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Shitty note from new Neighbours after moving in

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Laylamum2 · 25/11/2025 18:19

We moved house on Friday - have had a hectic few days trying to sort things and have this week off work thankfully.

There is one bathroom in the house and this is upstairs at the front of the house which faces our driveway. Next to the driveway is a neighbours house directly opposite.

The seller has taken all blinds out of the property as is their right and we’ve spent today putting some new ones up, including in the bathroom.

Yesterday, a note got put through our door:

”Get blinds for your bathroom, we don’t want to see you having a shit”

The window is frosted but I assume at night with the light on you can see in.

This was obviously from our neighbours opposite. AIBU to say they went about this in a rude way? They could have sent a politer note or knocked on the door.

OP posts:
NormasArse · 26/11/2025 08:12

ColaWars · 25/11/2025 18:31

You could wipe your shitey bum on the note and pop it back through their letterbox?

😂

Thunderpants88 · 26/11/2025 05:29

Post it back in their letterbox and say nothing

Bromptotoo · 26/11/2025 04:40

Doggielovecharlotte · 25/11/2025 18:26

surely no one can see you once your on the loo as your below window height

also frosted wouldn’t allow people to see what you are doing lights on or not - just a blur of colour

Depends on the layout.

Used to work in an early 20th century building with a lightwell down the middle.

Female lav on other side to my office and a floor below had windows down from close to the ceiling to a couple of feet above floor level. There should have been a 'modesty board' from window cill to head height but it was removed during a refurb and not replaced.

You didn't need imagination to work out what ladies were doing or, if you knew them, who they were. Not just sitting on the throne but with one leg on the seat clearly inserting a tampon.

Took several calls to facilities before it was sorted.

Okthenguys · 26/11/2025 04:24

This would probably make me laugh. I’d frame it and put it in my bathroom! But if it’s upsetting you I’d throw it away and ignore.

StruggleFlourish · 26/11/2025 03:26

Just for fun, hang a large "poop emoji" image in your bathroom window for a day or two. 💩

Fairgamer · 26/11/2025 01:40

He could had said politely. Your neighbour is a bit crazy and I won't lie, I chuckled.

My only advice is smile and nod to this kind of people. If they can be rude this way what else can they escalate for random things. Not worth the time.

Booboobagins · 26/11/2025 00:48

Oh dear you've got AH neighbours.

Laugh it off and steer clear.

Merida46 · 26/11/2025 00:39

Scan the note and print off enough large copies to hang on lampposts around the neighbourhood. You could also get one of these light boxes, arrange the letters to read SHITTING, PLEASE WAIT then sit it in the window when you use the toilet.

Shitty note from new Neighbours after moving in
GlitzAndGigglesx · 26/11/2025 00:22

I'd smear Nutella across the window but I'm petty like that. In one of my childhood homes if I looked out a certain window I'd often see a woman sat on the bog. You know what I did? Turned my head

BatshitOutofHell · 26/11/2025 00:09

If they have blinds on their bathroom window how can they see into yours? Nosey bastards.

Franjipanl8r · 26/11/2025 00:02

I’d want a mannequin staring out of the window to make it look like you’re naked just standing there all day watching them.

notallymcbeal · 26/11/2025 00:01

It's not necessarily the neighbour over the road though. We were driving once and saw someone using their toilet as we drove towards their house (they were facing a T junction). They had a massive window that did have a blind on it (my husband sold and fitted it!) but hadn't pulled it down when it got dark and had their lights on. They obviously had no idea that their privacy glass is totally transparent once the light is on. We put a note through (although much more polite) just to let them know. I'm sure they must have been mortified, but sometimes it helps to have this pointed out.

However whoever sent this to you is totally out of order for the horrible language used.

**edited as I didn't realise you'd put blinds up yourself. Unless you've fitted blackout blinds they will usually still be see through with a light on.

Twinkletoes127 · 25/11/2025 23:46

Am I the only person who would remove the new blind and purposely stand in the buff, with the light on to really give them something to look at?

SENcatsandfish · 25/11/2025 23:19

Oh I see some clever shadow shows being created 🤣.

Tying your shoelaces whilst your OH puts things into the cupboard

Northquit · 25/11/2025 23:14

Get a blind with an image that looks like someone sat in the bathroom

Terrytheweasel · 25/11/2025 23:13

I’d be purchasing a strobe light on next day delivery ready to direct at their house from my bathroom window with immediate effect. What nutters. Why are they looking at your bathroom window?

ChocolateCinderToffee · 25/11/2025 23:11

Howdoyoudodoyoudo · 25/11/2025 21:03

The fact they put an anonymous note through the door instead of knocking and maybe saying “ I don’t know if you are aware but you can see in your window when you are in the bathroom , I thought I would let you know to save you embarrassment “ shows the type of people they are. Ignore them.

A polite anonymous note would have been ok ‘just to let you know, people can see into your bathroom, you might want to put a blind up’. No need to be rude about it.

GoodQueenWenceslaus · 25/11/2025 22:59

Leave the blinks open with a large two-finger sign in front of the window.

AlphonsaAlpaca · 25/11/2025 22:55

My neighbours are frequently naked in their bathroom in full view of half the street. No curtains or blinds, all tall, and at night their lights are all on and it’s the only thing you see if you happen to glance outside. I wouldn’t dream of sending them a note. They are a horrible family who hang out in the garden until 4am screaming and shouting and blaring loud music.

LakieLady · 25/11/2025 22:54

heartofsunshine · 25/11/2025 18:48

Zappas famous "toilet poster" in the window, facing them.

It would be fab if you could get that image printed on a roller blind, and hang it in the bathroom with the image facing out!

EmeraldShamrock000 · 25/11/2025 22:51

They're weirdos, now you know why the house was sold.
All bathrooms are the same around here, most people have blinds but I've seen people shaving, plucking eyebrows, drying naked after the shower, sitting presumably on the loo, I've never once considered mentioning it.
Our ex neighbours, 4 men had no blinds.
Start the way you mean to go on, ignore them otherwise they will continue to irritate you.

Jessica5432 · 25/11/2025 22:50

i wonder if this is why previous people moved

swingingbytheseat · 25/11/2025 22:49

Maybe it was kids mucking about

DoYouThinkYouCouldTell · 25/11/2025 22:47

@Charlize43 , I would go with bog paper, maybe with some 'special effects ' on it 😂😂

Happyjoe · 25/11/2025 22:28

We've a run of houses opposite and can see them use their loo as it's out the front. Even saw the dad having a cheeky wank one night. Told hubby, we had a laugh, then we just got on with my day, nobody has to look and certainly not outraged enough to write a note.

Some people are just too whiny for the sake of it. Ignore your new neighbours and good luck with getting your lovely home just as you like it.