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To tell my ds not to 'drown his sorrows'

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OutsideOfComfortable · 24/11/2025 20:25

Poor ds is 19. Recently found his dream job. Been there two months, then tore a muscle. Off work for six weeks, and possibly longer if it needs operating on. His boss has said she simply can't hold his place at work, she has ratios to fill.
He's said he's off out to buy a bottle of wine. I've said that won't help him feel better, in fact definitely the opposite tomorrow.

Told him not to.
I just can't deal with drunk, sad teenager. Sad, I can be there for,but drunk? Nope.

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Lassofnorth · 25/11/2025 05:29

Does he like chocolate ? ? I know it’s not good to comfort eat etc etc but it’s better than drinking.. maybe a new video game while he’s getting over torn muscle ? My mum always said when one door closes another opens and in my nearly 60 years of life îve found that to be true. Suggest duolingo or something to learn a languqge while he’s immobile, its always useful Remind him that at 19 the world is really is his oyster .and he’ll have forgotten about this in a few years time.

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 25/11/2025 05:21

Realistically, how pissed is he going to get with one bottle of wine?

He's also 19, he's likely to wake up feeling a bit fuzzy around the edges and shake it off in a matter of minutes. I certainly did at that age.

Having one night on the sauce to take his mind off a horrible disappointment is hardly an indicator you'll be dropping him off at rehab by the weekend.

verycloakanddaggers · 25/11/2025 05:18

You're quite right, but offer him an alternative suggestion, like watching a film together or making his favourite meal and going for a walk together.

Drinking in response to negative emotions is not healthy. Very common, but not a good idea.

AwakeNowForGood · 25/11/2025 05:16

I agree with you, but that is the culture in this country. You even see it here, somebody complains about something stressful, and they are advised to pour themselves a big glass of wine.

EatingHealthy · 25/11/2025 05:14

You're right, drinking as a coping mechanism is a really bad idea, this is the time - when he's still young and has you around to support him when he needs to learn healthy ways of coping with disappointments.

IamtheDevilsAvocado · 25/11/2025 05:00

It's only one night, surely!

seven201 · 25/11/2025 04:55

Poor DS. I think I’d put up with him being drunk for one night.

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