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AIBU?

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To think my niece doesn’t really get a say on how good or bad she thinks the budget is

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Dennien · 26/11/2025 21:42

I’m a single mum, I work full time, I have 3 children and I just about get by.
My niece is 26, she makes almost 100k (got lucky, was in the right rooms either the right people), and inherited 500k from her paternal grandparents.
She doesn’t have uni debt, she doesn’t have childcare costs. She happily pays £500 a month for a fancy London gym, lives in a flat share with her best friend etc.
Today she told me she didn’t think the budget went far enough etc. that Labour are useless and so on. She is a Lib Dem/Tory voter and very against reform too.

AIBU to say that young people in a privileged position shouldn’t really get to comment as they aren’t facing the same difficulties others are.

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user1492757084 · 27/11/2025 03:29

Just strive to create wealth and to do well, Op.
Your children will benefit from your hard work.
Your niece is a great example of how working hard and creating wealth helps everyone in that family and also helps pay taxes so others less fortunate can go to school, give birth in a hospital and eat food.

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 27/11/2025 02:50

Everyone is allowed a view. The people earning are the ones paying for the ones getting welfare.

You sound jealous of your niece.

PollyBell · 27/11/2025 02:47

Dennien · 27/11/2025 02:30

Not necessarily, I said her career was related to dance but I didn’t say she was still a dancer. Shes an in house choreographer at a very successful production company and is now moving into management. She did start as a professional dancer but this was at 18 and she has worked her way up from there.

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So she has permission to earn money off other people but is not allowed to have an opinion on anything to do with the money she earns of these people?

Crazybigtoe · 27/11/2025 02:42

XenoBitch · 27/11/2025 02:39

Was this in the Daily Mail?

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Yeah. But can be verified using the various apps- eg 'entitled to'. Just plug in the deets and it spits out numbers.

sunkissedandwarm · 27/11/2025 02:41

Of course she gets a say. Every person in the country gets a say. That's how democracy works.

XenoBitch · 27/11/2025 02:39

Crazybigtoe · 27/11/2025 02:36

On another thread it was confirmed that a single mum with 3 kids can now get £6142 per month made up from work + CB -UC top ups- which is a gross salary equivalent of £113k.

So, I'm with your niece tbh.

Was this in the Daily Mail?

GehenSieweiter · 27/11/2025 02:38

Of course privileged people get a say, MN is chock full of privileged people having z say.

Crazybigtoe · 27/11/2025 02:36

On another thread it was confirmed that a single mum with 3 kids can now get £6142 per month made up from work + CB -UC top ups- which is a gross salary equivalent of £113k.

So, I'm with your niece tbh.

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Dennien · 27/11/2025 02:30

Catpuss66 · 27/11/2025 02:27

Only on page 4 of the thread

hers will be a short lived career she certainly won’t be doing it at 50, she will have to restart again.

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Catpuss66 · 27/11/2025 02:27

XenoBitch · 27/11/2025 02:19

From the drip feed from OP, it sounds like her niece is a very successful dancer.
There is certainly an element of luck in creative industries, in that you have to be in the right room at the right time, and noticed by the right people.
Yes, she will have worked hard to get where she is, but there will be people just as talented as she is that will never get anywhere because they are not seen. A lot of success in creative industries is down to networking.

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hers will be a short lived career she certainly won’t be doing it at 50, she will have to restart again.

XenoBitch · 27/11/2025 02:19

Catpuss66 · 27/11/2025 02:12

But she must of worked hard to get the job she has you don’t by luck gets jobs like that. As she sees it she got out why shouldn’t others do the same.

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XenoBitch · 27/11/2025 02:15

Everyone gets a say. It does not matter about their earnings, be it £100k or on benefits.

Catpuss66 · 27/11/2025 02:12

Dennien · 26/11/2025 21:51

She grew up in council houses with low income parents so I’m shocked at her lack of empathy if I’m totally honest.

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But she must of worked hard to get the job she has you don’t by luck gets jobs like that. As she sees it she got out why shouldn’t others do the same.

FullOfMomsense · 27/11/2025 02:10

The classic "only poor people get to whinge and complain" argument. Great!

CamillaMcCauley · 27/11/2025 01:36

So your niece grew up in and out of care, lost her dad and paternal grandparents at a young age, then literally hauled ass to make something of herself…. And you think she’s not entitled to an opinion about the budget.

shhblackbag · 27/11/2025 01:12

Wheresmatty · 26/11/2025 22:10

So, she placed herself in all the right rooms then. Did you?

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Honestly, good for her.

shhblackbag · 27/11/2025 01:06

Last I checked people were still allowed an opinion, on account of living in a democracy with free speech. Who do you actually think you are?

Is it all young women who shouldn't get to have an opinion, or just those who earn a higher salary than you?

PollyBell · 27/11/2025 01:01

So why on earth do you think you may have more right you made your choices and she made hers I presume she is not bitter and gets on with her own life?

Firefly1987 · 27/11/2025 01:00

If you can't be carefree and have plenty of disposable income at 26 then when can you? She's enjoying it whilst she can. Can't believe you'd be so petty as to be envious of (I assume) a much younger woman just because she doesn't have the responsibilities you have-by choice!

Dita73 · 27/11/2025 00:59

No one forced you to have 3 kids. You’ve got a massive chip on your shoulder

WithDiamonds · 27/11/2025 00:57

Everyone gets a say plus growing up in poverty does not a socialist make.

@JHound Same here, grew up with it all, managed to get away from it.

HoppingPavlova · 27/11/2025 00:50

How utterly silly. Of course she ‘gets a say’. That’s what living in a democracy where you get to vote enables. You only want people who hold the same beliefs and have the same experiences as you to vote and get a say in how the country is run🙄. Do you realise how you sound and come across?

Also, who cares what her job is or how she got it? It has absolutely nothing to do with anything. Nor does the fact that she likely pays more tax than you do!

McSpoot · 27/11/2025 00:50

Dennien · 26/11/2025 21:48

The issue is she wasn’t willing to listen to my perspective as someone who is struggling financially. Most of the things mentioned will have no impact on her at all, she doesn’t drive, doesn’t have children, earns well, doesn’t have student loan debt etc.
The only thing that was relevant to her was the cash Isas but she said herself she already puts all her savings in a stocks and shares ISA so no change, and the salary sacrifice will impact her but that’s years away.

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And you've shown yourself so very willing to listen to other perspectives...

ProcrastinatorsAnonymous · 27/11/2025 00:43

Could not disagree with her more, but she gets a say - just like everyone else. Sounds like she had a difficult childhood, but it's a shame she hasn't developed a bit more empathy or imagination.

Carandache18 · 27/11/2025 00:27

And she has pulled herself up from all that, and you think she has no right to an opinion and sneer at her hard work and call it luck?
You should be ashamed.

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