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Shitty note from new Neighbours after moving in

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Laylamum2 · 25/11/2025 18:19

We moved house on Friday - have had a hectic few days trying to sort things and have this week off work thankfully.

There is one bathroom in the house and this is upstairs at the front of the house which faces our driveway. Next to the driveway is a neighbours house directly opposite.

The seller has taken all blinds out of the property as is their right and we’ve spent today putting some new ones up, including in the bathroom.

Yesterday, a note got put through our door:

”Get blinds for your bathroom, we don’t want to see you having a shit”

The window is frosted but I assume at night with the light on you can see in.

This was obviously from our neighbours opposite. AIBU to say they went about this in a rude way? They could have sent a politer note or knocked on the door.

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ThatWildMintSloth · 25/11/2025 18:56

😂It has to be some kind of weird joke surely?! Why are they looking into your bathroom window, goodness me what is wrong with people

Cucy · 25/11/2025 18:56

Why would they be watching?!

Surely if you saw someone sat on the toilet you would look away.

Its more like some insecure woman who’s DH has been looking up at your silhouette

Netcurtainnelly · 25/11/2025 18:56

ColaWars · 25/11/2025 18:31

You could wipe your shitey bum on the note and pop it back through their letterbox?

Terrible advice, Firstly you dont knowits them and secondly how.might they retaliate.

You sound about 12 years old with that advice.
Do nothing OP. You dlnt have to react.

CinnamonBuns67 · 25/11/2025 18:55

Petty me would have sent a note back "Then don't watch you dirty bastards" but reasonable me would just ignore them. Yanbu to feel they was rude though, when I saw my neighbour in a private moment I looked away and didn't say anything.

Isittimeformynapyet · 25/11/2025 18:51

ChattyGeePeaTea · 25/11/2025 18:24

Say nothing, but get a window sticker of a shitting Santa for the bathroom window.

Could you post a link please

WilfredsPies · 25/11/2025 18:51

I might also be inclined to speak to one of your other neighbours and ask whether your seller had any issues with the note senders.

Tobacco · 25/11/2025 18:51

ChattyGeePeaTea · 25/11/2025 18:24

Say nothing, but get a window sticker of a shitting Santa for the bathroom window.

😄

WilfredsPies · 25/11/2025 18:49

Ooh, this doesn’t bode well. What sort of lunatic posts something like that through the door? Surely you just wouldn’t look? How hard is it not to stare at someone’s window, especially when they’ve just moved in. You’d have to be pretty nasty.

I don’t think I’d throw it away just yet. Just in case they turn out to be as horrible as they seem. Put it in an envelope and tuck it away somewhere out of sight. Just in case you need to evidence anything in the future.

ohyesido · 25/11/2025 18:49

How dreadful what a nasty way to behave

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 25/11/2025 18:49

ChattyGeePeaTea · 25/11/2025 18:24

Say nothing, but get a window sticker of a shitting Santa for the bathroom window.

Where d'you buy these stickers ....? (Asking for a friend , obvs) Xmas Wink

HappySonHappyMum · 25/11/2025 18:49

c3pu · 25/11/2025 18:40

Change your WiFi access point name to "WATCH-ME-SHIT"

Edited

Please do this - hilarious!

Thepeopleversuswork · 25/11/2025 18:49

What horrible people. That would actually really freak me out: not because I think they could actually see me on the toilet (I bet they can’t), but because they are clearly unhinged and spiteful arseholes.

As PPs have said ignore them. But keep a note of this. It’s highly aggressive.

As a one off it possibly could be put down to a bad day bur if they start doing this more often you might want to think about flagging this as harassment.

176509user · 25/11/2025 18:48

ChattyGeePeaTea · 25/11/2025 18:24

Say nothing, but get a window sticker of a shitting Santa for the bathroom window.

Another vote for this !
Please get one made.

Shitting Santa for Xmas and a shitting gnome the rest of the year !

WalkDontWalk · 25/11/2025 18:48

"Get blinds for all your windows 'cos we dont want to see you at all."

heartofsunshine · 25/11/2025 18:48

Zappas famous "toilet poster" in the window, facing them.

Fionasapples · 25/11/2025 18:48

Make great big arrows out of cardboard, paint them red, stick them around the bathroom window (pointing at it) and moon out of the open window.

MyDeftDuck · 25/11/2025 18:48

Well, that put a dampener on your new home didn’t it? Did’nt you realise that you’d move next door to Mr & Mrs Perfect who NEVER use a toilet and dispose of bodily fluids and waste by urinating and opening their bowels in perfect little silk pouches?
Just ignore the note, carry on with the unpacking and if they mention it in the future simply claim you didn’t have time to read anything not delivered by the postman and could they enlarge. They lead pretty sad lives if they’ve nowt else better to do than observe other folks toilet habits ffs!
Enjoy your new home 💐🥂…….sorry, these are only virtual housewarming gifts!

GumFossil · 25/11/2025 18:45

How rude and ignorant of them.

Ignore. But I’d also make sure I didn’t use the blinds.

RedRoss86 · 25/11/2025 18:44

Doggielovecharlotte · 25/11/2025 18:43

There is no need for any kind of note!

and if so it should start with introducing yourself and saying i hope you don’t mind if we mention as you may not be aware..

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HatStickBoots · 25/11/2025 18:44

ChattyGeePeaTea · 25/11/2025 18:24

Say nothing, but get a window sticker of a shitting Santa for the bathroom window.

😂 do these exist?! OP, please do this!

Doggielovecharlotte · 25/11/2025 18:43

Holluschickie · 25/11/2025 18:42

How incredibly rude. Why is everyone so nasty these days?
If they really could see you- I doubt it- a polite note " Maybe you could consider blinds?" would have worked. Or they could wait until you sorted yourself out.

There is no need for any kind of note!

and if so it should start with introducing yourself and saying i hope you don’t mind if we mention as you may not be aware..

RedRoss86 · 25/11/2025 18:43

Dip your finger in melted chocolate & write a note saying 'stop watching me shit'.....

🤭🤭

Holluschickie · 25/11/2025 18:42

How incredibly rude. Why is everyone so nasty these days?
If they really could see you- I doubt it- a polite note " Maybe you could consider blinds?" would have worked. Or they could wait until you sorted yourself out.

IDontHateRainbows · 25/11/2025 18:41

Can you send a reply saying, 'oh, im sorry we were planning on doing the nightly 'watch me shit' show at 10.30 each evening, are you sure i can't persuade you to reconsider?'

godmum56 · 25/11/2025 18:41

CandyCaneKisses · 25/11/2025 18:32

Wow.
Welcome to the neighbourhood.

I would keep hold of it incase they keep sending them.

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