Visited my parents with baby and DS4 (awaiting autism assessment, is verbal). My dad (I am CERTAIN is autistic) is very playful with my son, my son adores him. But he does run out of patience.
My dad taught my son years ago how to blow raspberries. They both do it to each other as a game, do it on FaceTime too etc.
We all are on the tail end of a flu virus. My dad is irritable because he can’t cope with feeling unwell.
Anyway, whilst I was upstairs with the baby, my son was downstairs with my parents. My son blew a raspberry at him. My dad then pushed him (in an angry, get away type way) and my son fell onto the sofa. My son thinks this is hilarious and a game because why else would his beloved grandad push him etc. My mum immediately told off my dad. My dad then says “shall I just bugger off then ?”. My dad has driven off in his car about an hour ago, no idea where and to be honest none of us are particularly fussed. It’s for the best he’s not here.
I’m fuming. My mum knows he shouldn’t have done it but doesn’t want cause a drama. My DH thinks it was a stupid thing to do but says that my dad is “like that”.
I don’t particularly want to come here for Christmas Day now as I don’t want my dad to get so angered , perhaps if he can’t cope around my son he shouldn’t be made to spend time with us. But my son adores my parents and it would upset my mum if we didn’t go.
Am I overreacting?