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Dogs are much more loved by society than cats

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Avocad1sh · 24/11/2025 14:21

I was just watching For Dogs Sake with Pete Wicks and Dogs Trust and realised there isn’t anything like this for cats. This is the second season and there’s also been For the Love of Dogs, plus that channel 4 programme The Doghouse and probably loads more that I haven’t seen.

I never see anything like this for cats… I think Jo Brand did one years ago but other than that, where are all of the heartwarming shows about cats needing homes?

I also notice that when I tell people I have 2 cats, a lot of them say “ugh I hate cats” yet when I say I have a dog no one ever tells me they hate dogs. I feel like there’s this almost over the top love of dogs sometimes where people treat them like babies, whereas cats seem to be hated on a lot or seen as the inferior pet. (In general of course! I know there’s many many cat lovers out there)

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lolly427 · 24/11/2025 15:41

I'd like cats to be banned, they have a devastating effect on wildlife. They also shit all over my vegetable patch it's absolutely disgusting - never had someone else's dog do that.

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 24/11/2025 15:32

I hate dogs.
I hate walking my kids around and having to tell them not to go near big dogs...
I hate stepping in dog shit all the fucking time.
I hate having random dogs bound up to me and get mud all up me only to be told 'oh he's only playing...' fine, I'll smear mud up your legs and say Im only playing....
I hate people cooing over dogs, letting them lick their faces with their butt-lick-tongues.
I hate dog food - it stinks.
I hate dog hair - your house stinks.
I hate dogs in restaurant & pubs - It's filthy having animals around food.
I hate dogs in jackets - they look like wankers.
I hate people yelling at their dogs - shut up! Im here too and this space could be peaceful.

I love cats.

WallaceinAnderland · 24/11/2025 15:32

Comedycook · 24/11/2025 15:14

A colleague at work was telling me all about her dog the other day...I asked loads of questions and ooohed and ahhed when she told me what sort of things it did...and she showed me a photo and I told her how sweet it was....I lied.

I have some people's dogs as facebook friends as I couldn't think of a reason not to when asked. Can your dog read and write seemed too sarcastic to say at the time. People are weird about their dogs.

Saying that, dogs do make great companions and are fantastic when trained working dogs, assistance dogs, etc. I don't hate them, I just hate the way people inflict them on us all over the place. They are not as welcome as they think they are and I do think many dog owners are blind this. Not their fault really, as so many of us pretend to be ok with it.

ImFineItsAllFine · 24/11/2025 15:31

WallaceinAnderland · 24/11/2025 15:08

We have to pretend to like dogs because people treat them like their children and would be offended if we were more honest. Thus, we are a nation of dog haters lovers. It's just British politeness.

People want to take their dogs everywhere, even bring them into your house. Imagine if people came to stay and said, 'We need to bring the cat'

This is so true. Plenty of people (myself included) hate dogs, it's just not socially acceptable to say it to dog owners. I assume that if I did, they would spend ages listing all the reasons why I was 'wrong'.

Whereas when someone tells me they hate cats, as a cat owner I would just shrug and let them get on with it. The affectionate bond between a cat and owner is subtle and hard to understand from the outside.

TheMousePipes · 24/11/2025 15:20

Could not give a fuck about dogs. Hate them being in pubs and shops and restaurants and all over where I wish to go for a walk and borking endlessly in the gardens around here and bouncing around being a pain on the beach.
But I would never EVER say that to anyone with a dog, it would be unspeakably rude.
And actually, I think I've only felt like that since every other household got one in lockdown - prior to that I would say I was ambivalent.

FastFood · 24/11/2025 15:17

Dogs are social animals, not just because they do well with other dogs, but mostly because they're "out there" with their owners, they act as a social lubricant, they create interactions between people.

Cats are very much more reserved and exclusive to their home.

ScrambledEggs12 · 24/11/2025 15:16

I hate dogs and love cats.

pinkdelight · 24/11/2025 15:15

This has nothing to do with society and everything to do with TV. You can make TV about dogs waaaaay more easily than you can about cats. I won't list the zillion reasons why as they should be obvious, but it's encapsulated by the term 'herding cats' versus the fact that some dogs are able to herd other animals. Forget about what TV can get commissioned and made, and think instead of the popularity of cat videos. Cats are great for candid stuff and loads of folk love them. To start comparing which is loved most is a bit silly as they're a textbook example of some people being into one or the other, there is no outright winner.

AllPlayedOut · 24/11/2025 15:15

ItsameLuigi · 24/11/2025 15:11

But no one wants your smelly dog in a restaurant, we just have to put up with it. Beaches are fine but anywhere food is served or even shops, they do not need to be there.

Speak for yourself. I love seeing dogs in restaurants and pubs so long as they are well behaved. One of my favourite things about visiting the Lake District is getting to fuss over all of the adorable dogs and even though I don’t take my dog on holiday, as he wouldn’t enjoy it, I’m actively attracted to dog friendly businesses because I love seeing everyone’s dogs and ideally getting to make a fuss of them.

Fruitfiddler · 24/11/2025 15:15

RescueMeFromThisSilliness · 24/11/2025 15:13

On the other hand... other people's cats don't jump up at you when you are out for a walk, leaving muddy pawprints all over your front. They don't shove their nose into your groin. They don't hump your leg. Their owners don't tend to have cats as a conversation topic to the exclusion of all else. They don't need taking for a walk. They don't bark or howl for hours on end and annoy the shit out of their neighbours. They don't incessantly demand constant attention from you. They don't harry sheep. They don't roll in fox shit.
And above all: they don't savage children (and sometimes adults) to death.

Cats kill tens of millions of birds a year, decimate the local wildlife population, and their shit is toxic. That's all in their nature.

Most of the issues you have described with dogs are down to bad ownership.

In the game of which sucks more, without human involvement, cats do. And I am a cat owner.

Avocad1sh · 24/11/2025 15:14

FancyLimePoet · 24/11/2025 15:09

I’m not sure cats crave or need the kind love and companionship a dog does. Dog’s are often taken on trips so they really become part of the family. Never seen a cat in a restaurant or at the beach on a sunny day! I think the connection is deeper. I don’t dislike cats. I like all creatures, but I love dogs (and horses).

Yes, having both cats and a dog I can confirm this is true for myself. I have memories with my dog of days out and trips away and adventures. Always by my side, ready to cheer me up. Before I got cats I didn’t really get it, i never hated them because I don’t hate any animal, I love them all. But I didn’t quite understand them and misjudged them. Now that I have cats, especially a scared rescue who loves and trusts only me and no one else, I feel I have EARNED their trust and love and that’s a great feeling and very rewarding. They all have their own unique personalities and quirks and honestly have brought so much to my life

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Waitingfordoggo · 24/11/2025 15:14

I like both cats and dogs, but I really REALLY love dogs. For me the difference is in the relationship. I think dogs engage with humans on a level that cats generally don’t. I know some cats seem to have more personality than others, but it’s just not quite the same- hard to explain. Maybe it’s just because all the cats I’ve had (6 to date) have been pretty independent whereas dogs rely on their humans much more. My cats have always seemed to have an attitude that they don’t care much whether I’m around or not- they could go and catch themselves some mice and birds if I fail to feed them. But the dog is always very very excited to see me, so I suppose my dog preference relates to my own sense of needing to be needed!

Comedycook · 24/11/2025 15:14

A colleague at work was telling me all about her dog the other day...I asked loads of questions and ooohed and ahhed when she told me what sort of things it did...and she showed me a photo and I told her how sweet it was....I lied.

RescueMeFromThisSilliness · 24/11/2025 15:13

Fruitfiddler · 24/11/2025 14:47

On people not liking cats, it's quite possibly as simple as many people don't like cats because they don't like picking up their neighbours cat shit from their back garden where their kids play, or dealing with the remains of dead birds after the neighbours cat has killed it on their lawn.

By and large, your neighbours dogs aren't shitting in your back garden or leaving the remains of dead birds on your patio.

Those are the reasons I don't like cats anyway (despite currently having one).

On the other hand... other people's cats don't jump up at you when you are out for a walk, leaving muddy pawprints all over your front. They don't shove their nose into your groin. They don't hump your leg. Their owners don't tend to have cats as a conversation topic to the exclusion of all else. They don't need taking for a walk. They don't bark or howl for hours on end and annoy the shit out of their neighbours. They don't incessantly demand constant attention from you. They don't harry sheep. They don't roll in fox shit.
And above all: they don't savage children (and sometimes adults) to death.

SeaAndStars · 24/11/2025 15:12

I wouldn't have another cat because I've created a wildlife garden and grow my own food. They're a menace to both.

ItsameLuigi · 24/11/2025 15:11

FancyLimePoet · 24/11/2025 15:09

I’m not sure cats crave or need the kind love and companionship a dog does. Dog’s are often taken on trips so they really become part of the family. Never seen a cat in a restaurant or at the beach on a sunny day! I think the connection is deeper. I don’t dislike cats. I like all creatures, but I love dogs (and horses).

But no one wants your smelly dog in a restaurant, we just have to put up with it. Beaches are fine but anywhere food is served or even shops, they do not need to be there.

NuffSaidSam · 24/11/2025 15:11

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 24/11/2025 15:06

I really don't like dogs, but I wouldn't tell you that. I wouldn't go on a rant about all the dog shit on pavements and hanging from trees.

I'd say 'aww, he's so cute!' or something.

Because you obviously love him, and I'm not going to be a dick about it, just like I wouldn't tell you your kid is annoying or your sofa is ugly! 😂

For some reason people seem more likely to go on at person who loves their cat about how much they hate cats. I've no idea why that is. It just makes me think they're an arsehole - mostly because it's bloody rude, not because they don't like cats!

Edit: typo...

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But the dogs don't hang their own shit from the trees...it makes sense to really dislike irresponsible dog owners for this reason. It's a strange reason to not like the dogs themselves.

Avocad1sh · 24/11/2025 15:10

KimberleyClark · 24/11/2025 15:08

I like dogs and cats with a slight preference for dogs. I think people don’t like cats because they kill so many birds. Between 40 and 70 million per year.

Yes I do hate that, I don’t hate the cats themselves but I do hate that this happens. My cats have a cat proofed garden so that they can’t get out so I don’t need to worry. But it does upset me when I think about this

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ItsameLuigi · 24/11/2025 15:10

WallaceinAnderland · 24/11/2025 15:08

We have to pretend to like dogs because people treat them like their children and would be offended if we were more honest. Thus, we are a nation of dog haters lovers. It's just British politeness.

People want to take their dogs everywhere, even bring them into your house. Imagine if people came to stay and said, 'We need to bring the cat'

I may actually have visitors if this was a stipulation. Please, bring all the cats.

NuffSaidSam · 24/11/2025 15:09

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 24/11/2025 15:04

I saw a meme that said people hate cats for the same reason men hate women - they have boundaries and want you to respect them.

If I was regularly shitting in a mans garden I think he'd have every right to hate me tbh.

FancyLimePoet · 24/11/2025 15:09

I’m not sure cats crave or need the kind love and companionship a dog does. Dog’s are often taken on trips so they really become part of the family. Never seen a cat in a restaurant or at the beach on a sunny day! I think the connection is deeper. I don’t dislike cats. I like all creatures, but I love dogs (and horses).

WallaceinAnderland · 24/11/2025 15:08

We have to pretend to like dogs because people treat them like their children and would be offended if we were more honest. Thus, we are a nation of dog haters lovers. It's just British politeness.

People want to take their dogs everywhere, even bring them into your house. Imagine if people came to stay and said, 'We need to bring the cat'

KimberleyClark · 24/11/2025 15:08

I like dogs and cats with a slight preference for dogs. I think people don’t like cats because they kill so many birds. Between 40 and 70 million per year.

NuffSaidSam · 24/11/2025 15:07

Comedycook · 24/11/2025 15:03

Dogs have killed people though

People have killed people. So I think by this measure we're looking at cats being at the top of the tree, followed by dogs and then humans right down the bottom.

AllPlayedOut · 24/11/2025 15:07

Comedycook · 24/11/2025 15:03

Dogs have killed people though

And can spread disease, shit in other people’s gardens and can and do kill wildlife and farm animals.

Personally I adore both and I don’t really understand or trust people who dislike cats or dogs.

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