Page 8 | To think my niece doesn’t really get a say on how good or bad she thinks the budget is

Arregaithel · 26/11/2025 22:37

TheCrenchinglyMcQuaffenBrothers · 26/11/2025 22:34

Pride? Why should the OP have any claim to pride? She’s had nothing to do with this young woman’s success.

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I just meant that she "should" be proud of her niece rather than jealous?

niadainud · 26/11/2025 22:36

OopOop · 26/11/2025 22:31

No, and I never said that. I said that she, as a tax payer, was entitled to an opinion. Other people are also entitled to an opinion, but we’re not discussing them in this post.

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Sorry, I realise you didn't say that, but we sort of are inasmuch as the OP is suggesting people should be silenced because they don't meet certain criteria. You shouldn't have to meet any criteria to have an opinion, or even to express it. However that certainly doesn't mean all opinions should be given equal weight - that's a different matter.

Carandache18 · 26/11/2025 22:35

TheCrenchinglyMcQuaffenBrothers · 26/11/2025 22:32

Of course she gets to say whether she thinks it’s good or bad, numpty.
Sounds like she made choices in life, and you made choices in life, but hers worked out well and yours didn’t so much - financially anyway - get over it. You’re very invested in minimising the fact that she might have had anything other than ‘luck’ involved in her current position. Despite admitting some was due to inheritance….which always means someone died…..

In a moment OP is going to come on claiming her niece didn't give two hoots about the person who died.

OP, you are outrageously jealous and you know far too much about your niece's private affairs.

Mrsblobby88 · 26/11/2025 22:35

Catch a grip

BoredZelda · 26/11/2025 22:34

I don’t think the budget went far enough. I’m a high earner. I don’t see how those two things aren’t compatible.

TheCrenchinglyMcQuaffenBrothers · 26/11/2025 22:34

Arregaithel · 26/11/2025 22:32

so preparation, on her part, met opportunity, that is not luck.

Your green is showing where it should really be pride, no?

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Pride? Why should the OP have any claim to pride? She’s had nothing to do with this young woman’s success.

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Dennien · 26/11/2025 22:34

InlandTaipan · 26/11/2025 22:31

Nobody becomes a trained dancer, however much natural talent and luck they have, without years of bloody hard work, much of which is done at an age where other kids are hanging out w mates or on the PlayStation. And most professional dance careers pay poorly - she's done well for herself.

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No I’m well aware of this, I’m not ignorant to the fact she probably put in as many hours before 18 to become a highly talented and skilled dancer as many do at uni post 18.
What I’m saying is she was not the only teenager to go straight from school to dance every night, or to spend weekends practicing.
She is not the only talented dancer.

Many are, not all are fortunate enough to meet the right people and the right time.

I appreciate skill got her there, and her qualities made her memorable to the people who mattered but there is an element of luck in even meeting them.

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IndigoIsMyFavouriteColour · 26/11/2025 22:33

Of course she’s allowed an opinion!

Naws · 26/11/2025 22:32

InlandTaipan · 26/11/2025 22:31

Nobody becomes a trained dancer, however much natural talent and luck they have, without years of bloody hard work, much of which is done at an age where other kids are hanging out w mates or on the PlayStation. And most professional dance careers pay poorly - she's done well for herself.

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Exactly.

Very hard work and lots of self-discipline.

Two qualities that not everyone has, especially someone so young.

Arregaithel · 26/11/2025 22:32

Dennien · 26/11/2025 22:23

I’m not saying it didn’t require skills, it absolutely did, she trained (it’s dance related), but it is incredibly niche and she got there through experience then being recognised by others in the industry and so on.
There is an element to luck, in she happened to work with at one point the people who could then get her the job.
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so preparation, on her part, met opportunity, that is not luck.

Your green is showing where it should really be pride, no?

TheCrenchinglyMcQuaffenBrothers · 26/11/2025 22:32

Of course she gets to say whether she thinks it’s good or bad, numpty.
Sounds like she made choices in life, and you made choices in life, but hers worked out well and yours didn’t so much - financially anyway - get over it. You’re very invested in minimising the fact that she might have had anything other than ‘luck’ involved in her current position. Despite admitting some was due to inheritance….which always means someone died…..

HansHolbein · 26/11/2025 22:32

She bloody well does!

BatchCookBabe · 26/11/2025 22:31

Agree. The OP is hilariously jealous and bitter.

Naws · 26/11/2025 22:31

Dennien · 26/11/2025 22:09

She didn’t go to uni, she works in the creative industries, her break very much came from being in the right room. I’m proud of her for succeeding but her success is a niche avenue of an already niche industry that most can’t access.

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I’m proud of her for succeeding

Well you don't sound it.

In fact you sound incredibly bitter.

InlandTaipan · 26/11/2025 22:31

Dennien · 26/11/2025 22:23

I’m not saying it didn’t require skills, it absolutely did, she trained (it’s dance related), but it is incredibly niche and she got there through experience then being recognised by others in the industry and so on.
There is an element to luck, in she happened to work with at one point the people who could then get her the job.
I

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Nobody becomes a trained dancer, however much natural talent and luck they have, without years of bloody hard work, much of which is done at an age where other kids are hanging out w mates or on the PlayStation. And most professional dance careers pay poorly - she's done well for herself.

tramtracks · 26/11/2025 22:31

You just sound quite envious or chippy I’m afraid.

OopOop · 26/11/2025 22:31

niadainud · 26/11/2025 22:28

Even non-taxpayers are allowed to have an opinion. Are A-level or university students of economics, philosophy, politics, international affairs, etc. not allowed to express opinions?

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No, and I never said that. I said that she, as a tax payer, was entitled to an opinion. Other people are also entitled to an opinion, but we’re not discussing them in this post.

Insanityisnotastrategy · 26/11/2025 22:30

She's working hard, doing well and paying for you. Of course she can bloody well comment. Jealousy is not attractive.

Firawla · 26/11/2025 22:30

Nope, you are just jealous and bitter. Your niece sounds fantastic and you have to give her credit if she came from a not so well off background and worked her way up and is now doing well then she’s proof of her own arguments. You just want to believe it’s nothing but luck so you can sit there feeling sorry for yourself and staying in the status quo.
Your niece put herself out there and put herself into the right rooms (which you are so disparaging about). Not everyone does that but she did and it paid off so I can understand why she doesn’t want to subsidise other people to sit on their arses. Fair play to her.

Teddleshon1 · 26/11/2025 22:30

How wonderful to hear about someone who is actually a net contributor to the nation’s finances. Shame she’s in the minority.

peanutbuttertoasty · 26/11/2025 22:29

"she got there through experience then being recognised by others in the industry and so on.
There is an element to luck, in she happened to work with at one point the people who could then get her the job."

You do know this is how all careers are built, don't you OP?

You are clearly bitter about your own lack of success. It's an ugly look. Sort yourself out. Perhaps you could ask her for advice, she sounds much more switched on.

MsAmerica · 26/11/2025 22:28

Dennien · 26/11/2025 21:42

I’m a single mum, I work full time, I have 3 children and I just about get by.
My niece is 26, she makes almost 100k (got lucky, was in the right rooms either the right people), and inherited 500k from her paternal grandparents.
She doesn’t have uni debt, she doesn’t have childcare costs. She happily pays £500 a month for a fancy London gym, lives in a flat share with her best friend etc.
Today she told me she didn’t think the budget went far enough etc. that Labour are useless and so on. She is a Lib Dem/Tory voter and very against reform too.

AIBU to say that young people in a privileged position shouldn’t really get to comment as they aren’t facing the same difficulties others are.

This is so strange that I'm wondering if I've misunderstood.

You are thinking that a young woman, a productive member of society, of voting age, shouldn't have the right to voice an opinion about politics? Has the U.K. suddenly become more repressive? Or do you think successful people have no right to their opinions? Or, like some of the American right-wingers, do you think that single, childless women are somehow not "real" citizens?

I'm guessing that if we knew more about your life, we'd find that you, too, aren't facing the same problems that many others are.

niadainud · 26/11/2025 22:28

OopOop · 26/11/2025 21:47

Of course she is entitled to an option, as a taxpayer.

Even non-taxpayers are allowed to have an opinion. Are A-level or university students of economics, philosophy, politics, international affairs, etc. not allowed to express opinions?

somenerves · 26/11/2025 22:27

Ridiculous. She absolutely gets an opinion on where HER money she pays in taxes should go!

CleverButScatty · 26/11/2025 22:27

I disagree with her political stance but as tax paying. Adult in the country of course she gets to have an opinion and vote accordingly.