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Trigger warning - Can I please hear from people who witnessed DV as a child at home (if you’re comfortable to share)

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NeedingASafeSpace · 24/11/2025 21:27

I’m relatively fresh out of a domestic abuse relationship. I wondered if I could hear off people who experienced Dv as a child and how it affected them to keep in my mind for my weak days of flaking nd messaging me POS abuser. I won’t be doing this but I won’t doubt I struggle with days like today where my mind plays tricks “what if the kids just don’t see it” “they never really seen anything” etc etc.them seeing one thing is too much please don’t think and judge me for having these thoughts as I feel I am withdrawing coming off drugs. Even though I do not love him or even like him I feel some form of addiction. If you feel comfortable enough I wondered please can you share your stories I hope this isn’t taken in the wrong way. To anyone who has experienced DV as a child I am so sorry❤️

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NeedingASafeSpace · 24/11/2025 21:39

Gingerseal · 24/11/2025 21:37

I haven’t experienced this personally but just wanted to say you are so brave for leaving and well done for putting yourself and your children first - not an easy thing. You will all be so much better off without him.
I work with children who have witnessed DV, I know that is not what you asked for but let me know if you’d like to hear a bit about that.

Thank you so much. I would absolutely like to hear more on that definitely please x

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Gingerseal · 24/11/2025 21:37

I haven’t experienced this personally but just wanted to say you are so brave for leaving and well done for putting yourself and your children first - not an easy thing. You will all be so much better off without him.
I work with children who have witnessed DV, I know that is not what you asked for but let me know if you’d like to hear a bit about that.

Mumsgirls · 24/11/2025 21:35

I did not see it, but heard as a young child. Absolutely terrifying and I would say it remains with you. It made me totally intolerant of violence or abuse. I chose to end a marriage and not subject my kids to an unhappy home ( not a violent one) From an early age I determined to be financially independent all my life and that has worked well Am very happily single. I suppose I may have trust issues, but would never risk being dependant. The only level of acceptable violence is nil