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Knickers under pyjamas yay or nay

529 replies

AMBOG · 22/11/2025 20:42

Discussion with friends. Very heated disagreement. Unreasonable wearing knickers . Reasonable not wearing knickers

OP posts:
AngelinaFibres · 22/11/2025 23:22

I'm 60 ,post menopausal and have lichen sclerosis ( very uncomfortable/ often painful auto-immune condition of the genital area). Couldn't bear to wear anything over that area at night.

Yourlifeinyourhands · 22/11/2025 23:21

Knickers as it’s uncomfortable otherwise

Whatwerewetalkingabout · 22/11/2025 23:17

I used to sleep in the buff mostly, knickers when needed. After kids, knickers and vest (tbf leaking boobs trained me to wear a top just so I could use boob pads as I soaked through the duvet when my milk came in). I can't bear wearing long sleeves and long pants in bed.

I do have PJs but only if I'm staying somewhere, have guests over or maybe if I'm ill and need something low effort to wear downstairs. I can only just tolerate short sleaved pjs with shorts in bed, I don't think I could sleep in anything long sleeved and would have to strip eventually down to my underwear to sleep, no matter how cold.

AngelinaFibres · 22/11/2025 23:17

ohwoaw · 22/11/2025 22:56

My parents were a naked family and I still have flashbacks. I won’t traumatise my kids with the sight of my bare arse/boobs unnecessarily

My parents were nudists. I did not enjoy seeing them naked.

Ahfiddlesticks · 22/11/2025 23:16

ohwoaw · 22/11/2025 22:56

My parents were a naked family and I still have flashbacks. I won’t traumatise my kids with the sight of my bare arse/boobs unnecessarily

Fair enough. DH and I both came from naked families and didn't care.

Firefly1987 · 22/11/2025 23:14

CantBreathe90 · 22/11/2025 23:00

How? Assuming your bum isn't dirty enough to grub through a layer of material onto your bed or sofa or whatever? Plus, you're more likely to get thrush if you don't air your bits out, which is sort of a hygiene issue in itself, no?

I've never had thrush, at least I don't think so (not super aware of the symptoms) but I'd just rather wear pants and change them daily than have to change PJs daily. I mean isn't that why they invented underwear? Confused otherwise why wear any EVER?

Lastfroginthebox · 22/11/2025 23:13

CoubousAndTourmaIet · 22/11/2025 23:08

Given that I'm nearly 62, I'm not doing badly. But thanks for your vote of confidence😏

Things go downhill at an ever increasing rate! I never had a UTI until I was 66 but you may well be lucky. Lots of people are. Really, I just find it more comfortable not wearing knickers in bed but I know other people prefer to do so.

Forthelov · 22/11/2025 23:13

Pollqueen · 22/11/2025 21:09

This. Air your bits at night

Yep - my mum said this too. No knickers in bed.

AngelinaFibres · 22/11/2025 23:13

I sleep naked but wear pjs when pottering about downstairs in the evening. Don't like anything on in bed. No knickers under the pjs.
My grandchildren arrive at 7.15 every Monday and they are usually in their pjs. One is in a nappy the other wears pants under his pjs. I think he must sleep in the pants at home too . When they sleepover at my house I have never put pants on under the pjs. Never occurred to me until I read this thread.Didnt wear pants under pjs when my brothers and I were children.

Retrogamer · 22/11/2025 23:11

Pyjamas- no
Nightie - yes

landlordhell · 22/11/2025 23:11

Love taking knickers off before bed. Nightshirt on . Freedom and air!

ohwoaw · 22/11/2025 23:10

crappycrapcrap · 22/11/2025 23:08

Always fresh massive night time knickers

Knickers up to the boobs. Best comfort ever

JudgeJ · 22/11/2025 23:10

SnoworRainbow · 22/11/2025 21:11

That's madness! I take mine off early evening most days

In Summer I would remove my bra at the traffic lights as I drove home from school! Hate how it is so sweaty.

CoubousAndTourmaIet · 22/11/2025 23:08

Lastfroginthebox · 22/11/2025 23:04

...yet.

Given that I'm nearly 62, I'm not doing badly. But thanks for your vote of confidence😏

crappycrapcrap · 22/11/2025 23:08

Always fresh massive night time knickers

landlordhell · 22/11/2025 23:08

No knickers or PJs. Night shirt here.

CantBreathe90 · 22/11/2025 23:07

I love how weirdly heated this thread has also become 😂 Clearly this is a more controversial topic than anyone realised!

GagMeWithASpoon · 22/11/2025 23:07

Lastfroginthebox · 22/11/2025 23:04

...yet.

I’m 40 and always wore knickers. If it is to happen after so long, I wouldn’t blame wearing knickers. Confused

Lastfroginthebox · 22/11/2025 23:04

CoubousAndTourmaIet · 22/11/2025 23:01

Knickers, always. Never had thrush, never had a UTI.

...yet.

Lastfroginthebox · 22/11/2025 23:04

No knickers in bed, whatever else you might be wearing (or not).

Neeroy · 22/11/2025 23:03

Knickers under pjs and I have a shower every day. Cannot be bothered washing pjs every day. Definitely don't want to put on crusty pjs every night.

CoubousAndTourmaIet · 22/11/2025 23:01

Knickers, always. Never had thrush, never had a UTI.

CantBreathe90 · 22/11/2025 23:00

Firefly1987 · 22/11/2025 22:03

Because it's more hygienic?

How? Assuming your bum isn't dirty enough to grub through a layer of material onto your bed or sofa or whatever? Plus, you're more likely to get thrush if you don't air your bits out, which is sort of a hygiene issue in itself, no?

Criteria16 · 22/11/2025 22:59

I am in my 50s and only recently learned someone doesn’t wear knickers in bed!!! I leats wore them and never in my life suffered from any form of infections or other down there, and neither my partner and family, who do the same. Maybe it’s cultural as we are not British? Even if I could I don’t think I would as it means changing my pijamas daily and I don’t have enough time to do all that laundry (but I change my knickers twice a day).

Kreepture · 22/11/2025 22:58

Ahfiddlesticks · 22/11/2025 22:54

We are a very naked family, so not currently an issue for us. We'll often all be naked in bathroom or wandering from bathroom to bed room. I guess when DS (9) starts to be concerned about such things he may no longer just barge in the room or get in bed with us, but currently he happily wanders in whilst I'm in the shower or bath and comes for hugs whilst I'm naked.

Up to about 8 it didn't bother me, after that it did.

Caveat that mine are now teens, which makes a difference, but I still keep an open door policy and they do still both wander in and out freely, and come get a cuddle if they've had a bad night, or feel ill, or just want to show me some dumb meme at 1am (im usually still awake til 2am)

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