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DH said I’m not a very likeable person?

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Mrsaskalot · 25/11/2025 17:38

Me and DH were having a discussion today about finances and what we should do to make it more fair. Anyway further on into the conversation he said he wouldn’t take any advice from me because I’m on the spectrum.
He also stated that no one has ever liked me and that I’m not a very likeable person, people just put up with me.

I have ADHD and always have been a bit awkward and a loner somewhat. I never really had many friends but I was never bothered. I’m not great with people which is surprising as I work in HR.

Its made me feel really shit and wonder whether there is some truth to what he has said. As he’s getting older he’s becoming meaner.

Aibu for not being able to forgive something like this?

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ElfAndSafetyBored · 25/11/2025 17:43

I’d struggle to get over that.

I think in your case DH stands for Dickhead Husband.

Starzinsky · 25/11/2025 17:42

In all honesty without knowing you it's hard to know if you are likeable or not and whether he was reasonable or not. Sounds like your not bothered by people. Would there be a reason he would say this?

YouDriveMeCrazyButICanDoThatMyself · 25/11/2025 17:42

Unforgivable.
Your DH is an arse.

I get the impression I’m pretty unlikable (ND and I tend to be direct which can come across as rude I guess, but I can’t seem to change it!) however, on my down days when I’m being self critical my DH always tells me I’m kind, I’m caring, I’m a lovely person etc etc. he’s always boosting me up -the exact opposite of your DH.
I’m not sure where I’d go from there if my DH has said something so awful.
So sorry op Flowers