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Bully not invited to my childs party

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Mellyt3lly · 22/11/2025 16:31

Hi, My childs is having a birthday party soon for there 9th birthday. We are handing out invites next week. However yesterday at school. Another child aggressively and completely unprovoked attacked my child, which left my child completely petrified and had to be sent home early with potentially broken fingers (thankfully all ok)
Now ive been told by my child that they dont want to invite this other child to the party with what I think is a perfectly acceptable reason but this would mean the whole class is invited apart from one. I have no way of giving out invites any other way. AIBU to just send the invites into school.

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AnneLovesGilbert · 22/11/2025 16:39

Will the teacher let you hand out invitations if not everyone is invited?

The bully definitely shouldn’t be invited, actions have consequences and you don’t get to nearly break a peer’s hand then get included in their party, that would be ridiculous. What are the school doing to keep your son safe from further attacks? I’m so sorry it happened.

ResusciAnnie · 22/11/2025 16:38

Obviously don’t make your kid be around
someone who almost broke his fingers. Unfortunately a consequence of almost breaking someone’s fingers is not being invited to their party.

Balloonhearts · 22/11/2025 16:37

Not unreasonable. This is how they learn that behaviour has consequences.

ContinuewithGoogle · 22/11/2025 16:36

I wouldn't invite a bully, it's not fair on the birthday child, it's not fair on the other guests when the bully tries to ruin the party and attack them.

I would also be very clear with the school that I want confirmation they keep the bully out of my child's face and keep my own child safe.

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