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Jumping to conclusions on potentially bitchy behaviour?

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Coloursyrue · 26/11/2025 13:35

Sorry to use the word bitchy, I just actually couldn’t think of another word.

I was friends with three women, I was invited into the group by one of them. Years passed and I did things with them individually and as a group. I honestly thought I was friends with the other two.

Main friend decided she didn’t want to be my friend anymore (never said anything to me). I later asked one of the other two if she wanted to meet for dinner (she lives 3 hours away I was in her city for work) and she made an excuse.

They all went out and posted lots of photos together. I just didn’t react. I felt it was a shame that none could say if there was a problem, or if I’d done something to upset them, as I’d at least like to apologise but I accepted you don’t always get an explanation. in life.

I’ve moved on, it’s been a few months, I’m living my life, I have other friends around me. I then noticed a missed call from one of other two. I just text saying “sorry I’ve just seen this” - she quickly said “my phones been a nightmare and keeps randomly calling people”

I just don’t believe it … Aibu? Am I reading too much into this? I don’t think they care about losing my friendship from how they’ve acted but … I think sometimes not getting a reaction annoys people?

OP posts:
Dollymylove · 26/11/2025 14:27

It all sounds a bit schoolgirlish. Concentrate on your other friendships and bin the ones who dont bother with you x

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Coloursyrue · 26/11/2025 13:50

Palourdes · 26/11/2025 13:41

I’m not entirely sure what you’re asking —whether it wasn’t a pocket dial? That she’d phoned you because she was annoyed at you not reacting to the fact that they went out without you? Who knows? My phone is ancient and does do random pocket dials. It phoned a builder I employed eight years ago, and a defunct soft play in a town I used to live in.

I think I’d be more concerned at the loss of the proper friend, the one who introduced you to the other two. How do you know she decided she no longer wanted to be your friend if she didn’t tell you?

It wasn’t a pocket dial.

And because she made it very obvious.

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Palourdes · 26/11/2025 13:41

I’m not entirely sure what you’re asking —whether it wasn’t a pocket dial? That she’d phoned you because she was annoyed at you not reacting to the fact that they went out without you? Who knows? My phone is ancient and does do random pocket dials. It phoned a builder I employed eight years ago, and a defunct soft play in a town I used to live in.

I think I’d be more concerned at the loss of the proper friend, the one who introduced you to the other two. How do you know she decided she no longer wanted to be your friend if she didn’t tell you?