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Shitty note from new Neighbours after moving in

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Laylamum2 · 25/11/2025 18:19

We moved house on Friday - have had a hectic few days trying to sort things and have this week off work thankfully.

There is one bathroom in the house and this is upstairs at the front of the house which faces our driveway. Next to the driveway is a neighbours house directly opposite.

The seller has taken all blinds out of the property as is their right and we’ve spent today putting some new ones up, including in the bathroom.

Yesterday, a note got put through our door:

”Get blinds for your bathroom, we don’t want to see you having a shit”

The window is frosted but I assume at night with the light on you can see in.

This was obviously from our neighbours opposite. AIBU to say they went about this in a rude way? They could have sent a politer note or knocked on the door.

OP posts:
Vitriolinsanity · 25/11/2025 22:24

c3pu · 25/11/2025 18:40

Change your WiFi access point name to "WATCH-ME-SHIT"

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Bungle2168 · 25/11/2025 22:23

I do not believe you.

ReadingSoManyThreads · 25/11/2025 22:20

I'd have to pop a reply through there door.

"Noted, but the previous owner told us you were into coprophilia. Apologies for the miscommunication."

GingerPaste · 25/11/2025 22:12

Don’t put the blinds up! 😂💩

RollOnSunshine · 25/11/2025 21:58

I would purposefully remove the bathroom blind again to wind them up.

HangingOver · 25/11/2025 21:54

Mrs Over the Back once sent her adult granddaughter round with a message to tell us to paint our house.

DailyMaui · 25/11/2025 21:50

heartofsunshine · 25/11/2025 18:48

Zappas famous "toilet poster" in the window, facing them.

yes! get this made into a blind.

MaryWesmacott · 25/11/2025 21:41

Please, please post when you meet them and tell us what they're like!

MN2025 · 25/11/2025 21:39

Laylamum2 · 25/11/2025 18:19

We moved house on Friday - have had a hectic few days trying to sort things and have this week off work thankfully.

There is one bathroom in the house and this is upstairs at the front of the house which faces our driveway. Next to the driveway is a neighbours house directly opposite.

The seller has taken all blinds out of the property as is their right and we’ve spent today putting some new ones up, including in the bathroom.

Yesterday, a note got put through our door:

”Get blinds for your bathroom, we don’t want to see you having a shit”

The window is frosted but I assume at night with the light on you can see in.

This was obviously from our neighbours opposite. AIBU to say they went about this in a rude way? They could have sent a politer note or knocked on the door.

You really do get nosey Norris’ - obviously someone opposite. Not an issue now you have blinds.

shuggles · 25/11/2025 21:36

All of the people saying to ignore the letter are missing the fact that the neighbours will still be able to see OP shitting...

WonderingWanda · 25/11/2025 21:35

Well they soundreally thick and unbelievably rude. Who greets their new neighbours like that? In fact who would complain to neighbours about what they can see through a frosted window?

newnamehereonceagain · 25/11/2025 21:30

Oh dear. We had new neighbours and the man didn’t realise we could see into his bathroom. I decided I should casually ask them to let us know about OUR bathroom, as ‘it would be so mortifying for us if they could see into it’. Oh no, it’s absolutely fine, they said with a happy smile. You needn’t worry.

I was then stumped for a few months.

nomoremsniceperson · 25/11/2025 21:26

Not just rude but a completely bonkers note to write. Ask your other neighbours and see if they've had similar experiences.

Creamcakeries · 25/11/2025 21:23

The posted glass doesn't always help. Our neighbours have frosted glass in their downstairs bathroom and we can see what they're doing even during the daytime and the toilet is by the window. We don't want to see it but it's gone on too long now to say anything. I just look away.

The note from neighbour in that way was unnecessary though. They could've written it in a more considered just to let you sort of way. The fact that they posted a note rather than speaking directly to you shows you that thye probably won't confront you directly with anything so don't let it get to you.Enjoy your new home.

Friendlygingercat · 25/11/2025 21:19

Every cloud has a silver lining. At least now you know that one of your neighbours is a bell end and a trouble maker. They are also a sneak and a coward. In your place I would keep my cards close to my chest and do nothing. Continue to use your bathroom as normal and see what happens,

A neighbour once left a note on my gate when I turned down her request to do something. She asked me to think it over and let her know. It was put back through her door in one of those old fashioned envelopes with a black border. The Victorians used them for mourning. The note was ripped into small pieces. I guess she got the message because they never knocked at my door again.

I am well known on here for hating neighbours and avoiding them whenever possible.

ColaWars · 25/11/2025 21:19

Ablushingcrow · 25/11/2025 21:16

My DH had a stroke 3 weeks ago and I've been under so much stress, but this comment has made me laugh! Thanks!

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Aw you’re very welcome my friend. Hope DH makes a full recovery ❤️‍🩹

Ablushingcrow · 25/11/2025 21:16

ColaWars · 25/11/2025 18:31

You could wipe your shitey bum on the note and pop it back through their letterbox?

My DH had a stroke 3 weeks ago and I've been under so much stress, but this comment has made me laugh! Thanks!

PorridgeAndSyrup · 25/11/2025 21:16

My sympathies... it doesn't sound like they are very nice people...

We had a similar situation where one of our windows directly looked into our neighbours' bathroom, and they did not have blinds for a brief while when decorating, meaning at night we could see the silhouettes of them showering and sitting on the toilet through the frosted glass. We did the decent thing and looked away. It's not hard.

GrandmasCat · 25/11/2025 21:09

We had something like that, a nasty neighbour joking that she was celebrating hat we had got blinds. We had frosted glass, which thought it was ok but it kind of wasn’t, you could still see us “blob version” no definition so we were half annoyed/half grateful some one had the nerve to let us know.

Namechangerage · 25/11/2025 21:06

ChattyGeePeaTea · 25/11/2025 18:24

Say nothing, but get a window sticker of a shitting Santa for the bathroom window.

Haha best idea 🤣

Howdoyoudodoyoudo · 25/11/2025 21:03

Laylamum2 · 25/11/2025 18:19

We moved house on Friday - have had a hectic few days trying to sort things and have this week off work thankfully.

There is one bathroom in the house and this is upstairs at the front of the house which faces our driveway. Next to the driveway is a neighbours house directly opposite.

The seller has taken all blinds out of the property as is their right and we’ve spent today putting some new ones up, including in the bathroom.

Yesterday, a note got put through our door:

”Get blinds for your bathroom, we don’t want to see you having a shit”

The window is frosted but I assume at night with the light on you can see in.

This was obviously from our neighbours opposite. AIBU to say they went about this in a rude way? They could have sent a politer note or knocked on the door.

The fact they put an anonymous note through the door instead of knocking and maybe saying “ I don’t know if you are aware but you can see in your window when you are in the bathroom , I thought I would let you know to save you embarrassment “ shows the type of people they are. Ignore them.

PurpleNebula84 · 25/11/2025 20:57

ChattyGeePeaTea · 25/11/2025 18:24

Say nothing, but get a window sticker of a shitting Santa for the bathroom window.

I'd do this too 😂😂

Nanatobethatsme46 · 25/11/2025 20:57

CalmShaker · 25/11/2025 20:25

Please don't think I'm being intrusive op but I noticed you mentioned the bathroom light was on and therefore your husband was passing motion at night? Is his fibre levels ok? usually going to the bathroom later in the day is not as good routine as going in the morning.

Honestly i dont think anyone cares when they shit as long as they shit 🤣 the big problem is when you dont shit for days then theres a problem

mummybear2104 · 25/11/2025 20:56

Was it definitely the neighbour could it just be someone else messing around who has walked past?

fishfingerbutty · 25/11/2025 20:53

Agree with PPs who said just ignore completely.
Don’t give them the oxygen of your attention.