family circumstances and stage of life are.

Edited

Unless she decides to pop out another baby!. That's the problem, removing this cap is going to make people be careless about having more kids.

Christmascarrotjumper · 27/11/2025 10:00

femfemlicious · 27/11/2025 09:58

Very true!. I wonder how families who earn too much for benefits in London cope!. Rents are astronomical!

They don't. They move out of London, or they don't have families.

Christmascarrotjumper · 27/11/2025 09:59

ContentedAlpaca · 27/11/2025 09:57

I think this is important to note - we are being shown a snapshot in time rather than the bigger picture.

She's 40 years old. She's been a single parent for 9 years, and her youngest is still a baby. It's quite a sizeable "snapshot".

Bellsbeachwaves · 27/11/2025 09:59

ContentedAlpaca · 27/11/2025 09:57

I think this is important to note - we are being shown a snapshot in time rather than the bigger picture.

I think that's right. It's The Mirror clickbait after all.

Kilot · 27/11/2025 09:58

Bellsbeachwaves · 27/11/2025 09:49

So lots of people would move out of London... I guess they need people on low to medium income jobs in London. The problem is they can't afford it without rent and childcare help.

Isn’t youth unemployment higher in London? So give those jobs to young people, who then move out of London when they get older and want to afford a family home.

femfemlicious · 27/11/2025 09:58

thewintergarden · 27/11/2025 06:08

And that's all fine.
But if we accept someone can get benefits to that give them income the same as the net salary of an 100k job then we cannot also as a government be withdrawing 30 free hours from people on 100k!!

It cannot at the same time be "the bare minimum needed to survive" and "a really high income"

I have no skin in the game. I don't live in London. And my kids are past the childcare age

But having seen countless women berated on here for saying they are struggling due to the 100k cut off for childcare (and that includes single mums) then it's absolutely staggering to think that 100k is just going to give them the same lifestyle as someone earning a low income and claiming benefits

So the 30 hours cap needs lifting substantially

And actually so does the child benefit cap! Because how can we say someone on 60k is earning so much they don't need CB yet pay someone else the equivalent of 100k salary

And also I think the 40% tax rate should only hit at a level above what someone can get on benefits.

So I will be ok with these incredible benefits payouts if and when there is a fair matching with what is seen as wealthy.

I don't expect people to pay 40% tax and lose child benefit and free childcare if that leaves them worse off than someone being paid benefits

Very true!. I wonder how families who earn too much for benefits in London cope!. Rents are astronomical!

ContentedAlpaca · 27/11/2025 09:57

Bellsbeachwaves · 27/11/2025 09:56

Yes when her children grow up and leave and she gets no benefits, she might get a better paid job and pay tax. She might even be a high earner as she's been working while her children are small. Is that the argument?

I think this is important to note - we are being shown a snapshot in time rather than the bigger picture.

Bellsbeachwaves · 27/11/2025 09:56

Yes when her children grow up and leave and she gets no benefits, she might get a better paid job and pay tax. She might even be a high earner as she's been working while her children are small. Is that the argument?

BillieWiper · 27/11/2025 09:55

ThePolarEspresso · 27/11/2025 01:19

Years ago a tax credit letter (when we had a Tory government) for a neighbour came through my door and I didn't look at who it was addressed to. When I read it my jaw hit the floor, I didn't know that migrants could claim in work benefits at the time and how much they got.

I don't understand how Labour could claim what they did in the manifesto about working people and the Budget be OK.

Why shouldn't migrants get benefits? My parents are both migrants and one is dead, the other has a state pension. That's a benefit. Presumably you think she doesn't deserve it?

Why the fuck are you lying about not looking at the name on the envelope? It wasn't for you or your house and you opened it to be judgemental and nosy.

ContentedAlpaca · 27/11/2025 09:53

Bellsbeachwaves · 27/11/2025 09:30

She works full time, hence the childcare element being so much. You could argue that without the rent and childcare element she wouldn't be able to work full time.

I find the amount mind boggling in the face of someone earning 100k is considered wealthy, but benefits can be topped up to more than that.
Maybe this is something that needs looking at for the 100k earner in certain circumstances.

However the woman receiving benefits is working full time and the childcare payments will only be for a short amount of time until her children are school age, after which her effective income will decrease. These payments are enabling her to continue working, so are serving an important function as well as ensuring she can support herself once she is older with the pension she will be paying into.

The 100k earner will surely be in the better position of the two once they no longer need to pay for childcare.

The point I take away for this is a single income of 100k can be a high income or a low income depending on where you live and what your family circumstances and stage of life are.

Christmascarrotjumper · 27/11/2025 09:52

Bellsbeachwaves · 27/11/2025 09:49

So lots of people would move out of London... I guess they need people on low to medium income jobs in London. The problem is they can't afford it without rent and childcare help.

Yeah, we do need low and mid income workers in London. But people like her moving into London are part of the problem - they displace actual Londoners and drive prices up.

TryingToBeHelpful267 · 27/11/2025 09:51

Absolutely I am.

The same news outlets who’ve been reporting the two child benefit cap ending means children being pulled out of poverty… it doesn’t because of the standard benefit cap which Rachel reeves has oddly not mentioned.

They know people have brains of goldfish and choose to not look at information, instead they like to be told what to think.

Bellsbeachwaves · 27/11/2025 09:49

Christmascarrotjumper · 27/11/2025 09:46

Her childcare bill will only go down. She should live somewhere more affordable and pay more of her own bills.

So lots of people would move out of London... I guess they need people on low to medium income jobs in London. The problem is they can't afford it without rent and childcare help.

Bellsbeachwaves · 27/11/2025 09:48

crossedlines · 27/11/2025 09:42

If the other parent paid for his children and they lived somewhere which wasn’t the most expensive city in the U.K. she could still work - the difference would be that this family would have to pay far more of their own money to fund their own children and life, rather than expecting other people to fund it.

She‘s got one hell of a sense of entitlement and no respect for her children’s right to a private life. I wonder if in a year’s time she’ll pop up again with 4 kids and her overdone narrative

I don't disagree with you. I guess the Tory's wanted landlords paid and childcare businesses opened. I guess I'm saying it's a bigger picture than simply benefit bashing. Something has gone wrong and I'm interested in the solutions.

MistressoftheDarkSide · 27/11/2025 09:47

Question - if London presumably needs minimum wage service providers who have to claim UC to afford the costs of liviing there, but the received wisdom is that they should move somewhere cheaper to reduce the drain on the state, how do you propose those sectors continue to function, as presumably their commute would be unaffordable?

Christmascarrotjumper · 27/11/2025 09:46

Bellsbeachwaves · 27/11/2025 09:42

I dunno I'm just posing the question. I guess she wouldn't be able to work full time or at all? She would have to move, maybe. I think it's all a bit of a mess tbh. Childcare and rent have become insanely expensive. If they weren't so expensive, the benefit bill would be much less.

Her childcare bill will only go down. She should live somewhere more affordable and pay more of her own bills.

Hellohelga · 27/11/2025 09:45

Where’s the link? Is this even true? Or is it like all the budget speculation, just made up?

LeadBubbles · 27/11/2025 09:44

IsawwhatIsaw · 27/11/2025 08:45

Assuming this isn’t a wind up. You mean your desire relies on other people funding it?

I'm saying that rent and bills and food and childcare shouldn't be so expensive that you'd need to rely on tax payers money to have as many children as you want. The problem is the system, not the people and how many kids they have. The problem isn't lifting the 2 child cap so less children live in poverty, the problem is that this capitalist society means the bare minimal needs are unaffordable for millions of working people.
And personally, I don't want more children than I have, even if I could afford them. Would you have 4 or 5 or more kids just because you can afford them? Is that your only factor?

Bellsbeachwaves · 27/11/2025 09:44

PeopleWatching17 · 27/11/2025 09:39

I don’t understand how she gets this much UC. My son-in-law is in the army and takes home just under £3000 a month. My daughter doesn’t work. They have four children, 5 and under, and a £125k mortgage. Most months they don’t get any UC and are quite happy to accept that.

Because she scrapes into the system which opens up the rent and childcare support.

OneAmberFinch · 27/11/2025 09:44

Pickledpoppetpickle · 27/11/2025 08:41

So....how would she live without a rent top up? Would you prefer slums? People on the streets? Workhouses? Children in care?

What are you talking about?

My point is we don't say to people on £100k "ahh I see you pay £2.5k in rent, that's £30k a year net, at the 40% rate that's £50k gross that you spend on rent so it doesn't count as income - so let's treat you as if you're a £50k earner".

People who work pay all their expenses out of their net pay.