What would you say? I was stumped!

I think its "faux confusion" to make a passive aggressive statement about that.

Why is everyone acting like she can’t just be a housewife? People do still do that

Agreed, if he is happy to have his spouse not work, then fair play to them.

Not sure why you’re getting so much flack for a true statement.

I agree with you - asking what your partner does for work is a perfectly normal thing, if you think it's safe enough to ask. Asking people if they have a partner, also normal. It's called chit-chat. This said, the older I get, the less I want to know, and I've never cared all that much either way. People will tell me what they want to know.

Added to which, I was once in a terribly embarrassing situation with a woman who was paying me to do a job...she began telling me about a situation her friend was in, and I can't begin to describe the size of all the fucks I couldn't have given, but never the less, she was a client, so I listened and at one point said "goodness, you wouldn't imagine anyone doing that knowing it would catch up with them", only to be told off majorly for asking personal questions about her friend and that there's no way she'd have told her friends anything about me like I had asked. I think a part of my brain died that day. 😫

Well the wife might not have either - until she had to.

I think you were being a bit low empathy not to have considered that tbh.

... people like op ...

Yes it's normal. I don't understand why it's confusing. You asked about her work, he said she doesn't work as she is preparing for a baby, you asked when it was due, he said she isn't pregnant yet.

I know I can be seen as cold and uncaring, but if a new starter had told me that, I wouldn't be interested enough to give it more headroom, other than to consider that this might be a hugely sensitive topic for him (and that it also might not be) and to let him be the one who mentions it next. People say all sorts of things in place of "mind your own business". People also embellish and infer...I remember someone asking a person I knew how far away from his home was his workplace. He said "oh it's an hour and a halves drive". Which it may have been. Fact was, he couldn't drive and spent the best part of three hours each morning trying to get there on two busses. Sometimes people just don't like the facts getting in the way of a good story.

It’s a northerner thing I think 😂

We mean no harm but our customs may seem strange to some 👽

Or he could have just replied that they dont work which would have been the end of the conversation

When “you are/you’re” not even pregnant. Maybe she’s at home educating herself so she can be a great mother. Maybe she’s unwell. Maybe she sits around eating bonbon’s all day. No one else’s business.

We are all judgemental as creatures - however, some of us have the sense to keep it in our own heads.

Being at home doesn't mean you're doing nothing. Housewives we're the norm 50 years ago, even before children.

And you’re not judgey??

Op you were totally normal in your conversation.

I would have found it odd about being at home preparing for a baby when your not even pregnant. Iv never met anyone who has stayed at hime for fertility treatment as mentioned on here

Yes, it probably is just you.

Shes the home maker....they're trying for first baby they may be struggling and having to go down fertility treatment

Some people prefer traditional roles and traditional living which is fine

Let's hope they are happy

Why he so rude and judgy ... And to then make a post to laugh at them further

She opened herself up to judgement.

Tbf I would consider that friendly conversation and getting to know a co-worker a little better, just small talk. No harm meant by it although if he looked or seemed uncomfortable at all I’d change the subject. I wouldn’t consider it weird if someone asked me what my partner did for work but maybe that’s just me 🤷🏼‍♀️

That's by far the most judgemental post in this thread. 😂

In some cultures, yes. What I admire though, is that he’s supporting his partner . That’s beautiful x

I was also going to say that the conversation sounded vaguely flirty from OPs end….

What an odd conversation! You for the whole serving eggs at work weirdness and him for saying she’s preparing for the baby but isn’t even pregnant yet.
Yeah it might be fertility treatment?
Or maybe adoption?

More likely you just caught him off guard and he had a bit of a brain fart!

It's an ugly thing (and frankly, fucking weird) to accuse anyone of a 'mortal sin' when you have no idea whatsoever if they're committing it.

Why would op hate their job?

I think this thread shows that. Also she could have a medical condition that means she can't work or it would be very difficult to work but he just met you so might not want to disclose her private medical information.

This. Not sure why you were "stumped". He's just saying his wife doesn't work.

Lucky lady.