To not really get why people don’t like clothes?

I don’t think there’s any contradiction there - people aren’t interested so they but what’s readily available, comfortable and doesn’t require much thought.

I’m vaguely pleased that wider leg trousers are fashionable again, because I never enjoyed the restrictiveness of skinny jeans or the gap between them and my shoes, so now it’s easier to buy comfortable affordable trousers that I like to wear without any great effort. I’m aware that skinny jeans and wide leg jeans are different fashions and that some people enjoy thinking about that. I genuinely have no interest in what opinions anyone will form about me based on which I wear.

I would not feel differently about anyone else based on which they wear. I’ve recently made two new friends, one is always very well put together and happens to be very pretty but I couldn’t tell you what type of things she wears or if it’s fashionable, the other is more casual and I think wears the leggings and a baggy tshirt uniform but I couldn’t swear on it. The things that I like about each of them have nothing to do with any of that and my early impressions were based on how they smiled and what we talked about not how expensive their footwear or what brand their coat.

Why does that seem incomprehensible to some people on this thread? I believe you that you notice what people wear and care what they think of what you wear, but why is it impossible to believe that isn’t a universal experience?

I don't go in shops at all because I have social anxiety. I only buy online.

I agree about snug armpits. I also can't wear high necks because they make me panic. Cannot bear anything touching my throat.

I don't like baggy sleeves either but I do like wide trousers; cannot bear tapered or narrow ankles, hate feeling stuff against my calves. I sometimes wear jeans for walking the dog but I can't sit in the house in them because I hate how they feel, so I have to get changed when we get back.

Don't like shoes, can only wear boots, even in summer. Also hate bras because of the underbands and can only wear soft crop tops meant for teens.

So my wardrobe is very samey with a lot of long loose linen dresses, long sleeved cotton t-shirts and lace up boots.

Well said. I'm pretty sure that if any of us were to pass OP on the street her clothes would give us no clue at all into her abrasive and rude personality. I would be avoiding her solely on that, even if it turns out we like exactly the same sort of clothing.

I used to and love clothes

I had a fantastic wardrobe and always asked where I got something or lots of compliments
Ro the point I was stopped in public !

Now I wear a pretty much samey wardrobe and it's quite liberating.

Sensory issues are a huge barrier for me, because not only can I only wear certain fabrics, I can also only cope with certain designs and fits.

For example, I can't wear loose fitting trousers because I hate things flapping around my ankles, but I also can't wear tight fitting dresses because I need to feel able to move my legs freely. I can't cope with overly baggy sleeves OR tight fabric that sits too close to my armpits.

Some fabric makes me itch, to the point that I come out in a rash. Others are just so viscerally uncomfortable to me that I can't wear them - they just need to be off me.

I can't spend ages shopping either as the shop environment is hugely overwhelming and generally leads to a shutdown.

I have never in my entire life seen someone and immediately felt I would like to be their friend based on what they wear. That only applies if people are wearing clothing in a certain style - such as goth - but even if I saw someone wearing an entire outfit I would wear it doesn't mean I am drawn to them in any way other than admiring their clothes. It tells me nothing whatsoever about the person wearing the clothes, other than that we like the same style, it doesn't mean we could be friends. It's all about personality for me.

Well people might care - for them to be clean and comfortable. Not everyone is very visually inspired. Many people put comfort over making a visual impression.

I would find it quite hard to wear clothes that might explain who I am and what I am interested in without getting things with a slogan - and to describe a character takes a lot of slogans so the writing would have to be very small

clothes might express that visuals matter to you or that you like pink but couldn’t really say much else can they ?

I have sensory issues too. I can't wear anything man made, slippery or staticky so I only wear cotton or linen. But I don't see ASD or sensory issues as being a barrier to caring about clothes. If anything it makes me more interested in choosing nice quality clothing.

Honestly, it's bizarre lol.

I buy whatever I can find on Amazon or from George at ASDA. Because as long as it's affordable and comfortable, that's all that matters.

I know, crazy, right? 🤣

I'm not sure what point you're trying to prove here.

I don't wear lycra - can't stand the feeling of it on my skin. It feels damp and almost cold.

You seem almost unable to accept that people don't pick their clothes for the same reasons you do. It's quite bizarre.

Well yes, people to tend to buy what's easily available

The trousers are stretchy. It’s when Lycra first hit the market. I don’t know if the ONJ ones are stretchy. But the Jane Fonda type things are.

I agree with buying for comfort!! Absolutely!

But there are people on here saying they hate fashion/clothes and are not interested. But even they are conforming to the expected societal norm of what’s currently acceptable.

I don’t know what silk jersey is but it sounds possibly too warm and I like to keep my armpits well aired. The only long-sleeved tops I wear are hoodies, over the top of short sleeved tops or vests. I don’t wear long-sleeved tops directly next to my skin. I can’t explain it any further than to say that I don’t like the way it feels and my armpits immediately start sweating the moment there is fabric touching them.

As for disco trousers, I expect you’ll think I’m being deliberately difficult but I don’t really know what those are either. You can’t expect someone who isn’t interested in clothes to know what obscure or out of date fashions are called. If they are made from leggings material, then yes I’d probably wear them unless they had sequins or glitter because I don’t like the feel of those. I also wouldn’t generally wear anything very brightly coloured (except for gym leggings because lots of those are colourful).

For me it's about sensory issues so prefer certain materials, length and comfort level. I would prefer to wear a kaftan all the time, work clothes especially i find inhibiting. Xx

I think I became disinterested during lockdown - though a lot has changed in my life over the last five years which probably contributed as well.

I've become much more interested in being comfortable, and less inclined to make much effort beyond cleanliness and clothes being reasonably well fitting.

I wear clothes that are practical, comfortable and warm. I do not care what anyone thinks of them, their first impressions or anything - I have no interest whatsoever in what people think of me.

I dunno, I think they do understand - it just makes them feel better if they think we all judge others the way they do.

Also, if they make the effort to dress to make an impression on others, maybe they don't like the idea that others don't.

Just too much effort. Fashion changes so often, bodies change, lots of different occasions. Lots of work. And for what? What other people think? I just can't really be bothered. It's hard enough to keep clean and appropriately dressed, which is my basic. I love jewelery though. But just for me.

I have never conformed to fashion trends and fads. Too much cheap, poorly made and designed "single use" clothes in the shops. This week I bought a fabulous jacket in a charity shop. It is a great addition to my wardrobe. Friends have given up trying to get me to wear more fashionable clothes and I don't care. I'm not overly bothered about clothes, I just know what I like.

I’m starting to think some people genuinely can’t understand the difference between ‘doesn’t want to project a particular image’ and ‘wants to project not wanting to project a particular image’. I mean, there are people who enjoy eating sardines, there are people whose hobbies involve leaping into icy water, there are people with a fetish for being pissed on - humans are fairly diverse in what we enjoy and don’t enjoy. Is it that incomprehensible that some people aren’t thinking about their projected image, while others, apparently, are taking masters degrees in the subject?

Exactly, it's not some weird "gotcha" that people wouldn't wear obscure, difficult to source clothes from 50 years ago.

They honestly dont sound any worse than what's already in my wardrobe 🤣

That purple thing with white dots is a straight, ankle length polka dot skirt that I have had for at least 15 years. Probably more.

@ArseInTheCoOpWindow

One of the reasons I wouldn’t wear that is because it would be making a statement, and inviting attention, and I don’t actually want people to be paying my clothes particular attention. If you think that proves your point that everyone who buys widely available comfortable staples then usually throws jeans and a hoodie on in the morning is in denial that they’re ‘projecting their identity’ and it’s all very important then… well, I disagree! That’s like saying that because a mohawk is one possible haircut, anyone who has a yearly trim of their ponytail length hair is projecting fascinating things about themselves by not choosing to shave the sides for a mohawk every morning.