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Present for 80-year old dear old Taddy...

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Arlanymor · 25/11/2025 21:19

So my lovely Dad is turning 80 and 'doesn't want anything'.

Yeah right!

I'm now heading there for the whole weekend... Saturday I will bake him some Anzac biscuits the morning and then we'll watch the rugby on the telly in the afternoon (note to self: pack wine). Sunday we're going out for lunch at a nice hotel and I'll sort out a cake.

So he's being semi-spoiled... for someone who didn't want something it's now a busy two days! I'm going to get him a signed book to open at the end of the day which I will pop under his pillow so it's his last fun thing of the weekend. But am stumped on something for him to open on the day. He plays golf but already has everything he needs for that, all the clothes and pyjamas and slippers and sock he needs...

I was thinking like an animal adoption type thing - maybe a rhino or a sloth?! Ideally in Wales so I can take him to visit it at some point. But any other ideas? I'm drawing a blank as this week is manic for me and I won't have much time to sort anything out now that we are actually marking the occasion (as of lunchtime today when I got a phone call!)

Any ideas gratefully appreciated!

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Rictasmorticia · 26/11/2025 11:45

Get a small hard back book and write on the front “reasons why I love you”
Then write something on each page, include days out you’ve had,presents you received or any thing else that will show him how much you care about him.

Ormally · 26/11/2025 10:49

The Six Nations Songbook has bailed me out on a couple of occasions! Not sure it's still printed but I got copies on the big book site beginning with A. It's a little and compact book. Several languages represented and directions for the Haka in the back, IIRC.

AsACloud · 26/11/2025 10:35

Hi @Arlanymor
My Dad had his 80th last year and also didn’t ’want a fuss’…then wore his 80th badge and t shirt all day and was chuffed when wished a Happy Birthday 😂 we bought him a 1945 word search (words of the year he was born) and he loved it https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/1915611210?psc=1&ref=ppx_pop_mob_b_asin_title

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Flannelfeet · 26/11/2025 07:15

Arlanymor · 25/11/2025 23:48

I am so, so, so sorry that is the roughest thing. Such unfairness and hardness. And we met talking about sandals online. New year is massive with you guys isn't it? We just send bone horses around the town like it's completely normal! Can I drop you a line to say hello, celt to celt? If not it's totally fine.

Thank you. Thats very kind to say. Yes it is although I save myself for the new years cooking of dinner for family these days so hongmanay im lucky if I make it to midnight 😆 🤣. What is a bone horse? Ive never heard of it?. Of course you can 😃

GlasvegasGirl · 26/11/2025 00:01

Arlanymor · 25/11/2025 22:28

See I was going to - new tees etc. but with this back issue and the fact he couldn't play today I think it would make him more grumpy than anything. I was thinking of a new Welsh rugby shirt but we're not covering ourselves in glory either at the moment, so same issue = grumpy!

Thank you though, I probably sound cantankerous, I promise I am not being, he is just a tricky Tad! I might just get him a hundred bags of Percy Pigs at this rate - he loves those... but is trying to lose weight, so again no! This year is difficult!

You don’t sound cantankerous at all lol. My dad is the same age and gives the same chat. He’s 80 in April so brother and I have decided on box at the football for him and brother and some friends - food comes with.
Then a wee party at his bowling club. It’s all a surprise and definitely will be cos bro lives abroad and had already booked flights for a month before the big birthday (not thinking it all through!). But I know he’d definitely still like the new football shirt or scarf.
I reckon the new Wales top would be well received. He’s not ditching them now!

Although Percy Pigs are also a solid bet 👌🏻

Arlanymor · 25/11/2025 23:48

Flannelfeet · 25/11/2025 23:01

Awww thats amazing, I bet she will love that, its an interesting gift. We lost mum in 2018, 3rd of jan, 2 days before her 63rd birthday so its not a good time of year for us, my dad has pretty much written off new year since then which is strange with it being a big thing here in Scotland. The crap that life thows at us just shows us the value of our loved ones. ❤️

I am so, so, so sorry that is the roughest thing. Such unfairness and hardness. And we met talking about sandals online. New year is massive with you guys isn't it? We just send bone horses around the town like it's completely normal! Can I drop you a line to say hello, celt to celt? If not it's totally fine.

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stonebrambleboy · 25/11/2025 23:47

The Woodland Trust plant a tree in his name. They send you a certificate.

Arlanymor · 25/11/2025 23:43

Mabobsleigh · 25/11/2025 23:10

You can adopt animals at Folly Farm, sounds like that's local to you if you're popping down to withybush retail park for a dress..😜

What I did for my Mum on her 70th - they're in Roch! I'm in Swansea, I think your TK Maxx is better than ours - jealous! 😢

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TipsyMaker · 25/11/2025 23:42

You can adopt both sloths and rhinos at Folly Farm and it's a great day out 🦏 🦥

Arlanymor · 25/11/2025 23:40

TheSandgroper · 25/11/2025 23:08

My 90 year old dad has a jam sandwich for lunch every day so last Christmas I got him six jams from various markets and he loved it!

My dad is a little PITA in his old ago - sometimes he likes marmalade, sometimes he doesn't. He is a spread pain! If he was consistent then totally and thank you so much for the option. He is a day to day changer... rrrraarrgggh!

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Arlanymor · 25/11/2025 23:37

TeenLifeMum · 25/11/2025 22:57

I’d say a heated blanket - old people are often cold (as am I so I dread to think what I’ll be like at 80 but I live my heated blanket at 43).

That is such a good call, because he has a big thing about the house being warm enough, I am dumb for not thinking of it! Thank you!!! Honestly, this is a brilliant idea. Diolch.

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Arlanymor · 25/11/2025 23:36

caramac04 · 25/11/2025 22:55

i have bought my 80 yr old relative a pack of 2 motion sensor plug in night lights. They are dual purpose as it splits apart and the bit not plugged in becomes a torch.
I think they will like them
as useful for in the hallway by the bathroom.

That's such a thoughtful idea and ironically they have them for the cats! Thank you for sharing though as I think his bedside touch lamp is a bit rubbish and want to get him a different one - thank you!💕

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Mabobsleigh · 25/11/2025 23:10

You can adopt animals at Folly Farm, sounds like that's local to you if you're popping down to withybush retail park for a dress..😜

TheSandgroper · 25/11/2025 23:08

My 90 year old dad has a jam sandwich for lunch every day so last Christmas I got him six jams from various markets and he loved it!

Flannelfeet · 25/11/2025 23:01

Arlanymor · 25/11/2025 22:51

We're really grateful as despite his latest ailment we had a scary time three years ago - but here he still is! Oh amazing that your dad's is on Christmas Day - oh happy birthday him! My Mam is on the 23rd believe it or not! 77 this year! She hates her birthday being so close to Christmas, really does, she we do little things on the day and then between Christmas and New Year make a fuss!

Totally poor Dad not getting a day of his own - I learned early on not to put birthday presents and Christmas ones in the same paper because my Mam hated it! This year I'm taking her to meet some alpacas - no wrapping required!

Awww thats amazing, I bet she will love that, its an interesting gift. We lost mum in 2018, 3rd of jan, 2 days before her 63rd birthday so its not a good time of year for us, my dad has pretty much written off new year since then which is strange with it being a big thing here in Scotland. The crap that life thows at us just shows us the value of our loved ones. ❤️

TeenLifeMum · 25/11/2025 22:57

I’d say a heated blanket - old people are often cold (as am I so I dread to think what I’ll be like at 80 but I live my heated blanket at 43).

caramac04 · 25/11/2025 22:55

i have bought my 80 yr old relative a pack of 2 motion sensor plug in night lights. They are dual purpose as it splits apart and the bit not plugged in becomes a torch.
I think they will like them
as useful for in the hallway by the bathroom.

Arlanymor · 25/11/2025 22:51

Flannelfeet · 25/11/2025 22:46

Im sure whatever you wear will be lovely and your wee dad will be happy to see you. 80 is a good age to be celebrating and tou will make it a good one for him im sure. Ive still got a few years to go till my dad is 80, wonder what is can plan for that one as his birthday is Christmas day!! 🤣 poor dad not getting a day for his own.

We're really grateful as despite his latest ailment we had a scary time three years ago - but here he still is! Oh amazing that your dad's is on Christmas Day - oh happy birthday him! My Mam is on the 23rd believe it or not! 77 this year! She hates her birthday being so close to Christmas, really does, she we do little things on the day and then between Christmas and New Year make a fuss!

Totally poor Dad not getting a day of his own - I learned early on not to put birthday presents and Christmas ones in the same paper because my Mam hated it! This year I'm taking her to meet some alpacas - no wrapping required!

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Flannelfeet · 25/11/2025 22:46

Arlanymor · 25/11/2025 22:40

So lovely of you to say - thank you so much, what kindness. 😍

I appreciate it. Diolch o galon as we say in my parts! (I've not worn the dress yet as bought it in a FatFace sale in Glastonbury in August... testing it out at a Nick Helm show in Swansea on Thursday night... if it doesn't fit I can run to Haverfordwest TK Maxx to find an alternative on my way to him on Friday night!!)

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Im sure whatever you wear will be lovely and your wee dad will be happy to see you. 80 is a good age to be celebrating and tou will make it a good one for him im sure. Ive still got a few years to go till my dad is 80, wonder what is can plan for that one as his birthday is Christmas day!! 🤣 poor dad not getting a day for his own.

Arlanymor · 25/11/2025 22:40

Flannelfeet · 25/11/2025 22:37

Aww thats sounds gorgeous. You're dad will be proud 🥰. Hope you both have a lovely weekend together.

So lovely of you to say - thank you so much, what kindness. 😍

I appreciate it. Diolch o galon as we say in my parts! (I've not worn the dress yet as bought it in a FatFace sale in Glastonbury in August... testing it out at a Nick Helm show in Swansea on Thursday night... if it doesn't fit I can run to Haverfordwest TK Maxx to find an alternative on my way to him on Friday night!!)

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Flannelfeet · 25/11/2025 22:37

Arlanymor · 25/11/2025 22:29

Very true and probably a bit chilly to get my trotters out in West Wales this weekend! Planning on wearing a silver dress with heels and he will probably fall over because I am usually such a scruff bag!

Aww thats sounds gorgeous. You're dad will be proud 🥰. Hope you both have a lovely weekend together.

Arlanymor · 25/11/2025 22:29

Flannelfeet · 25/11/2025 22:24

Whatever you do,do not wear the sandals!!! 🤣🤣🤣. Just a safety precaution.

Very true and probably a bit chilly to get my trotters out in West Wales this weekend! Planning on wearing a silver dress with heels and he will probably fall over because I am usually such a scruff bag!

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Arlanymor · 25/11/2025 22:28

GlasvegasGirl · 25/11/2025 22:14

When I asked my brother what to get for an ex years ago he said ‘football stuff’ (for his team). I said he already has everything.
My brother said - yes but new stuff is always NICE to have. Maybe a new wee golfing thing wouldn’t go amiss.

See I was going to - new tees etc. but with this back issue and the fact he couldn't play today I think it would make him more grumpy than anything. I was thinking of a new Welsh rugby shirt but we're not covering ourselves in glory either at the moment, so same issue = grumpy!

Thank you though, I probably sound cantankerous, I promise I am not being, he is just a tricky Tad! I might just get him a hundred bags of Percy Pigs at this rate - he loves those... but is trying to lose weight, so again no! This year is difficult!

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Flannelfeet · 25/11/2025 22:24

Whatever you do,do not wear the sandals!!! 🤣🤣🤣. Just a safety precaution.

GlasvegasGirl · 25/11/2025 22:14

When I asked my brother what to get for an ex years ago he said ‘football stuff’ (for his team). I said he already has everything.
My brother said - yes but new stuff is always NICE to have. Maybe a new wee golfing thing wouldn’t go amiss.

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