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Mumsnetters need to relax with the projection and straw clutching

52 replies

Crene · 22/11/2025 15:49

I’ve noticed a pattern lately: a lot of commenters are wildly over analysing OPs in really exaggerated ways. It’s surprising how often people feel confident declaring things like “you have unrealistic expectations,” “you’re too immature for marriage,” or even “did you grow up on Disney movies?”…all based on a couple of short posts with barely any context.

There’s a huge amount of projection happening and people write entire essays as if their interpretation is the only correct one. It’s frustrating and honestly I find it derails a lot of discussions.
What makes it worse is that many posters don’t seem interested in asking clarifying questions or trying to understand the situation more fully. They jump straight to sweeping assumptions with almost no information to back them up.

A friend sent me a thread of hers on here and so could not believe the psycho babble that went on. She barely said anything but had long winded replies lambasting what a fool she was in her marriage. Really bizarre.

Anyone else noticed this too?

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MrsTerryPratchett · 22/11/2025 15:55

There are about eleventy billion posters on here. Just comment on the thread. The ‘Mumsnet does THIS THING’ threads get a little tiresome. Of course there are people who jump to conclusions. There are also those who don’t.

The actual solution is for OPs to ignore twats and interact with good-faith posters. But often all the OP’s comments are only to the twats.

Cornthin · 22/11/2025 15:53

Had your friend confided in you re her marriage?