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To keep our council property when we can technically buy?

236 replies

HungaryForLove · 26/11/2025 17:25

Hi all,

My partner and I are TTC and thinking about our future. Ideally, after I have a baby I only want to work maximum 2 days weekly so I can be around for our kids, and also save on childcare costs. Partner earns about £35k/year before tax/pension, and we have around £16k in savings. We wouldn’t be claiming UC, just child benefit.

We currently live in a council house that my partner grew up in — he inherited it when his mum moved abroad. It’s a 3-bedroom house. Rent is £480/month. The estate is fine, some people are bit rough around the edges but they never give us any trouble and there’s actually a nice community. I regularly walk to the local shop at night and never feel unsafe. It’s full of young families.

The alternative is buying a 3-bedroom house (we need 3 bed as want 2 DC and I often WFH), which seems to start around £160,000 here and with the 10% deposit of £16,000 our savings would go back down to £0 with no buffer for house maintenance, car issues, maternity leave etc. Also with a 30-year mortgage (we’d need 30 years to be able to afford the monthly payments) at 4.35% interest, I’d realistically need to work 4–5 days a week just to cover costs. I am currently only earning £26,000 full-time. Working so many days would mean barely seeing our kids and only taking home less than £1000 anyway after childcare, and that’s with taking into account the 30 free hours as you still end up paying hundreds a month anyway (I know this from my sister who uses our local nursery 4 days a week for her son who is soon changing to 2 days as she will pay nothing then).

If we stay in the council house, we could comfortably manage on one full-time income and one very part-time income and retain over £10,000 in savings (that would otherwise go on house deposit) to get us through maternity leaves etc, and the a portion of the money we’d otherwise spend on mortgage interest we would invest. Even considering rent going up a few percent per year, we’d still be much more comfortable.

So, AIBU for wanting to stay put in our inherited council house for now, even though we could technically afford to buy? I’m not saying we would stay forever but at least until the expensive childcare years are over, and maybe by then mortgage rates will have become more reasonable and I could go back to working full-time and we’d only be paying wrap-around care.

I do appreciate we are in a fortunate position to be even able to make this choice. Me and DP did grow up in severe poverty, I had alcoholic gambling addict parents and DP is originally from a very deprived country which his DM has moved back to and neither of us will inherit anything. Just to add context.

OP posts:
Trumpisacunt · 26/11/2025 19:52

Can you not exercise your right to buy ? Buy the property that you are in with the discount and then sell in 5 years and move to a better area ?

PeonyPatch · 26/11/2025 19:51

PyongyangKipperbang · 26/11/2025 19:44

Something being cheaper than what a private landlord charges does not make it subsidised FFS! It just means that they are not having to service mortgages on the properties AND trying to make a profit on top as the BTL lot do. They are charging what they can charge and still keep the properties maintained etc. They are non profit making, so as a result can afford to charge lower rent.

That people pay more in the private rental market is not the fault of the OP and you and other tax payers are not paying a penny towards her rent!

I don’t care - it shouldn’t be a choice. It should be for those who need it.

PyongyangKipperbang · 26/11/2025 19:47

This attitude of "I can't have that, so you shouldnt have it either" is so depressing.

Its envy plain and simple.

PyongyangKipperbang · 26/11/2025 19:44

PeonyPatch · 26/11/2025 19:27

I can’t believe OP even had the audacity to ask this question. Social housing ought to be for those who truly need it. It shouldn’t be inherited either. I’m sure there are plenty of people out there who don’t have £16k in the bank who could do with somewhere to live. Meanwhile, the rest of us working population have to pay proper rent and mortgage. You pay subsidised rent, it’s not the same.

Something being cheaper than what a private landlord charges does not make it subsidised FFS! It just means that they are not having to service mortgages on the properties AND trying to make a profit on top as the BTL lot do. They are charging what they can charge and still keep the properties maintained etc. They are non profit making, so as a result can afford to charge lower rent.

That people pay more in the private rental market is not the fault of the OP and you and other tax payers are not paying a penny towards her rent!

Another2356 · 26/11/2025 19:42

Your best future will be to aspire to own your own home, yes it may take a lifetime to get there BUT being at the mercy of a government or council who can change the rules (& eligibility) year to year is a difficult future to contemplate. Wait until interest rates are a bit better, continue to save but don’t loose sight of a home ownership dream, owning your own home will empower you and free you. It will provide you and your family security, but timing is everything. ….. move at your own pace BUT move.

DisforDarkChocolate · 26/11/2025 19:42

AutumnLeavesandKnittedJumpers · 26/11/2025 17:29

Of course you are. Why should taxpayers subsidise your family?

You do know buying a house isn't compulsory?

Umy15r03lcha1 · 26/11/2025 19:38

Stay put for now. If you go down the purchase route you might be putting yourself into poverty, especially if you plan to have children and take into account how much it costs to raise kids.

Twoshoesnewshoes · 26/11/2025 19:32

HungaryForLove · 26/11/2025 17:35

I have considered this. The way I see it though is that the reduced rent is what allows many people to otherwise support themselves and stay off needing further benefits. There’s loads of people in council housing who can technically afford to buy or private rent but if you kick them out of the council housing they will end up needing support in other ways in the future as they could only afford mortgage/private rent by the skin of their teeth. If we were to buy now we’d end up with no savings or safety buffer, all it would take is for DP to have an accident at work and become disabled for us to be thrown back under the poverty line and needing UC, or would only take the car or boiler breaking down for us to end up needing a £5000 loan which would then spiral.

we have no intention of ever claiming housing benefit.

Edited

This is true for lots and lots of people

gamerchick · 26/11/2025 19:30

Not tonight satan Grin

AInightingale · 26/11/2025 19:28

hatgirl · 26/11/2025 18:39

So do people who privately rent?

Council Housing was never intended to be just for poor people on benefits. The idea was to provide good quality housing stock for the population.

It's actually really important that there are a mix of income levels and societal groups in council/social housing.

Yes, plus the rent that is paid is ploughed back into the council budget so they can improve housing stock. Half of the people on this thread seem to want social housing to be occupied entirely by people on benefits. I wonder if they're aware of how much social security fraud goes on when people are claiming HB etc - concealing the fact you live with a partner, subletting? Maybe they should get angry about that? OP and her partner are honest rent-paying tenants!

PeonyPatch · 26/11/2025 19:27

I can’t believe OP even had the audacity to ask this question. Social housing ought to be for those who truly need it. It shouldn’t be inherited either. I’m sure there are plenty of people out there who don’t have £16k in the bank who could do with somewhere to live. Meanwhile, the rest of us working population have to pay proper rent and mortgage. You pay subsidised rent, it’s not the same.

PeonyPatch · 26/11/2025 19:26

HoskinsChoice · 26/11/2025 18:12

The OP is a very long post so I'll summarise. Despite being able to afford to be independent of the state, you would like to live in a tax payer supported house that you don't need so that you can give up work whilst blocking the use of the property for someone who actually needs it.

Yes, thats unreasonable and immoral. You know that otherwise you wouldn't have asked. Do the right thing.

(And if you won't do it for someone who needs it, do it for yourself. There is nothing that is economically sensible about renting instead of buying).

This

Minnie798 · 26/11/2025 19:24

I'm not sure.
It sounds like it would be a bit of a stretch to buy a house now.
But on the other hand, becoming a home owner isn't going to get any cheaper. If you wait a few years , house prices may well increase and the extra money you save between now and then may mean you have the same % of deposit as you do now.
You've also 'lost ' a few years where you could have been paying towards a mortgage. If you include the 'dead money' you're paying out in rent as well, it soon adds up.
If the ultimate aim is to become a homeowner, the sooner you do it the better tbh. You don't want to still have a mortgage in your late 60's and the longer you leave it to get on the property ladder, the more likely that will be.

Florencesndzebedee · 26/11/2025 19:06

Not ethical in my opinion but can’t you buy it? You’d get a bit of a discount and at least you’d have something to pass on to your kids. If you wait too long, you might get priced out (although not much chance of that happening at the moment).

bigsisteriswatchingyou · 26/11/2025 19:05

HungaryForLove · 26/11/2025 17:25

Hi all,

My partner and I are TTC and thinking about our future. Ideally, after I have a baby I only want to work maximum 2 days weekly so I can be around for our kids, and also save on childcare costs. Partner earns about £35k/year before tax/pension, and we have around £16k in savings. We wouldn’t be claiming UC, just child benefit.

We currently live in a council house that my partner grew up in — he inherited it when his mum moved abroad. It’s a 3-bedroom house. Rent is £480/month. The estate is fine, some people are bit rough around the edges but they never give us any trouble and there’s actually a nice community. I regularly walk to the local shop at night and never feel unsafe. It’s full of young families.

The alternative is buying a 3-bedroom house (we need 3 bed as want 2 DC and I often WFH), which seems to start around £160,000 here and with the 10% deposit of £16,000 our savings would go back down to £0 with no buffer for house maintenance, car issues, maternity leave etc. Also with a 30-year mortgage (we’d need 30 years to be able to afford the monthly payments) at 4.35% interest, I’d realistically need to work 4–5 days a week just to cover costs. I am currently only earning £26,000 full-time. Working so many days would mean barely seeing our kids and only taking home less than £1000 anyway after childcare, and that’s with taking into account the 30 free hours as you still end up paying hundreds a month anyway (I know this from my sister who uses our local nursery 4 days a week for her son who is soon changing to 2 days as she will pay nothing then).

If we stay in the council house, we could comfortably manage on one full-time income and one very part-time income and retain over £10,000 in savings (that would otherwise go on house deposit) to get us through maternity leaves etc, and the a portion of the money we’d otherwise spend on mortgage interest we would invest. Even considering rent going up a few percent per year, we’d still be much more comfortable.

So, AIBU for wanting to stay put in our inherited council house for now, even though we could technically afford to buy? I’m not saying we would stay forever but at least until the expensive childcare years are over, and maybe by then mortgage rates will have become more reasonable and I could go back to working full-time and we’d only be paying wrap-around care.

I do appreciate we are in a fortunate position to be even able to make this choice. Me and DP did grow up in severe poverty, I had alcoholic gambling addict parents and DP is originally from a very deprived country which his DM has moved back to and neither of us will inherit anything. Just to add context.

I would stay and save

breezyyy · 26/11/2025 18:51

hatgirl · 26/11/2025 18:39

So do people who privately rent?

Council Housing was never intended to be just for poor people on benefits. The idea was to provide good quality housing stock for the population.

It's actually really important that there are a mix of income levels and societal groups in council/social housing.

I was being sarcastic. It’s the usual comment made towards people living in council housing.

andthat · 26/11/2025 18:45

god stay put! It sounds like you'd have a great work life balance and wouldn't be putting yourself under financial stress!

HungaryForLove · 26/11/2025 18:43

MissMoneyFairy · 26/11/2025 18:42

Do the council know you are living there and what your joint incomes are

Yes.

OP posts:
MissMoneyFairy · 26/11/2025 18:42

HungaryForLove · 26/11/2025 17:28

His mum was disabled and on a very low-income and he joined the tenancy as soon as he was old enough and paid the majority of the rent. When she moved home to Eastern Europe he told the council and expected to be kicked out but they let him stay so long as he continued to pay the rent.

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Do the council know you are living there and what your joint incomes are

hatgirl · 26/11/2025 18:39

breezyyy · 26/11/2025 17:51

But they get free kitchens and stuff!

So do people who privately rent?

Council Housing was never intended to be just for poor people on benefits. The idea was to provide good quality housing stock for the population.

It's actually really important that there are a mix of income levels and societal groups in council/social housing.

DownThePubWithStevieNicks · 26/11/2025 18:27

Imisscoffee2021 · 26/11/2025 17:53

Wow 160k is nothing, I wish I could get a 3 bed house for that.

It’s nothing to you (or me for that matter) but OP has explained why that’s right at the top of her budget so how is this comment useful in any way?!

Prelim · 26/11/2025 18:27

I don’t think you’re exploiting the system at all, but personally I would look to move. I would want to build up the equity in a property, it’s an investment in your future. I would also be wary of dropping too many days at work. Think of yours and your children’s future. Having that extra money, the equity, a pension, also the ability to support yourself if god forbid something happened between you and your partner.

WanderlustMom · 26/11/2025 18:25

Stay where you are and build up your savings for a few more years, especially if it means you’ll be able to work part time and spend more time with your baby Smile

mumofoneAloneandwell · 26/11/2025 18:25

I think that posts like these are false and intended to do the job of nigel farage for him

Anybody with sense wouldnt be posting about this, they would keep quiet and live in peace in their forever council home 🙄🙄

Yabu.

PyongyangKipperbang · 26/11/2025 18:23

HoskinsChoice · 26/11/2025 18:12

The OP is a very long post so I'll summarise. Despite being able to afford to be independent of the state, you would like to live in a tax payer supported house that you don't need so that you can give up work whilst blocking the use of the property for someone who actually needs it.

Yes, thats unreasonable and immoral. You know that otherwise you wouldn't have asked. Do the right thing.

(And if you won't do it for someone who needs it, do it for yourself. There is nothing that is economically sensible about renting instead of buying).

Please explain why you believe that their house is "tax payer supported".

I would love to know where you have got that from!

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