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Honestly, am I being an arse in not wanting these clothes?

35 replies

violinsandcellos · 21/11/2025 19:34

I’m not anti second hand at all but I’ve been given two big bags of clothes for my four year old ds and … I don’t like them. They are filled with jeans, football shirts, sports clothing like Nike and he just looks like a totally different child in them.

am I being a twat? Tell me honestly.

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EmmaOvary · 21/11/2025 19:53

Of course you don’t have to keep them. I got loads of hand me downs, very grateful to get them but there was stuff I just didn’t like and I either donated to charity or gave it away for free on Facebook Marketplace.

arcticpandas · 21/11/2025 19:52

Pass them on then. But what's wrong with sports clothes? Are your ds constantly in shirt and chinos?

HarbourClankCat · 21/11/2025 19:51

No. Put your foot down now. Some people see people with younger children as convenient ways to offload their recycling without hassle.

I used to get bags of stuff my son would never wear three ages too big and was too polite to do or say anything other than be grateful.

DrCoconut · 21/11/2025 19:47

I get the football shirts thing but what's wrong with jeans or joggers? Unless the sportswear is something similar to the football stuff?

captainoctopus · 21/11/2025 19:43

I would have used them for play clothes - but we live out in the country where rough clothes are always useful.

Rhubarbx1 · 21/11/2025 19:40

Absolutely not. YANBU. Your child your choice (until their old enough to decide otherwise)

Bin them or donate them. Either way dont hold on to them. Best case stick it on vinted / market place and make some money off of it and buy your babe something you do like.

Im rather ruthless with this crap, I have no interest in keeping anything that doesn't bring me joy.

Appleberrybloom · 21/11/2025 19:39

Not a chance I'd be putting my kid in them. Depends on your circumstances though if your child needs new clothes and you cant afford them, then yes YABU.

If your child has clothes/buying alternative clothes won't put you in financial hardship then YANBU.

Either give them back or donate them to charity.

MargaretThursday · 21/11/2025 19:38

Well it depends.

If you were moaning to a friend about your ds having nothing to wear and you couldn't afford to buy him anything now his clothes are too small and she said that she was selling some clothes but you could have them for free, then you're very UR.

If you asked her to bring over her ds' old clothes because you'd like them, then you're being a bit UR.

If your friend turned up saying that she didn't want these old clothes any more so your Ds could have them and you spluttered "but we don't need them..." and she left them anyway then you are being R.

SlashBeef · 21/11/2025 19:36

Yanbu I didn't like to dress my boys like that (when I still had influence) but I'd say thank you and try to get some use out of them. Soft play, layering up for chilly walks, etc.

Unpaidviewer · 21/11/2025 19:36

Can't you use them for play or nursery clothes? If you don't want to and don't need them then just donate them.