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Shitty note from new Neighbours after moving in

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Laylamum2 · 25/11/2025 18:19

We moved house on Friday - have had a hectic few days trying to sort things and have this week off work thankfully.

There is one bathroom in the house and this is upstairs at the front of the house which faces our driveway. Next to the driveway is a neighbours house directly opposite.

The seller has taken all blinds out of the property as is their right and we’ve spent today putting some new ones up, including in the bathroom.

Yesterday, a note got put through our door:

”Get blinds for your bathroom, we don’t want to see you having a shit”

The window is frosted but I assume at night with the light on you can see in.

This was obviously from our neighbours opposite. AIBU to say they went about this in a rude way? They could have sent a politer note or knocked on the door.

OP posts:
stichguru · 27/11/2025 16:01

eastegg · 27/11/2025 15:06

Sorry, you think the wording is ‘quite good’?! Are you serious? There are some quite funny people on this thread so maybe not….

Yes I am serious. To me the wording comes across as "we know you aren't aware we can see you, it's ok, no harm done, but rectify the situation for both our sakes!" whereas a more formal note might come across as "you're a disgusting person for not putting up a blind before you started using the bathroom".

MySilentLions · 27/11/2025 16:00

shuggles · 25/11/2025 21:36

All of the people saying to ignore the letter are missing the fact that the neighbours will still be able to see OP shitting...

You again Hmm missed the bit where she now has blinds, did you? We are not stupid, you just can’t read properly in your haste to lecture women again.

dh280125 · 27/11/2025 15:44

Don't get blinds for at least 6 months. And ignore them.

HamptonPlace · 27/11/2025 15:29

Laylamum2 · 25/11/2025 19:20

We haven’t actually seen our opposite neighbours yet so not sure exactly who lives there. There is a Range Rover Evoque which hasn’t left the drive, that’s all I do know!

We have met both neighbours either side of us who are lovely thankfully.

i'm not sure to think is this a real post? 1) vendors who remove blinds from house upon selling? Why? 2) the title of the post with no nod or wink to it being a pun 3) the model of car mentioned and it's typical class association... 🤔

eastegg · 27/11/2025 15:06

stichguru · 25/11/2025 20:20

To be honest I found the note quite funny! I think they were being quite light hearted. I wouldn't want the neighbours to see me going to the toilet, so I'd be pleased that they had let me know that they could without blinds. As the "see-ers" though, I'd be worried that something more formal like "please get some good blinds for your bathroom, as currently we can see you sitting on the lavatory" might make the new neighbours feel that I thought they were trying to show me! I think their wording is quite good for "we know you don't mean any harm, but we think it's only fair we let you know we can see you, because it's probably a rather embarrassing situation for all of us."

Sorry, you think the wording is ‘quite good’?! Are you serious? There are some quite funny people on this thread so maybe not….

LittleBitofBread · 27/11/2025 12:03

Mum23plusC · 27/11/2025 11:48

I knew of someone once who's neighbours opposite remarked about the thin curtains in their bedroom "you can see everything". Following that the husband did a full on silhouette show complete with a long loofah each night. They didn't mention it again 😂

I love the loofah puppet/silhouette show!

Mum23plusC · 27/11/2025 11:48

I knew of someone once who's neighbours opposite remarked about the thin curtains in their bedroom "you can see everything". Following that the husband did a full on silhouette show complete with a long loofah each night. They didn't mention it again 😂

MusicMakesItAllBetter · 27/11/2025 09:19

Dollymylove · 25/11/2025 18:32

They shouldn't have been looking!!

I second this unless it's been seconded already in which case I whatever the number is, this

Mothership4two · 27/11/2025 05:29

Laylamum2 · 25/11/2025 19:20

We haven’t actually seen our opposite neighbours yet so not sure exactly who lives there. There is a Range Rover Evoque which hasn’t left the drive, that’s all I do know!

We have met both neighbours either side of us who are lovely thankfully.

I would show the note to your lovely neighbours, I bet they would be able to exactly who it came from and probably quite considerable history.

Icebreaker911 · 26/11/2025 22:48

Not a very nice way to say hello - but I can understand what they say as I lived opposite people who had frosted, full length windows & that meant I could see EVERYTHING! that they did on the bogg - very revealing, but I never said anything, & eventually moved to a nice place on the coast - now I just watch the ships go by.. .

JillMW · 26/11/2025 21:50

Doggielovecharlotte · 25/11/2025 18:26

surely no one can see you once your on the loo as your below window height

also frosted wouldn’t allow people to see what you are doing lights on or not - just a blur of colour

Our neighbours bathroom on the side of their house overlooking my garden has a full length window, presumably previously another room, I don’t know. It is frosted glass but the frosting seems to disappear with the light on. I like to sit in the garden at night with a cuppa before I go to bed, often my neighbour from the other side joins me. We position ourself so we can’t see as we feel really embarrassed if we are facing them and can clearly see them on the loo, climbing in and out of the bath or shower. I don’t suppose they know and it is too many years now to mention it.

SemiRetiredLoveGoddeess · 26/11/2025 20:58

How big is your bathroom window?

I think they are having a larf.

pestowithwalnuts · 26/11/2025 20:56

I don't these patterned windows always obscure what going on inside.
DD lives across from a house which has a bathroom at the front.
It would seem that the bath is under the window as they have seen the chap giving his backside and todger a good old clean.
Another occasion..chaps wife could be seen giving him a BJ.
DD just laughs..she says it's not her business what they do in their bathroom

CatA27 · 26/11/2025 20:48

RoxyRoo2011 · 26/11/2025 14:30

I’m petty and passive aggressive so there would be no blind going up in my bathroom if I were you

This! And I would dance about in front of the window naked every night!!

Greenshed · 26/11/2025 20:18

Ignore them. That is so incredibly rude of whoever sent the note.

DangerousAlchemy · 26/11/2025 19:55

Gettingbysomehow · 26/11/2025 16:56

My neighbour can see me shower through the glass so I have to shower with the light off.

jeez. that's it. I'm buying blinds 😫

Melonjuice · 26/11/2025 19:50

Post it back through their letterbox
if it wasn’t them then they have nothing to worry about
if it was it sends a message of up yours
they need to get blinds

anyolddinosaur · 26/11/2025 19:17

Doesnt have to be the people opposite, could be anyone who walked past and realised the window was see through. There are politer ways to tell you but you've now made me go and check what can be see in one of our (very frosted) windows when the light is on at night. Pretty sure I checked it once and all you could see was a rough shape.

ThistleTits · 26/11/2025 19:13

Why would they look in your window knowing it's a loo? Perhaps, they should close their blinds. Nutcase, ignore them.

HessianSack · 26/11/2025 19:12

When we first moved here my neighbour yelled at me across the street that she could see me getting dressed in my bedroom and that her visiting family members were "disgusted"!!

ThistleTits · 26/11/2025 19:11

ChattyGeePeaTea · 25/11/2025 18:24

Say nothing, but get a window sticker of a shitting Santa for the bathroom window.

😂😂😂🎅

Howdoyoudodoyoudo · 26/11/2025 19:04

ChocolateCinderToffee · 25/11/2025 23:11

A polite anonymous note would have been ok ‘just to let you know, people can see into your bathroom, you might want to put a blind up’. No need to be rude about it.

Yes , even that!

oldmoaner · 26/11/2025 19:01

Well at least you know what they're like don't you? If you put a light on with frosted glass you can see in as if it's clear glass. I mentioned it to a neighbour of mine, just incase they didn't realise, and was told, we don't care who sees what.
I'd put blackout blinds up but pop outside with them closed and light on and see if anyone could still be seen, if they can then add some of the patterned stuff you stick on the window as well. Must have good eyesight if they can see someone on the toilet, unless it's a very very low window 😂

Heyhoitsme · 26/11/2025 18:42

We had an anonymous note days after moving to our house. It told us to get our hedge cut. They also sent someone from the council to inspect it. We DID get it cut but not in the first week. People who write notes are usually nuts.

NewYorkie39 · 26/11/2025 18:10

We had awful neighbours when we bought our first house. We tried to engage but they just weren't interested. We made wonderful friends next door to them and completely ignored them for 4 years. This drove the husband up the wall and we soon realised he was controlling a coercive towards his wife and every neighbour lived in fear of him.