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To ask childminder not to bring DS to playgroup

107 replies

Mynumberone · 26/11/2025 10:04

So we have a wonderful childminder, our DS is 15 months and started with childminder 5 months ago. Cannot fault her and DS loves her.

Childminder is great at bringing DS to playgroups which we love but would I be unreasonable to ask her not to bring him for a couple of weeks before Christmas. I really don't want DS picking up a bug or virus for Christmas.

He has had a few colds, nothing major and childminder has kept him of playgroup until he recovered.

OP posts:
Peopleareworried · 26/11/2025 10:07

Agree if just yours then fine to ask, if others also there then no, you shouldn't as other parents may still want their child to go.

Mynumberone · 26/11/2025 10:07

He is the only child.

OP posts:
ArchieStar · 26/11/2025 10:07

If he is her only then you can have a conversation around viruses etc, if he is one of several then YABU.

twolittles · 26/11/2025 10:07

If he’s the only toddler she has then yes it is perfectly reasonable to request this

Oreosareawful · 26/11/2025 10:06

Unless he's the only child she looks after of course you can't!

TomatoSandwiches · 26/11/2025 10:06

I beg your pardon?!

OneOfEachPlease · 26/11/2025 10:05

Is he the only child with her or does she have several children? If the latter, I think I’m afraid you are being unreasonable because it won’t just affect him.