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People older than 35; did your dad go to school parent’s evenings?

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Farrings · 25/11/2025 14:14

I asked my parents to look after our daughters for an hour (they’re primary age) so DH and I could both go to parents evening.

Both kids are at the same school so it’s no bother, and we care equally about their education, so we both want to go.

My dad (born 1943) asked ‘What’s parents evening?!’ He denied any knowledge of the concept, and said he’d never been to one. He has 3 kids who were all in school in the 90’s/early 2000’s.

To be fair, I’m not sure my mum went to many either… they’re not great with supporting formal education…but I was still surprised to hear my Dad say he didn’t even know what one was!

Then I thought, was this normal for the time maybe?

if you’re over 35, please vote -

YANBU - ‘My dad didn’t go to parents evenings either, (or maybe like, one time)!’

YABU - My dad DID GO! Or a few times anyway!

(Obviously whether or not Mum’s went is a whole other question, I will have to save that for another vote)

P.S This is Just for fun! X

OP posts:
eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 25/11/2025 15:41

My dad went to every single parent's evening. I am mid 40's.
He also did the school run everyday when I was a primary.

MonsterasEverywhere · 25/11/2025 15:41

As long as my Dad wasn't working he'd come to parents evening (shift worker) but also, it was expected that children came as well and heard what the teachers had to say, so I was there too (perhaps that has changed now).

QuickBrown · 25/11/2025 15:39

Mine did, but he was a huge advocate for the importance of education. Parents' Evening was the only day of the year aside from being on holiday when we had chippy tea. We were always told we would only get the chippy tea if the parents' evening went well but my brother had a shocker one year and still had some. 1980s primary, 1990s secondary.

Pinkosand · 25/11/2025 15:38

My dad raised children in the same decades you mention. It was my dad and only my dad that went to parents evenings. My mum was busy at home with other stuff I think.

weisatted · 25/11/2025 15:35

My dad went to every single one. My mum went once in a while

Meadowfinch · 25/11/2025 15:34

Neither of my parents went. My dm didn't drive and f regarded it as a waste of time & petrol.

I was glad he didn't go. He was too embarrassing for words.

OneReasonWhy · 25/11/2025 15:33

Can’t answer because my dad didn’t go but knew what they were. He did shifts and had to do a lot of overtime to keep us comfortable. He died earlier this year and expressed regret for it. I told him not to be so silly….he worked so hard to provide for us and was always interested and helped us with school stuff. Absolutely no way was I going to let him think he wasn’t a fantastic father and role model just because he didn’t go to some crappy parents evening.

lanthanum · 25/11/2025 15:32

My dad always did (in the 80s), despite a job which meant he often had meetings in the evenings - he kept parents evenings clear.
Having taught (secondary) in the 1990s/early 2000s, I saw plenty of dads at parents evenings. That was probably more the case at the first school I taught at, where the evenings ran from 6.30 to 9.30, to allow commuting parents to come. At the second, they were 4-7 (and there were also fewer kids whose dad lived with them).

BillieWiper · 25/11/2025 15:29

No. My dad did no day to day parenting at all. Except when he retired when I was 8 he walked me to and from school or the station a lot of the time.

He was Disney dad. Grand gestures, treats, lots of affection but then other times serious tellings off.

So I was kind of scared of him and wanted to keep him happy.

Actual day to day stuff was all my mum. I don't think that was that uncommon in the 80s. Though a few of my friends had much more hands on dads where parenting seemed more of a joint enterprise.

shhblackbag · 25/11/2025 15:29

Yes. He also did homework with us. They both went. I'm 48.

schoolfriend · 25/11/2025 15:27

My Dad didn't, but then again he wasn't very interested in doing anything other than going to the pub.

GreenGreenGreenRed · 25/11/2025 15:26

Mine went.1944

WalkDontWalk · 25/11/2025 15:25

My dad was a copper, and shifts got him out of doing all sorts of things. Christmas, for example.

MadamWillYouTalk · 25/11/2025 15:25

He went to parents evenings and was also very active in the PTA (both schools). Same age as your dad.

HappilyDivorced89 · 25/11/2025 15:24

My mum went to parents evenings alone from what I can remember. I left secondary school in 2007.

CaptainMyCaptain · 25/11/2025 15:24

I was born in 1955 and my Dad was born in 1925. He always went to parents' evenings. I don't think there were as many then.

AlltheHedgehogsontheWall · 25/11/2025 15:23

I'm 36 and both my parents always went to parents evening. My education was a bit complex though.

VickyEadieofThigh · 25/11/2025 15:23

Never - but my mum only went to one when I was at secondary! I was a very academic, well-behaved student and she said "I get reports twice a year, I look at your books regularly and so I don't need to waste their time being told the things I already know." I was fine with this.

OldieButBaddie · 25/11/2025 15:21

Butchyrestingface · 25/11/2025 14:47

Straight through the pearly gates! 😇

Well to be fair when I was 10 he ran off with another woman, but still came to them all!

Friendlygingercat · 25/11/2025 15:21

My father never went to my school for any reason. He was just not that interested in my education. My mother went up once when the school offered a bursury for me to got on holiday to France (father turned it down because he saw it as charity)

The only person who ever came to activities was my grandmother. She came every year to the music and drama festivals and to school prize giving. She also accompanied me to my first interview which was the custom then. I was still 15 and wore my school uniform (with lisle stockings instead of ankle socks). Employers then liked to see a parent or gaurdian.

escape · 25/11/2025 15:20

Yes - 90's Secondary school - every one - both parents although I can remember one that was just Dad which I assume is because Mum was working that evening.
At primary etc I remember they were during the day/early afternoon after school and that would just be Mum. Dad was very involved but didnt ever take a day off work to attend any daytime meetings/performances etc.

Both parents born in the early 60's and both said their parents never went to them!

thewalrus · 25/11/2025 15:20

Parents both worked shifts, but at least one and probably both would have attended - education was a high priority in our family and my dad was a pretty involved dad for the time (I'm 47).
DH and I have both been to most of our kids' parents evenings - getting babysitters when they were younger. We have twins, so there have been a few at secondary where it just isn't logistically possible for us both to attend everything for everyone, but we do our best. (I'm self-employed, and DH is senior enough at work to set his own hours provided he gets stuff done, so it's relatively easy for us.)

ChubbyPuffling · 25/11/2025 15:16

Our primary school didn't have them... parents were "invited" to talk to the teacher if there were issues. Not entirely sure my parents set foot in my infant or primary schools other than for the nativity plays.

Secondary school, my parents were "getting a divorce" for 5 years of it, which meant "get on with school, we don't want to know". So no, my dad never went. (Mum neither)

OneLoyalGreyFish · 25/11/2025 15:15

My daughters are 35 and 36, even though me and their dad separated (then later divorced) when they were 10 and 11 we still went to parents evening together right up to year 11.

MannersAreAll · 25/11/2025 15:13

My dad didn't, but my grandad did. I lived with my grandparents from just after I started school so not sure how to vote 😂

Unlikely he went to his children's ones as he was military then so away a lot.

He and Nana both went to our parents nights as they were desperate to show they cared and weee engaged (and genuinely were) in case we were removed from them and put in care