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Knickers under pyjamas yay or nay

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AMBOG · 22/11/2025 20:42

Discussion with friends. Very heated disagreement. Unreasonable wearing knickers . Reasonable not wearing knickers

OP posts:
Firefly1987 · 22/11/2025 22:03

CantBreathe90 · 22/11/2025 21:35

What would be the purpose of wearing knickers to bed?! Unless they're sexy ones?

Because it's more hygienic?

Gonners · 22/11/2025 22:03

hamsterchump · 22/11/2025 21:42

I wear boys boxer shorts (well they're not any boy's, they're mine I bought them for me from M&S but you see what I mean) in bed with a vest or crop top, a new pair every night. The stretchy, cotton boxer briefs designed for men or boys are so comfortable, so much more comfortable than any pyjama shorts because they don't have a central seam and because they're shorts they don't ride up or cut in like knickers can. Plus no VAT on children's clothes means they're cheap.

Men's thermal leggings are also very much more comfortable (and warmer) than women's. I'm 5'5" and on the skinny side, and men's size "small" is perfect. I don't wear them in bed, obviously. Nor do I wear knickers in bed, with or without pyjamas.

YourMotherSortsSocksInHell · 22/11/2025 22:01

Getting into jammies after work - knickers (I may have to take the dog out, judge all you like) .

Getting into jammies after a bath/going to bed - no knickers.

caringcarer · 22/11/2025 21:59

I hate wearing anything in bed. More comfortable sleeping nude. I wear a nighty if I have to share a room with anyone other than DH but never knickers in bed. 😱

TooTightDiamondShoesDoingMyHeadIn · 22/11/2025 21:59

TheDenimPoet · 22/11/2025 21:51

Obviously you wear protection during your period, that doesn't mean you have to wear knickers the other 75% of your life.

..I find it comfortable to wear as little as possible, so no knickers. I don't know why anyone would want to wear the knickers they've worn all day to bed, unless you wear new knickers in bed, in which case, what a waste! Who has time for double washing?!

Really? How big are your pants that an extra pair a day would take up room in the wash 😂

I go through 3 pairs a day when I go the gym as I shower afterwards. 3 showers a day then too!

Goinggreymammy · 22/11/2025 21:58

I wear knickers. Used to sleep with neither and can't reremember when or why I changed, or what I did as a child.
But... since a few repeated bad doses of pinworms in the house about 4 years ago I have my children wear knickers under their PJs and change them in the morning as this helps prevent the eggs getting everywhere/spread.

Kreepture · 22/11/2025 21:57

AMBOG · 22/11/2025 20:56

You will be shocked to know my very dirty friends don’t wear knickers and only change their pyjamas once a week!!!

Team No knickers, and i change my PJ's every 3 nights.

What i am shocked at is you calling your friends 'very dirty'

Aren't you a lovely friend.

Brightbluesomething · 22/11/2025 21:57

Pearlmaster500 · 22/11/2025 21:44

For the butt naked sleepers… do you do this all winter aswell?!

I only sleep naked if I’m sleeping with someone else in the bed who can create a heat source. No heating on overnight, I’m northern. We were taught not to.

Angelchick1971 · 22/11/2025 21:57

I don't wear pj's or knickers for bed. Naked is the only way

LegoLivingRoom · 22/11/2025 21:55

There’s no way I could sleep without pants on. Even in the height of summer, when I don’t wear pjs, the pants stay on.

Ahfiddlesticks · 22/11/2025 21:55

MightyGoldBear · 22/11/2025 21:45

Does no one else get discharge? Obviously different at different times of the month but without knickers I'd be going through tons of sheets and pj's !

I've never found discharge on my sheets (I don't wear knickers or pyjama bottoms) and I do look.

Mistletoewench · 22/11/2025 21:54

Always told by my mum to “let your bottom breath at night” so I guess I’m the no knickers brigade 😆

Pricelessadvice · 22/11/2025 21:54

nopiesleftinthisvehicle · 22/11/2025 21:51

Absolutely knickers (Primark Thongs pack of 5, so comfy)
Pyjamas have seams and chafe.

Thongs?? Like up your bum crack?

I couldn’t wear those at night! It’s comfy slouchy big knickers for me.

Pricelessadvice · 22/11/2025 21:53

TheDenimPoet · 22/11/2025 21:51

Obviously you wear protection during your period, that doesn't mean you have to wear knickers the other 75% of your life.

..I find it comfortable to wear as little as possible, so no knickers. I don't know why anyone would want to wear the knickers they've worn all day to bed, unless you wear new knickers in bed, in which case, what a waste! Who has time for double washing?!

I wear fresh ‘night knickers’ (I have some that are larger and more comfortable that I wear at night)

Frugalgal · 22/11/2025 21:52

KickHimInTheCrotch · 22/11/2025 21:40

I hate knickers. Definitely no knickers at night, ideally no knickers at any time.

Me too, they're so uncomfortable and when you're not in the habit of wearing them, it's so much worse.

Notashamed13 · 22/11/2025 21:52

I only wear knickers 🙆

nopiesleftinthisvehicle · 22/11/2025 21:51

Absolutely knickers (Primark Thongs pack of 5, so comfy)
Pyjamas have seams and chafe.

TheDenimPoet · 22/11/2025 21:51

GingerBeverage · 22/11/2025 20:51

What happens during period bleeding?

Team knickers.

Obviously you wear protection during your period, that doesn't mean you have to wear knickers the other 75% of your life.

..I find it comfortable to wear as little as possible, so no knickers. I don't know why anyone would want to wear the knickers they've worn all day to bed, unless you wear new knickers in bed, in which case, what a waste! Who has time for double washing?!

TooTightDiamondShoesDoingMyHeadIn · 22/11/2025 21:51

seasid · 22/11/2025 21:46

Unless I’m wearing a nightie - I will never wear bra or knickers. I’ve also raised my child to not wear underwear at night either. I guess it depends on how you were raised, I grew up with my mum telling us kids to let your bits ‘breathe’ - so it just became a thing that I acknowledged and it’s all I knew. I prioritise comfort and not wearing underwear, especially as a woman is comfortable and can prevent UTI’s as it’s not there rubbing constantly. When I was at uni and had friends stay, I remember being shocked to realise they slept in a bra - like that’s the first thing that comes off when I come home, and has been that way since I was about 14 years old. Sleeping in a bra by choice is wild stuff

Aren’t the joins in the fabric in PJs in the vag area more likely to rub and cause UTIs than knickers which have a gusset designed to prevent that?

Do PJs have gussets nowadays?

LowShelfEsteem · 22/11/2025 21:49

Stillpoor · 22/11/2025 21:33

Me to i also wear a bra not a tight one but a nice soft one.
I once got told that wearing a bra to bed was disgusting, and would make my boobs sag.
20 some odd years latter id like to say my boobs are not sagging, and the old hag was wrong.

Yes! Surely our way would help sag, not cause it!

Aliflowers · 22/11/2025 21:49

happysunr1se · 22/11/2025 21:37

For all those people sleeping naked, at this time of year do you have the heating on over night? My heating is set to go off at 11pm and comes back on at 6am. If I slept naked I'd be cold.

And I always have to have my feet covered because otherwise the foot fairy might get me. If I wore no pants I'd be worried the fanny fairy might come a visiting

No heating on. The house is well insulated so holds heat ok overnight. Also have a heavy duvet and 6ft DH who clings to me like a limpet and generates Chernobyl levels of heat

TiggyTomCat · 22/11/2025 21:48

Nightie and no knickers! 😀

StampOnTheGround · 22/11/2025 21:48

Always knickers, I had no clue people did anything else and now I’m baffled 😂

seaelephant · 22/11/2025 21:48

No knickers, they're uncomfortable in bed and I like to let it breathe. I also wear them more than once

seasid · 22/11/2025 21:46

Unless I’m wearing a nightie - I will never wear bra or knickers. I’ve also raised my child to not wear underwear at night either. I guess it depends on how you were raised, I grew up with my mum telling us kids to let your bits ‘breathe’ - so it just became a thing that I acknowledged and it’s all I knew. I prioritise comfort and not wearing underwear, especially as a woman is comfortable and can prevent UTI’s as it’s not there rubbing constantly. When I was at uni and had friends stay, I remember being shocked to realise they slept in a bra - like that’s the first thing that comes off when I come home, and has been that way since I was about 14 years old. Sleeping in a bra by choice is wild stuff

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