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Shitty note from new Neighbours after moving in

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Laylamum2 · 25/11/2025 18:19

We moved house on Friday - have had a hectic few days trying to sort things and have this week off work thankfully.

There is one bathroom in the house and this is upstairs at the front of the house which faces our driveway. Next to the driveway is a neighbours house directly opposite.

The seller has taken all blinds out of the property as is their right and we’ve spent today putting some new ones up, including in the bathroom.

Yesterday, a note got put through our door:

”Get blinds for your bathroom, we don’t want to see you having a shit”

The window is frosted but I assume at night with the light on you can see in.

This was obviously from our neighbours opposite. AIBU to say they went about this in a rude way? They could have sent a politer note or knocked on the door.

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Oliviaaa2 · 26/11/2025 18:10

Poodlelove · 26/11/2025 18:08

Any normal person would wait , you are obviously just moving in.
On the other hand if you don't want blinds up I don't see why you have to.
They don't need to look.
I can see man opposite in the shower and I know he knows and does it on purpose, he is young and fit.

You Herbert!

Only joking, can you PM me your address please

crumpet · 26/11/2025 18:09

Well the plus side is that at least you know your window was see through and can avoid exposing yourself in the future. Also the neighbours may become embarrassed once they do get to know you!

Poodlelove · 26/11/2025 18:08

Any normal person would wait , you are obviously just moving in.
On the other hand if you don't want blinds up I don't see why you have to.
They don't need to look.
I can see man opposite in the shower and I know he knows and does it on purpose, he is young and fit.

Tessabelle74 · 26/11/2025 18:07

I'd take the blind back down again because I'm a petty twat

Oliviaaa2 · 26/11/2025 18:06

Curl one out on their doorstep when they are next out. Bonus points if you have a curry the night before.

Judecb · 26/11/2025 18:04

Horrible of them, and not the greatest start as neighbours. I'd kill them will kindness (bring flowers of a bottle) and suggest you all start again. You'll be next door to each other for a long time!! 😕

Casperroonie · 26/11/2025 17:57

Laylamum2 · 25/11/2025 18:19

We moved house on Friday - have had a hectic few days trying to sort things and have this week off work thankfully.

There is one bathroom in the house and this is upstairs at the front of the house which faces our driveway. Next to the driveway is a neighbours house directly opposite.

The seller has taken all blinds out of the property as is their right and we’ve spent today putting some new ones up, including in the bathroom.

Yesterday, a note got put through our door:

”Get blinds for your bathroom, we don’t want to see you having a shit”

The window is frosted but I assume at night with the light on you can see in.

This was obviously from our neighbours opposite. AIBU to say they went about this in a rude way? They could have sent a politer note or knocked on the door.

Hahaha what nutcases!!! I'd be tempted to have a petty moment, print out a massive poo emoji and put it on the window 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Blades2 · 26/11/2025 17:55

My petty self would be taking the bathroom blind back down and holding on to my shits until it’s good and dark.
the nerve of some people.

ThatGentleCoralCat · 26/11/2025 17:17

ChattyGeePeaTea · 25/11/2025 18:24

Say nothing, but get a window sticker of a shitting Santa for the bathroom window.

100% the only way of dealing with this 🤣🤣

Easterchicken · 26/11/2025 17:16

Post back to them saying stop bloody looking then

They don't need to stare at your house

DevonMum123 · 26/11/2025 17:08

Oh dear, doesn't bode well for your future there. They are obviously massive a holes.

Theslummymummy · 26/11/2025 17:03

Pathetic. I had similar, apart from they had the balls to come round and say it. "You do realise my husband can still see you getting into the bath" just said "lucky him" and slammed the door in her face.

LittleBitofBread · 26/11/2025 16:56

Hugely rude, and very coarse. They seem to be out to provoke. Ignore.

Gettingbysomehow · 26/11/2025 16:56

DangerousAlchemy · 26/11/2025 16:22

oh no is this definitely true?? My loft bathroom has privacy glass (or so my builder assured me) so we never put a blind up and I often shower on the way to bed 👀😆🤭🤷‍♀️😫

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My neighbour can see me shower through the glass so I have to shower with the light off.

Gettingbysomehow · 26/11/2025 16:55

Wankers, I'd be pressing my backside up against the frosted glass. That would give them something to complain about.

IaltagDhubh · 26/11/2025 16:38

BuildbyNumbere · 26/11/2025 15:51

Good idea … just make sure you spell weirdos correctly to avoid looking like a twat.

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SHAME 😮 I didn’t have my reading glasses on!

DangerousAlchemy · 26/11/2025 16:22

Nearly50omg · 25/11/2025 19:27

I can tell you that frosted glass in a bathroom at night does NOTHING to stop you seeing the horrendous sight of the naked neighbour getting out of the shower and wiping his arse etc! 🤢🤮😂

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oh no is this definitely true?? My loft bathroom has privacy glass (or so my builder assured me) so we never put a blind up and I often shower on the way to bed 👀😆🤭🤷‍♀️😫

Tangerinenets · 26/11/2025 16:20

Get some blinds made with pictures of someone taking a shit on the outside and put those up in the bathroom 😂

ny20005 · 26/11/2025 16:07

We went to an Airbnb a few years ago & downstairs loo had frosted window but no blind. The neighbour knocked the door & asked us not to use the bathroom as the light was disturbing them in their garden. We bought a coloured disco ball & put it up for the rest of the week 😆

ALJT · 26/11/2025 16:04

I think I’d spend my evenings rubbing my backside against the window for a few weeks

CitizenofMoronia · 26/11/2025 15:58

return to sender, Stop looking in our bathroom... pervert...

TrustyRusty68 · 26/11/2025 15:57

They sound awful!! Don’t respond - & leave your blinds up as often as possible when you know they’re home. Rude asshats!!

BuildbyNumbere · 26/11/2025 15:51

IaltagDhubh · 25/11/2025 18:26

Cut out big letters and stick them on the window so that when you turn the light on in the bathroom it reads from outside “STOP WATCHING US SHIT YOU WIERDOS”. Would give you a little privacy until you are able to get around to fitting blinds too.

Good idea … just make sure you spell weirdos correctly to avoid looking like a twat.

Bananaandmangosmoothie · 26/11/2025 15:47

Write them a note on the back of their note:

Thanks for the welcome to the neighbourhood.

The sellers took the blinds with them and we have already ordered some new ones.

You had a chance to be neighbourly and you chose to blow it. Such a sad choice. You must be a very unhappy person.

sami2885 · 26/11/2025 15:33

I'd be asking your smart speaker to play fart noises at full volume with the window open..... But I'm childish like that 😂

Seriously, ignore them, they sound unpleasant