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Absolutely rinsed in this budget - almost £1k a year worse off.

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Mushroo · 26/11/2025 13:43

Honestly in despair at this government. On a very high level calc, we are so much worse off!

We both pay a lot into pensions, so the NI change is about £700 a year worse off.

We have an EV car, so based on our 4k a year mileage, it’s about £120 a year. (Although how it will be enforced I have no idea).

Stagnating tax thresholds, probably about £100 a year between us.

Council tax F house (4 bed end terrace, not a mansion, needs renovating). So risk of revaluation after having paid a fortune in stamp duty. We didn’t get first time buyer stamp duty relief because we bought about 2 years too early, and we moved before Covid so no relief there either. So overall we’ve paid about £30k in stamp duty already over our lifetime.

Weve already had the private school hit (which is a separate debate and we’ve accepted that) but wow, we are just being kicked on all sides.

We are classic ‘middle earners’ - earn about £70k each, but have mahoosive mortgage and pay over £2k a month in nursery fees already.

Every measure just seems to have a negative effect on our lifestyle, which is ‘comfortable’ but increasingly squeezed.

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frozendaisy · 26/11/2025 14:29

Mushroo · 26/11/2025 14:07

Our take home is c.£7k
Nursery fees £2k
Mortgage £2.5k
Commute x 2 £500
Food / petrol / misc £600
Council tax, bills £500
clothes, activities for family of 4 per month: £200

Leaves £700pcm for ALL savings, so holidays, Xmas, birthdays, emergency fund.

Like I say, we’re comfortable, but we absolutely watch every single penny and £84 a month is a lot to us! And not the lifestyle I would imagine if you told me what we earn. It’s just hard working full time, in a high pressure job, not seeing the kids.

Genuinely thinking of leaving the SW, buying a cheap house, and taking a part time job as I’d be less stressed, see the kids more and be about the same per month!

We do it then @Mushroo make the changes you have the choice to do to make your work life balance better

lifeonthelane · 26/11/2025 14:29

HelloGreen · 26/11/2025 13:52

You’re not a middle earner.

I was just about to say this. I appreciate your frustrations - but you are definitely both higher earners.

Mildura · 26/11/2025 14:28

80smonster · 26/11/2025 14:21

The house is worth 2 million +? Council tax band rises only apply to houses of that value.

Edited

Not much of it makes a huge amount of sense!

helpfulperson · 26/11/2025 14:28

Mumsknot · 26/11/2025 13:52

Pension changes aren’t till 2029 and hopefully by then there will be an election and this bunch of clowns will be out for the next one

A closer look shows actually many of the changes are after the date for the next election.

Hellohelga · 26/11/2025 14:28

Third person today with household income well over £100k moaning about money. I suppose that show RR did indeed deliver a Labour budget. If you are worried about your house breaching £2m forgive me if I don’t cry you a river.

MiddleAgedDread · 26/11/2025 14:28

Mushroo · 26/11/2025 14:18

Honestly, the point here isn’t that we’re poor or struggling. It’s that the whole budget has absolutely nothing to offer.

We aren’t millionaires, we just have reasonable jobs, long hours and a decent family house.

We just have lifestyle erosion, which most people do, but we seem to have been hit very hard in this particular budget. Which is hard when you do all the ‘right’ things and don’t have much to show for it each month.

I hear you! It feels like on these sort of salaries we should be able to have a better lifestyle whereas it's a constant degradation in lifestyle. I'm genuinely no better off now than when I earned half of what I do now because salary increases never go up in line with inflation. with a household income of £140k a year it should be possible to send your kids to private school and live in a nice house but in reality many people can't.

Crikeyalmighty · 26/11/2025 14:27

The only people I can see getting worked up about this appear to have houses worth more than £2 million, can afford to do salary sacrifice of a fair amount, and maybe have EVs - the amount anyone can earn/receive before paying any tax as far as I can see is one of the highest in Europe-( believe me I know this stuff from when we looked to move around Brexit and little has changed) - some countries it really is next to nothing and offsets are£4to £5k at most. So my heart isn’t exactly bleeding - personally I would have banged 2p on basic rate too, but took the higher rate level to £55k which isn’t exactly a fortune these days.

no one it seems wants to mention positive things like business rates , or energy costs.

The only thing I don’t agree with at all ( and I’m a centre left voter) is the child numbers cap - I might have upped it to 3 at most -

80smonster · 26/11/2025 14:27

randomchap · 26/11/2025 14:25

Maybe she took out a 100 year mortgage

If so I’d like OP’s broker details.

Slothisavirtue · 26/11/2025 14:26

EuroTour · 26/11/2025 13:52

Considering the top 10% earn more than 59,000 a year, I'm struggling to believe you're in the squeezed middle. You take home 8.5k a month between you...

I mentioned this on another thread. I earn £60k yet have the same net income as a fellow single mother with the same number of children who works 16 hours a week and gets tax credits (no DLA/PIP etc, just basic credits for working PT even though she has been offered full time work)

And I don't have any student loan deductions so someone else on the same salary may be worse off

soupforbrains · 26/11/2025 14:26

I have a slightly higher salary than you. Neither you nor I are middle earners. You’re deluded.

80smonster · 26/11/2025 14:26

BIossomtoes · 26/11/2025 14:24

Not with mortgage payments of £2.5k a month - unless she paid a £1.5 million deposit.

Yes precisely. We can’t afford a 2 mill house with a larger income. Didn’t add up to me…

TillyTrifle · 26/11/2025 14:25

CloudSky · 26/11/2025 14:22

I don’t understand why you think the council tax thing will impact you? Unless your house is worth over £2.5 million, in which case - no sympathy 😂

As I understand it they will identify the homes worth £2million plus by re-valuing all band F, G and H homes for the first time since 1991. While many of those won’t be worth £2million (certainly where I live there are plenty of Band F homes worth under 1 million, the re-valuation hanging overhead could make potential buyers of those homes pause and wonder things like is it going to be re-banded to G which there have been lots of rumours about doubling council tax for? I think it’s just generally uncertainty about whether anything will change for those properties as a result which might make owners or potential owners nervous and make them harder to sell.

I think, I may be wrong!

Crambino · 26/11/2025 14:25

Your choice to take on a ‘mahoosive mortgage’ and pay school fees, these are privileges not entitlements 🤷‍♀️
Not much sympathy here, sorry 🎻

randomchap · 26/11/2025 14:25

BIossomtoes · 26/11/2025 14:24

Not with mortgage payments of £2.5k a month - unless she paid a £1.5 million deposit.

Maybe she took out a 100 year mortgage

camelfinger · 26/11/2025 14:25

It will be easier once you don’t have nursery fees. I assume you mean that you were considering private school but now aren’t, as that would be way more, and unaffordable before the budget announcement and probably even before VAT changed.

This budget was always going to be a difficult one, and it’s always hard to balance the needs of people who’ve made poor choices but live in poverty, people who work hard but live in poverty, people who still work hard but have slightly better houses and cars, and really high earner who pay loads of tax but earn so much that they live in luxury.

I’ll probably be worse off but have a sufficient standard of living so I’ll be ok, as I think you will. I hope that it will improve the overall living standards as a population so that there is less inequality, as a widening gap doesn’t help us.

AnneShirleyBlythe · 26/11/2025 14:24

Frankinator · 26/11/2025 14:00

You don’t say what bit of the public sector - but if you’re husband is a teacher then he can’t make pension contributions via salary sacrifice so it will make absolutely no difference.

No salary sacrifice scheme in NHS either. A quick Google seems to say govt doesn’t allow salary sacrifice in public sector schemes.

MilleniumOyster · 26/11/2025 14:24

frozengrapes1 · 26/11/2025 13:50

🎻

I wonder what this "end terrace" looks like...

BIossomtoes · 26/11/2025 14:24

80smonster · 26/11/2025 14:21

The house is worth 2 million +? Council tax band rises only apply to houses of that value.

Edited

Not with mortgage payments of £2.5k a month - unless she paid a £1.5 million deposit.

sunflowersnturnips · 26/11/2025 14:23

Big hugs OP. I understand how you can be objectively “well off” but still feel stretched and stressed. Deep breaths. You’ll find a way to make it work.

CurlewKate · 26/11/2025 14:23

Mushroo · 26/11/2025 13:43

Honestly in despair at this government. On a very high level calc, we are so much worse off!

We both pay a lot into pensions, so the NI change is about £700 a year worse off.

We have an EV car, so based on our 4k a year mileage, it’s about £120 a year. (Although how it will be enforced I have no idea).

Stagnating tax thresholds, probably about £100 a year between us.

Council tax F house (4 bed end terrace, not a mansion, needs renovating). So risk of revaluation after having paid a fortune in stamp duty. We didn’t get first time buyer stamp duty relief because we bought about 2 years too early, and we moved before Covid so no relief there either. So overall we’ve paid about £30k in stamp duty already over our lifetime.

Weve already had the private school hit (which is a separate debate and we’ve accepted that) but wow, we are just being kicked on all sides.

We are classic ‘middle earners’ - earn about £70k each, but have mahoosive mortgage and pay over £2k a month in nursery fees already.

Every measure just seems to have a negative effect on our lifestyle, which is ‘comfortable’ but increasingly squeezed.

I think you are stretching the definition of “middle earners”

FlappicusSmith · 26/11/2025 14:23

And btw, I totally get where you're coming from. It sucks to work hard and not get to reap the rewards you think you have earned/ deserve.

But the country is fucked financially and while Labour aren't exactly covering themselves in glory when it comes to running the country, they inherited a shit show and this economic situation is global - so there's huge limits on what they (or any govt) could actually do to make it better...

Addictforanex · 26/11/2025 14:23

russiandol · 26/11/2025 14:21

Why aren’t the private school fees in your budget OP?

Probably because they are planned future costs when her nursery aged DC starts school.

sprigatito · 26/11/2025 14:23

TillyTrifle · 26/11/2025 14:20

This. Mumsnet just hates people who are doing ok in life and can’t bear to hear a word of complaint about all these shit policies that are designed to discourage ambition and hard work, from people who have the audacity not to be on minimum wage. It’s embarrassing to read.

This is another hackneyed Tory myth. The truth is that hardly anyone on MN is on minimum wage. Most of those on this thread who think OP is being crass and selfish are also financially very comfortable and will be paying a healthy tax bill. They just aren’t Tories, so they don’t resent paying their fair share.

Aposterhasnoname · 26/11/2025 14:23

Mushroo · 26/11/2025 14:07

Our take home is c.£7k
Nursery fees £2k
Mortgage £2.5k
Commute x 2 £500
Food / petrol / misc £600
Council tax, bills £500
clothes, activities for family of 4 per month: £200

Leaves £700pcm for ALL savings, so holidays, Xmas, birthdays, emergency fund.

Like I say, we’re comfortable, but we absolutely watch every single penny and £84 a month is a lot to us! And not the lifestyle I would imagine if you told me what we earn. It’s just hard working full time, in a high pressure job, not seeing the kids.

Genuinely thinking of leaving the SW, buying a cheap house, and taking a part time job as I’d be less stressed, see the kids more and be about the same per month!

Maybe sack the expensive kitchen remodel off then

CloudSky · 26/11/2025 14:22

I don’t understand why you think the council tax thing will impact you? Unless your house is worth over £2.5 million, in which case - no sympathy 😂