AIBU to not let DS go to a rave

in contrast to Fabric, which is a labyrinth for those who haven't been before - I remember being overwhelmed the first time I went, though not so overwhelmed that I didn't spend much of the next decade there

DS2 spent his late teen years/early 20s at Fabric! There was a recent book out to celebrate its 25th anniversary 😊

My dd's go to raves, like you, I was a bit at first.
It turns out their raves are not like the raves that were about in the late 80's/early 90's.
They are basically DJ sets in clubs, not drugged up people roaming round fields.

Pete Tong?

This thread has gone a bit Monty python.

Aye, when I were 16, I used to go to a crack house, and bear knuckle box wild bears, while pissed on lighter fluid..

And you tell the youth of today that...

It’ll be completely full of London private school kids- and there are queues and queues of parents and Ubers picking up.

Well that's no fun is it. No stopping off for a bag of chips or a dodgy kebab on the way home if your parents are picking you up.

My son used to go to these and they are really good, so safe and well organised. Lots of door staff who are quite strict about who they let in and there is free water given out inside.

My son has only stopped going because he is 17 now and feels a bit old.

Let him go, he’ll love it.

In under two years he will probably be in the same dodgy areas but it will be 4am instead of 9pm and he will probably be under the influence. I'd loosen the apron strings a bit in preparation for that.

YABU.

The Ministry of Sound is in Elephant and Castle, which is a busy, well-lit, bustling part of London. There has been a lot of development there - It hasn't been "dodgy" for about 20 years. There is a tube station and loads of buses and taxis. I would let him go.

You are being ridiculously over protective. It's a kids disco basically. Let him go.

Also Gen Z are such bores. I can't imagine he'll be fucking in the toilets or throwing up in somebodies handbag. It's not the Eighties... those were the days.

It’ll be completely full of London private school kids- and there are queues and queues of parents and Ubers picking up. He’s not going to be coming out to a deserted urban wasteland…
totally fine

Ministry is not in a dodgy area of London. It's behind a university and next to a massive street food market. It's also about two minutes walk from a tube station.

It's probably about the "safest" mainstream club in London. Stringent security including metal detectors. Layout is easy to navigate and feels smaller than it is (in contrast to Fabric, which is a labyrinth for those who haven't been before - I remember being overwhelmed the first time I went, though not so overwhelmed that I didn't spend much of the next decade there).

There's absolutely nothing to worry about with this. As a clubber I think it's a really good idea - gives kids a taste of a real clubbing experience in an actual club, hopefully with good DJs, in what sounds like an extremely safe setting at an extremely safe time.

Thanks!

Exactly this.

I worked in the area in the late 80s and it was distinctly edgy.

MoS is on the same road as Borough Market which is one of the bougiest areas you can throw an avocado at. 9pm in a Friday night that area will be heaving with people whose main interest is where they can find hand-crocheted hummus.

Dodgy part of London. You're about 10 years out of date on that. Its all reformer Pilates studios and.......there is a Pret.

I know it's hard letting go but I'd say this as low risk (but I would say that as I was going ministry of sound at that age back in the 90s! I'm not advocating for that but a middle ground?).

You’re being completely absurd. It finishes at 9pm and it’s been organised for his age group! It’s about as safe as it gets. Get a grip.

It’s organised by Brighton Youth Club and usually once a month at Revenge. 7-10pm I think.

It advertised as lgbtq and allies but it’s pretty mixed. Him and his group of mates enjoy it.

I was in Elephant the other night in a pub, walked past the Ministry. I haven’t been that way for years (north Londoner) and the area is a lot nicer than it used to be. Plus MoS is close to the tube, so easy to get there and away

YABU - it’s a teen disco! I did a lot worse at 16 - fake IDs etc. so this sounds incredibly tame

If you don't allow this one he'll definitely be at the next one, he just won't tell you.

Oh for Pete’s sake. Do you ever leave your house? I’m in my 60s and I’m back and forth to London all the time. This sounds like the most sanitised and pedestrian thing going. When I was 16 I was underage drinking in nightclubs.

Yeah it’s not a real rave 😅
It’s just a teen concert and Ministry of Sound is tame.

There won’t be songs about beating your bitch up or raping dem hos with your bros or shooting up a school.

id let him go. Good clean fun for younger teens.

Same! Fake ID to get into The Venue at New Cross. Let him go! The kids love all that kind of thing. He’ll never be that age again x

Don’t let him go to a perfectly legit event for his own age group after he has asked and you’ll find that next time and for the rest of time he won’t ask and he’ll lie to you.

Id absolutely allow this and I'm quite cautious parent