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Shitty note from new Neighbours after moving in

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Laylamum2 · 25/11/2025 18:19

We moved house on Friday - have had a hectic few days trying to sort things and have this week off work thankfully.

There is one bathroom in the house and this is upstairs at the front of the house which faces our driveway. Next to the driveway is a neighbours house directly opposite.

The seller has taken all blinds out of the property as is their right and we’ve spent today putting some new ones up, including in the bathroom.

Yesterday, a note got put through our door:

”Get blinds for your bathroom, we don’t want to see you having a shit”

The window is frosted but I assume at night with the light on you can see in.

This was obviously from our neighbours opposite. AIBU to say they went about this in a rude way? They could have sent a politer note or knocked on the door.

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Loloj · 25/11/2025 20:14

I’d post a letter back to them in an envelope addressed to the homeowner (with their note) stating that you suspect this rude note is written by a teenager or child so you wanted to make them aware. Most adults wouldn’t be so unwelcoming and rude to their new neighbours so you wanted to let them know. You can then mention that you were in the process of putting up new blinds as the previous owner had taken them so apologies if they saw any unwanted shapes through the frosted glass.

This way if it was a silly teenager the adults would be mortified and likely apologise to you for the note when they see you. If not then they are clearly dicks and you will know they are dicks so you can just ignore them.

itsmeafterall · 25/11/2025 20:13

I'd wipe my bum with the note the next time I was having a shit 😂

JudgeJ · 25/11/2025 20:10

YodasHairyButt · 25/11/2025 18:21

Completely ignore them, it’ll drive them nuts.

And don't be in a hurry to replace the blind!

EllaPaella · 25/11/2025 20:06

Maybe now you know why the previous owners moved house! 😢

CaptainMyCaptain · 25/11/2025 20:05

WinterHangingBasket · 25/11/2025 19:21

Someone with appropriate IT skills would very quickly be able to scale this into a window sized image, laminate and attach to the window. Hopefully image makes it through the filters. 🤦🏻‍♀️

caganer.com a most unusual website/store in Spain!

Edited

That's a character from a Spanish nativity scene. I think he's there to show how lowly and humble the stable was.

Caganer: A Crappy Spanish Christmas Tradition Explained https://share.google/xL4fLMgS3SwmxwpEp

LemaxObsessive · 25/11/2025 20:02

Please, please. Do the flashing Xmas lights thing in the bathroom 🙏 If you don’t, they’ll continue with the ‘anonymous’ notes for every single tiny thing you do/don’t do which annoys them even slightly.

WinterHangingBasket · 25/11/2025 20:01

Or even just a giant 💩 emoji sticker.
Available from eBay in a range of sizes to suit the window and visibility from neighbour's distance.

AlexisP90 · 25/11/2025 20:00

Ergh total assholes.

Ignore and if youre feeling particularly petty and vindictive take down all blinds you've just put up (downside they may see you on the toilet but im probably petty enough to do that...)

Skyflyinghigh · 25/11/2025 20:00

ThreeSixtyTwo · 25/11/2025 19:17

YABU
I'd suppose you wanted to know.
And I'd see a short informal note as much easier for both parties than talking face to face about this.

Yes, the wording might be a bit better, but the message was there- the frosted glass isn't enough.
They had no way of knowing you were planning the blinds for the next day.

You are the neighbour aren’t you….? 😂

Flowerlovinglady · 25/11/2025 19:59

I've found one with a line: "he sees you when you're pooping" and you can fill in the rest.

theDudesmummy · 25/11/2025 19:57

I would think they are real arseholes, but bear in mind that people can change/could be going through something and behaving uncharacteristically. Before we moved into our house we were having some trees cut down and needed to move our car briefly into the driveway opposite to let the equipment come through. Our first introduction to the neighbour was him shouting at us that we should get out of his driveway. We have since all become good friends and it transpires that he was having a very bad day that day, his girlfriend had left him and he had been drinking all night. He's a sweetie really.

That is probably not the case here though!

MomOfTwoGirls2 · 25/11/2025 19:57

c3pu · 25/11/2025 18:40

Change your WiFi access point name to "WATCH-ME-SHIT"

Edited

2 mins later and I’m still laughing at this. Hilarious!

Nevernonono · 25/11/2025 19:56

ChattyGeePeaTea · 25/11/2025 18:24

Say nothing, but get a window sticker of a shitting Santa for the bathroom window.

Please do this!!

ruethewhirl · 25/11/2025 19:51

CandyCaneKisses · 25/11/2025 18:32

Wow.
Welcome to the neighbourhood.

I would keep hold of it incase they keep sending them.

Agree.

Flowerlovinglady · 25/11/2025 19:49

Ignore it, it's completely unreasonable - you are entitled to do bathroom stuff in your bathroom with or without blinds. Why are they watching your bathroom - if I saw someone doing bathroom stuff in a bathroom without a blind, I would avert my gaze as any normal person would! Just be cheery when you see them and move on.

BakedBeing · 25/11/2025 19:48

Netcurtainnelly · 25/11/2025 18:56

Terrible advice, Firstly you dont knowits them and secondly how.might they retaliate.

You sound about 12 years old with that advice.
Do nothing OP. You dlnt have to react.

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I think they were joking 😊

DeanStockwell · 25/11/2025 19:43

Littletreefrog · 25/11/2025 18:27

My sensible self would ignore them. You have blinds now and really they should have been more patient and nicer.

My petty self would put some incredibly bright flashing Christmas lights up at that window in the hope it annoyed them. But you probably shouldn't do this as having a feud with neighbours is horrible.

@StarShapedWindow You two would either be great mates or arch enemies 🤣🤣

therewasafishinthepercolator · 25/11/2025 19:41

I do like that wifi idea. 😆

Oh, and I'd be taking that as a green light to take your sweet time putting that new blind up.

GinToBegin · 25/11/2025 19:40

On the bright side, they’ve shown you who they are, so at least you know nice and early that they’re colossal bell ends.

CheekyChickenFucker · 25/11/2025 19:38

Tell them you have mirrors on your windows to reflect the sun out and they're actually watching themselves shit.

SoMuchBadAdvice · 25/11/2025 19:37

Laylamum2 · 25/11/2025 19:20

We haven’t actually seen our opposite neighbours yet so not sure exactly who lives there. There is a Range Rover Evoque which hasn’t left the drive, that’s all I do know!

We have met both neighbours either side of us who are lovely thankfully.

In spite of my previous post I wouldn't go making enemies yet. Who do you think posted the note through your letterbox? My guess isn't your neighbour opposite, but someone who hates your neighbour opposite.

Don't become some Troll's tool.

AyrshireTryer · 25/11/2025 19:34

Of course ignore the note

or

Pop a shit in a box and leave it on their doorstep.

Isittimeformynapyet · 25/11/2025 19:34

Catiette · 25/11/2025 18:28

I'd said to maybe bear in mind that this could have been kids messing around (also unacceptable - but it'd be mortifying to get it that wrong about the neighbours before you even meet!) I bet when you do eventually meet the neighbours you'll instantly have a strong feeling for it it was them or not.

Edited

I agree with you, but apparently there's no fun in that.

TheAutumnCrow · 25/11/2025 19:33

The OP has put blinds up.

It is literally in the OP.

The seller has taken all blinds out of the property as is their right and we’ve spent today putting some new ones up, including in the bathroom.

Yesterday, a note got put through our door:

”Get blinds for your bathroom, we don’t want to see you having a shit”

Ladygardenerinderby · 25/11/2025 19:32

absolute twats chuck it in the bin and blank them you don’t want anything to fo with nutters like that.