Ex Letting DS6 Watch Harry Potter

There's a torture scene in Shrek too. (Poor Gingerbread man).

It seems a bit young to me, but I agree with everyone that it depends on the child. And what children find scary is so unpredictable. My youngest was completely unbothered by all the later 'darker' Harry Potters, but absolutely hated the guy having Voldemort in the back of his head in the first one.

I was vexed that dp showed our 7 year old jurassic park, as the kitchen scene is still terrifying to me and a lot of people get eaten. Of course, child wasn't scared at all as "it's not real mum" and just found it hilarious that someone got eaten by a t-rex while sitting on a toilet. Also, there is a torture scene in the princess bride, which I loved as a kid.

Which is a long way of saying that it depends on the child and if your son was fine with it, let him crack on.

Am not going to argue, have said what I thought- cool for you to disagree, and if you think it’s speech policing to ask for more inclusive dialogue, that’s up to you. 🤷‍♀️

That’s what mumsnet is for! I don’t think I’d have stayed married to her either!

I can comment thanks.

you supposedly were asking for opinions on if you were being unreasonable. I commented that you are.

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It’s not “ableist” to say that a six-year-old might find a book written for older children to be a slog. I have ADHD, as do my mother and both my children, and I don’t appreciate being speech-policed on this, thanks.

Technical error; double post.

Yeah still - I do think, as an over thinker too, with co parenting you have to let some things go. I’ve no idea what the opening scene of scream is, but there are tonnes of what I’d call inappropriate things on social media even with controls setup that my dc have seen at school, friends have seen and described etc. parents are one slice of a big amount of influences.

Do you know, I’m sure my dc saw some scream clip or ad on social media, because they knew about it despite me never having watched it.

I guess it depends on the kid but I think 6 is too young for any of the Harry Potter films.

I'm not sure if we had age ratings in 1970s Australia but I recall watching Jaws when it first came out on tv. As I am now 51 I must have been - 5-ish?

I could not go in a bath or pool for years and years.

Went to the cinema a few weeks back because of the 50th anniversary (Jaws in 3D!!!!) and realised what a true classic is it!

I've shown my DCs all sorts of things accidentally.

I started watching the first series of Benidorm with one of them not realising at first.......

He was quickly shooed from the room.

I’m still traumatised by watching the original “Watership Down”. Sobbed and was heartbroken and scared. Also watched the black & white “Lord of the Flies” was I was 7, just awful played on mind for over a decade.

That is odd!!
In my situation, I had woken up in the night and seen that the light was still on downstairs, so went down to see dad, saw that he was watching a film so didn't want to disturb him, so hung about in the hall like a little creep until the film scared me 😂😂 I must only have been about 4/5, but I honestly had nightmares until I was about 12 about bloody sharks.

Also the bit in the first Harry Potter film I'm on about is the bit were they go in the forest and Voldemort is drinking the unicorn blood. Easily the scariest bit in the whole series for me 🙈

I think some parentsose their minds over HP. (And I'm a fan). They are children's books aimed at higher Primary and lower Secondary... not small children. The 12 A certificate was introduced as too many "childrens" films weren't actually suitable for that age group.. so they left it to parents.

Then when the children are actually in the age group the books and films are aimed at, its seen as childish.

Honestly I think the scariest part in all of the Harry Potter films is in the first one 😂 I shut my eyes for it then first few times I seen the film when I was a kid.

I also accidentally saw the bit in Jaws when the head pops out the boat when I was really young and I was totally traumatised over it, had nightmares for years, but it wasn't as if my dad showed me it on purpose, he didn't even know I was there until I was upset. Could something similar have happened with the Scream situation that you mentioned?

I wouldn’t want my 6yr old DS watching the later films.
I read HP books to my son when he was younger but spaced them out as he grew up. After all, Harry is 10yrs old in the first book. A 10yr old is a lot more mature than a 6yr old!

The first 3 books and films are ok but then they start to get quite dark and I don’t think a young child should be exposed to those themes until they’re approaching teen years.

I definitely judge parents who wilfully ignore the ratings guide and expose kids to stuff that is wholly inappropriate.

Not to go off on a tangent- but has your little guy been assessed for dyslexia, OP?

Made a huge difference for us with DS- who is really bright, but was hugely frustrated by not being able to access texts etc. interestingly also has sleep problems - vivid dreams, parasomnias etc- which can be part of the disability.

I don’t think we’ll agree on this one. There is much in the books that doesn’t make sense either….

But more importantly, please do just keep an eye on your ableism. Many kids finding books “such a slog” are actually dealing with a learning disability, and for many books will always be a slog to a greater or lesser degree - regardless of age. They may be cognitively ready for richer stories than Biff, Chip and Kipper, but “mechanically” unable to access them. Should they be locked out of enjoying stories, because the mechanics of reading simply don’t work for their brains?