I’m so fed up with trying to keep everyone happy. My other half has 4 very lovely siblings. All married and they all love helping each other out and being there for each other without living in each others pockets.
I have one sister and she values her friends and colleagues way above me and my family. (She is single) I tried to forge a closer relationship with her years ago by inviting her here for dinner once per week. She stop after two weeks saying our house is too busy and she couldn’t relax. We have 4 children. It’s just a normal family home. She comes to us every Christmas and has her dinner then leaves. We never see each other except when it’s to do with mum. She works full time and feels that absolves her of all “caring” duties.
We were invited to a night out in an industry award thing tonight for husbands work. I’d arranged for a paid babysitter (partners family live 2 hours away or they would have sat for us. I thought this was better as it’s only a few hours) Baby sitter has developed flu and is really ill so has had to cancel. my eldest is working until 8pm. (Dinner being served at 8 so too late) So I asked my sister. She said she would check her diary and come back to me. When she did she said she was meeting a friend who she hasn’t seen for years and didn’t want to put her off.
Im Lucky enough to be a “housewife” and I spend my time caring for my mother and my family. I don’t have lots of friends because i just don’t get the time to spend with them. I’ve arranged a rather convoluted scenario with my eldest who is happy (begrudgingly ) for me to drop the others with them at work on our way to dinner and they will then sort it out from there.
Partner is pissed off that it’s become “so dramatic” (bear in mind I organised this before I went and told him babysitter had cancelled.) He’s going to go on his own now. He’s not in a mood as such but he’s pissed off.
Im so sick of people. I try my best to make everything happen in this family. I am run ragged looking after my mother and all the kids. I don’t have friends to go out and vent to so I’ll go for a walk on my own and it’s the most peaceful time. AIBU to think life would be easier on my own?