To ask you what is the worst thing your MIL has done or said to you?

@dundermiffling that's absolutely horrendous and I feel the same about mine.

Robbed precious memories and times and made worse times worse.

It's weird isn't it. My DD was rushed to hospital with breathing issues it was terrifying end mil made it all about her and I felt she was questioning DH because she didn't believe us and wouldn't come to the hospital to visit either. Like yours made it all about her !!
She did that many times.

Obviously not as serious as your DD ,but that attention thing just awful.

Abu @Livelovebehappy it gives people with awful mil a forum. Go yourself to some other thread with the lovely MILs.

@FreshDoughDaily wow on what grounds did she thinks a case and why thrown out

My MIL wasn’t as bad as any of these - we tolerated each other, but were very different people. The worst thing she ever said to me was during our wedding reception. She came to say goodbye as they were leaving early and whispered in my ear, “you’re the least attractive woman my son’s ever been with, but he does seem happy so I’m pleased.” I guess it was a sort of backhanded compliment, but thanks for saying I’m ugly on the day I’ve had hair and makeup done professionally 😂

I’ve got sons myself and I have every intention of being a good MIL. 🤞

I was in Sainsbury’s today and tried to think do i care that he gets married again tomorrow. And no i don’t. Which is good. His mum my mil is dead. Ironically i would have looked out for her in her later years. But we were divorced. I respected her strength but she had an awful superiority maybe common in her demographic. I was there when he saw her for the last time. She was still strong made us tea. I felt such a strong sympathy. But couldn’t step in and do anything as I was no one really. He was actually the most pathetic person. Couldn’t be there for his mum. Tbh he is quite a scary psychotic person. I’m so glad he is nothing to me.

Not my Mil, my sister's.
Her DS birthday is 8 December, so obviously very close to Christmas.
Her MIL asks every year what he wants, so sister has a Amazon Wishlist for him, and up dates it from around October time with gifts ranging from £3 or £4 to more. But nothing more than £30. This is to give people ideas....also it covers both birthday and Christmas. So there's often around 30 items. Her MIL saw the list and said "oh, he's a greedy little boy isn't he?? What's he need all that for?". Sister explains, "oh, it's inspiration/ideas and he obviously wouldn't expect everything. And it is for birthday AND Christmas".
MIL double downed and said "he shouldn't be so greedy, expecting 2 gifts from people!"

She will only buy him one present for birthday AND Christmas.... The other GKs get one for each event... Mean old cow.

Gosh it's jealousy isn't it !
Deep bitter jealously driving all these mils!

My fiancé had just tried to strangle me over a fence. I was far from home and we had just got engaged that day. We were staying with his mum. He told her we’d got engaged. All she said was ‘you’re not good enough for him’. I wish id been strong enough to just walk out. And head off somewhere, anywhere. We were married for 20 years. It wasn’t happy. He gets married again tomorrow.

I don't really get why this is so awful. She was wrong, as it turned out, but was prob just commenting on what she thought was likely to happen. If that's as bad as it gets, you're doing very well.

“You’re not the first, and you won’t be the last” after I miscarried.

ex mother in law thank fuck

My 2nd MIL was a very thoughtful woman, so if she had a gripe with me I didn’t know about it.

However she became terminally ill during the last 18 months of her life and wrote me a very upsetting letter.

the situation was caused by her daughter claiming I sent her a horrible email that so upset her, she went crying to her mother.

We were living o/s at the time so I called MIL to discuss what it was I supposedly sent. I hadn’t been in contacted with my SIL for several months prior to this and I told MIL this, I also asked had she read what I had supposedly written and that’s when she said it had upset her daughter so much so had to destroy it.. no idea of the content but it was “horrible” and how could I do that to SIL… ?

I pointed out again that I hadn’t been in contact with her daughter. Her answer was, well why would she lie? I replied why would I?

she eventually moved in with her daughter who made it impossible for DH to speak to his mum, so we visited.

Her house had been stripped of the newer items by the daughter’s family. MIL had no idea but was ill. SIL said in front of everyone I had told her were staying at a friends house (I still hadn’t any contact with her at this point) and I clearly replied that I had said no such thing…

MIL died a couple of months later. Conversation was never the same with MIL on the phone in between the letter and seeing her slipping away.

I find it hard to reconcile, but just choose to remember her before this period and when FIL was alive as he nipped this behaviour from his daughter in the bud very quickly…

DH says ‘I told you what she was like” and has re-buffed a couple of attempts his not so dear sibling has made to connect with him.

when we had just had DC1 after an emergency c section and long labour, she and my FIL visited and they said “oh we were hoping for a boy” as they cuddled her.
now they show no interest in either of our children - or us!

After 25 years of marriage and us having 3 teenage dc, MIL had failed to wreck our marriage despite being unpleasant throughout. Clearly feeling that her demise was imminent, she upped her efforts, and was instrumental in deciding that my husband should marry his adopted cousin, who had been helping to care for her. She got about two thirds of the family on board with this before she died, so everyone knew he'd promised to go through with it. He then had a religious marriage ceremony to this woman, lived a double life for 2 years, and got into debt before I found out exactly what he'd done. I don't absolve him of responsibility, and the above is what I believe happened based on what seems believable from his various versions of events, plus photographic evidence and accounts from other family members. We got divorced this week, next February would have been our 30th anniversary. Our dc are all in counselling and I'm about to start counselling too... my MIL was really not very nice.

Oh gosh so many - some that come to mind: telling me my DD's birthday wasn't a 'great day to be born' a week after I gave birth...still no idea what that comment was about, she wasn't born on a significant day for the family or anything.

Telling me I'm not the only person to have ever given birth after I collapsed from blood loss and needed a blood transfusion so had to go back into hospital which pissed her off because it was the day she was meant to be visiting the baby for the first time.

Calling me lazy because I didn't leave the house for three weeks after having DD (one of those was spent in hospital).

This thread definitely makes me feel less alone!

The amount of things she has done over the years are too numerous to even try to list but one of the ones I'll never forgive or understand is her ringing my husband for financial advice the day after I received methotrexate for an ovarian ectopic pregnancy and what is my 3rd pregnancy loss. I was lying on the settee unwell and in a lot of pain and she thought that was the best time to ring! As I say, there have been too many things and recently she went too far and we've cut contact with her entirely.

We already had 2 children, so she already had 2 Grandchildren. Her daughter was pregnant and MIL said to us “I can’t wait to get a grand baby “. We pointed out she already had 2 and she replied with a scoff and so dismissively as though we were idiots “oh that’s not the same”! Biatch.

Ex now.

Ex partner and I and his mother were in a jewellery makers when he suddenly decided that we should buy each other rings; something that was fine by me. I think they were £60 each - nice, silver. We hadn't talked about marriage, but had been together for a long time.

We were staying near MIL and FIL on holiday but in our own accommodation. Day carries on as normal.

FIL rings partner the next morning to say MIL has not slept. Worked up about wedding. Partner speaks to him at length on the phone and then goes over to their house without me. A few hours later he comes back. MIL in the car, partner comes in and says not to mention the rings or wedding - not that there was any plan for a wedding. I get in car, she grunts at me and has a face like a wet weekend in Clacton. We go back to the shopping arcade with jewellery in it. We go in jewellery store and partner buys her a bracelet for £600.

I was never told what was said. Rings are never mentioned again. Until I left him.

My mil Offered childcare when pregnant we worked around her days she was free for nursery then she changed her mind she decided to get another job after retirement so she can give her favourite gc money every week. She stopped visiting before dc was 2 then never to see us again for 8 years or more drove past our house to see favourite gc. Then tagain as dc was much older oh tried to introduce him to her she said I can’t stop going on holiday turned out it was a few days later I would have been happy to tell dc gp were dead like mine but didn’t want to lie now she is dead she’s not missed one bit by any of us. Her loss.

Not MIL but FIL. He told my now ex to never trust women - on our wedding day!

My now ex-MIL is a massive enabler for her narcissistic son, one evening at a wedding where we were guests my then husband and I had words (he was blatantly cheating on me at the time), he was drunk he took my car and wrote it off. When I got home (MIL had been babysitting) she blamed me, stating it "takes two to tango" yes love, your son and the other woman he is sha**ing, not me!!!
Since we have separated and now divorced she rarely sees her grandchildren, and doesn't speak to me, even though she knows what he has done, and has seen receipts.
One of the reasons I will never marry again!!!

Well said HelenaWaiting. My MiL wasn't easy so I've always tried to be mindful with my DiL. I have been nothing but friendly with my DiL but she has said and done some pretty thoughtless things. As long as we maintain a great relationship with our son I won't let it get to me.

To tell me "sorry your Mum has died. Never mind, you still have me and I've always loved you most". This was the first time she'd spoken to me in 18 months after taking offence that I hadn't made her favourite lasagne when she turned up for dinner uninvited!

Very well said. The vitriol towards MILS has shocked me. A comment the other day about it being fair that the DIL’s mother saw her GCs several times per week whilst MIL saw them once a month at DILs discretion really made me sad . Unfortunately the old saying “ your daughter is your daughter all of her life and your son is your son until he takes a wife” is sadly too often true .

To tell me "sorry your Mum has died. Never mind, you still have me and I've always loved you most". This was the first time she'd spoken to me in 18 months after taking offence that I hadn't made her favourite lasagne when she turned up for dinner uninvited!

My mil's niece died very suddenly in her fifties. Then, a year later the niece's partner tragically died too. They didn't have children and my mil's sister inherited their house and savings. Mil's sister was devastated as she was really close to her daughter and partner.
My mil said she was really envious of her sister and that her sister was lucky because she now had lots of lovely money. Unbelievable.