Honestly, am I being an arse in not wanting these clothes?

My kids used to get through clothes like crazy so I'd probably keep some for the garden. But if you don't want them, just say so and give them back and they can pass them on to someone else.
It's not unreasonable.

There are mums and DC who'd love that stuff. Which doesn't make you a twat that you don't, but means it would be a massive shame for you to use them for things that will spoil them, under sufferance, when another family would be delighted and get pleasure from them. Tell your friend DS has loads so wouldn't get to wear them, and you don't want them wasted. So would she prefer them back to donate elsewhere, or should you pass them on.

I’d sell the ones with logos and donate the rest; then buy what you want your son to wear.

|'ve had similar. I've kept a few bits for painting/ crafting clothes (very useful) and donated the rest.

Some bits I didn't expect to want ended up coming in surprisingly useful when my daughter had to wear a green t shirt for sports day or spots for chidrens in need.

Sometimes people ‘give’ you stuff and then want it back later to sell on eBay or similar. What I would do is check what she wants you to do when ‘you’ve finished’ with them. If it’s pass them onto charity, do that immediately 😉
Next time, refuse them politely from the off and be ready for it.

Yeah, a bit. If you can afford to pass them on, fine. The rest of it? He's 4 and will have grown out of them by the time I've written this. Obviously you can choose what your child wears but these sound like muddy walk/playground/spaghetti bolognaise for dinner clothes.

Donate if you want.

I would have used them for nursery and park personally. I kept nice clothes for meals out etc. Whether they are wearing addidas hoodie or a knitted jumper with a dinosaur on the clothes get ruined.

It is nice to have them in little kid clothes. Soon enough they will be head to toe in black Nike or worse.

I actually think if he's 4 you should hang on to them. Won't he be at school soon? My ds1 was very aware of brands and fitting in from a young age and was keen to have nike trainers quite early, maybe not reception but soon after. Ds2 OTOH has only just copped on to berghaus and alpyrex and monterex now at 11. He marched me off to JD and it cost me £300!

OP just pass them on. I find with kids clothes we all have our own particular tastes. I buy a lot of second hand but I’m fussy about certain brands and styles and fabrics. 13 year old DD was given a bag of stuff recently that we just added to the recycling pile.

Depends if you've had a conversation beforehand saying yes please to a bag of free clothes, or if they've just been dumped on you. (If it's the latter yanbu.)

I think if the op cant afford clothing for their little one, then selling something they dont want to fund clothing they do want is totally acceptable.

Charity shop? Quietly donate.

This is the perfect response for me - it means the person has the chance to pass them on to someone else if they want to, and if they just wanted them out of the house then you can feel free to pass it on to a charity shop/friend/whatever.

You're not being a twat at all. Sort through, keep anything you will use, and then donate the rest at a clothes bank or offer to someone else who might make use of them. Assuming whoever gave them to you is ok with that, it's worth just checking that they don't mind what happens to them.

Tell them you picked out what you want and there’s loads left, should you donate it forward or do they want it back.

How so?!

I suggested binning, donating or selling....

Who wants to keep shit they wont use! Dispose any which way you want but its pointless keeping it.

Bit cheeky selling clothes someone gave you for free! Donate to charity or another child if you don't like them. Binning them seems extreme too!

Keep the bits that are ok without logos etc and donate the rest.

Bin them? You sound weird.

I think yabu and snobby. A four year old should dress for comfort and activity and second hand clothes mean you don't have to worry about things getting ruined and are much better for the environment.

Just donate them to a charity clothing bank. Someone will be grateful

It depends if the clothes were just dumped on you or there was a conversation where you agreed to them.

I would try to use some but not use the ones that really weren’t my taste. I really enjoyed choosing clothes for my dd and bought a lot second hand, but all our taste.

By sports clothing do you just mean joggers? I don’t really see whats objectionable about a 4 year old running round the playground in joggers - can’t you use them for outdoor messy play? Ditto a football shirt - it’s winter, no one will even see it under a jumper and coat at the park.

Mine (6&3) don’t wear jeans but that’s because they don’t like the feel of them rather than because I have any strong feelings on it.

I’d ask the person who gave them to me if they wanted back the pieces you won’t use or whether you should donate them. Then I’d keep a couple of things and give the rest back/to charity.

No, not really. He’ll soon form his own opinions in what he wants to wear, so make the most of having the choice to say no to tracksuits 😂 it’s funny, I don’t consider myself vain in really any way at all and I am very keen on second hand (be that Vinted or charity shops) but I am quite particular about styles of clothes.