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Shitty note from new Neighbours after moving in

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Laylamum2 · 25/11/2025 18:19

We moved house on Friday - have had a hectic few days trying to sort things and have this week off work thankfully.

There is one bathroom in the house and this is upstairs at the front of the house which faces our driveway. Next to the driveway is a neighbours house directly opposite.

The seller has taken all blinds out of the property as is their right and we’ve spent today putting some new ones up, including in the bathroom.

Yesterday, a note got put through our door:

”Get blinds for your bathroom, we don’t want to see you having a shit”

The window is frosted but I assume at night with the light on you can see in.

This was obviously from our neighbours opposite. AIBU to say they went about this in a rude way? They could have sent a politer note or knocked on the door.

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Bumblebee72 · 25/11/2025 20:52

Requesting blinds so they can't see you doing a shit seems pretty reasonable. It could be worse they could thanked you the show and encouraged you not to get blinds so they can keep watching.

Not sure I would look to try and fall out with neighbours over it.

WinterHangingBasket · 25/11/2025 20:51

CaptainMyCaptain · 25/11/2025 20:05

That's a character from a Spanish nativity scene. I think he's there to show how lowly and humble the stable was.

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That may be where they originated as a concept. However, the image I added is a fridge magnet version from the website I failed to properly link. There are loads of them and having been to the store, it is far beyond just being a nativity thing.

https://caganer.com/en/category/96-merchandising

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Nanatobethatsme46 · 25/11/2025 20:51

Loloj · 25/11/2025 20:14

I’d post a letter back to them in an envelope addressed to the homeowner (with their note) stating that you suspect this rude note is written by a teenager or child so you wanted to make them aware. Most adults wouldn’t be so unwelcoming and rude to their new neighbours so you wanted to let them know. You can then mention that you were in the process of putting up new blinds as the previous owner had taken them so apologies if they saw any unwanted shapes through the frosted glass.

This way if it was a silly teenager the adults would be mortified and likely apologise to you for the note when they see you. If not then they are clearly dicks and you will know they are dicks so you can just ignore them.

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Hahaha this is perfect!!!!! Love it

mistyeveningponder · 25/11/2025 20:50

Ah, but this is the perfect opportunity to have some fun. Get a cardboard cut out and put it directly in the window in a funny position (just like in home alone) and then leave the light on and go to bed. 🤪

RescueMeFromThisSilliness · 25/11/2025 20:50

If ever there was a time for buying a 10 inch cactus shaped like a willy and keeping it on your bathroom windowsill, this is it.

Notashamed13 · 25/11/2025 20:49

I can feel a giant printed turd emoji coming on....outward facing on the frosted window of course💩

Pog166 · 25/11/2025 20:48

Dangerous to assume it was the neighbour. Quite possibly someone out to make trouble for them or an unconnected passer-by who didn't actually see anything except the absence of blinds.

Nanatobethatsme46 · 25/11/2025 20:47

Laylamum2 · 25/11/2025 18:19

We moved house on Friday - have had a hectic few days trying to sort things and have this week off work thankfully.

There is one bathroom in the house and this is upstairs at the front of the house which faces our driveway. Next to the driveway is a neighbours house directly opposite.

The seller has taken all blinds out of the property as is their right and we’ve spent today putting some new ones up, including in the bathroom.

Yesterday, a note got put through our door:

”Get blinds for your bathroom, we don’t want to see you having a shit”

The window is frosted but I assume at night with the light on you can see in.

This was obviously from our neighbours opposite. AIBU to say they went about this in a rude way? They could have sent a politer note or knocked on the door.

How rude!!!! People can be vile and theres no need for it
We had new windows put in and had the bathroom widow frosted , i assumed it was frosted so no one could see in how wrong was i , at night with the light on the neighbours could see everything so i assume yours were the same
Doesnt make for a good first experience of them does it
Ignore it now theres blinds up and ignore them too

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 25/11/2025 20:45

I’d be opening my window and farting as much as possible 😆
they don’t have to look damn poo troll neighbours.

PodMom · 25/11/2025 20:42

You need to put this in your window

https://www.amazon.co.uk/ZOUBAOQ-Pooping-Christmas-Bathroom-Farmhouse/dp/B0DNQX1GPJ

Shitty note from new Neighbours after moving in
ScreamingBeans · 25/11/2025 20:41

LOL at shitty note.

Saw what you did there

RescueMeFromThisSilliness · 25/11/2025 20:36

IaltagDhubh · 25/11/2025 18:26

Cut out big letters and stick them on the window so that when you turn the light on in the bathroom it reads from outside “STOP WATCHING US SHIT YOU WIERDOS”. Would give you a little privacy until you are able to get around to fitting blinds too.

😂😂😂

I've been feeling ill all day and this has just given me the best laugh!

StewkeyBlue · 25/11/2025 20:34

Not necessarily the neighbours opposite.

Could have been passing teens, or cranking kids?

I would go and knock opposite, introduce yourselves , show them the note, be friendly and say “did you see who put this through our door? We’re worried we’ve caused a scandal, and it’s a bit unnerving to get such a note’ and see what they say.

If it’s them: call their bluff.
If it wasn’t them: a shame to live with suspicion and hostility

TrippingOverMyAssets · 25/11/2025 20:32

Well obviously you wipe your bum on the note then stick it through their door.

ticktickticktickBOOM · 25/11/2025 20:28

That note is so hilarious as a moving in 'welcome' that I think I'd frame in 'home sweet home' type frame and put it up in said bathroom

Farmwifefarmlife · 25/11/2025 20:25

ChattyGeePeaTea · 25/11/2025 18:24

Say nothing, but get a window sticker of a shitting Santa for the bathroom window.

Definitely

Glindaa · 25/11/2025 20:25

c3pu · 25/11/2025 18:40

Change your WiFi access point name to "WATCH-ME-SHIT"

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best response! 😂

CalmShaker · 25/11/2025 20:25

Please don't think I'm being intrusive op but I noticed you mentioned the bathroom light was on and therefore your husband was passing motion at night? Is his fibre levels ok? usually going to the bathroom later in the day is not as good routine as going in the morning.

2021x · 25/11/2025 20:24

Put a blind up that has a big picture of a turd on it everytime you put down for privacy

Ionlymakejokestodistractmyself · 25/11/2025 20:22

Have loud sex out the bathroom window

stichguru · 25/11/2025 20:20

To be honest I found the note quite funny! I think they were being quite light hearted. I wouldn't want the neighbours to see me going to the toilet, so I'd be pleased that they had let me know that they could without blinds. As the "see-ers" though, I'd be worried that something more formal like "please get some good blinds for your bathroom, as currently we can see you sitting on the lavatory" might make the new neighbours feel that I thought they were trying to show me! I think their wording is quite good for "we know you don't mean any harm, but we think it's only fair we let you know we can see you, because it's probably a rather embarrassing situation for all of us."

Ilovepastafortea · 25/11/2025 20:20

randomchap · 25/11/2025 18:24

Only shit with the windows open and make inappropriate grunts, like you're trying to pass a melon

Totally this, 😂😂

opencecilgee · 25/11/2025 20:19

They sound classy!

LBFseBrom · 25/11/2025 20:17

CarefullyCuratedFurniture · 25/11/2025 18:21

Anonymous notes are only written by nutters, and thus go straight in the bin. Dont give it another thought.

I agree.

They were insensitive - and downright rude!

ChikinLikin · 25/11/2025 20:16

Catiette · 25/11/2025 18:28

I'd said to maybe bear in mind that this could have been kids messing around (also unacceptable - but it'd be mortifying to get it that wrong about the neighbours before you even meet!) I bet when you do eventually meet the neighbours you'll instantly have a strong feeling for it it was them or not.

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This is true.
It could have been written by a silly teenager.