To not really get why people don’t like clothes?

You found that black jumper interesting - it would make my skin crawl ( no idea why ) and I amnt always happy with lots of rings either - places for muck to hide - like PP says we are all different

@Todayismyfavouriteday ‘I must be doing something right’ is an interesting way to phrase it. Are those of us who wear leggings and hoodies all the time doing something wrong? 😕 😂

Also, those of us with an athletic physique aren’t ’shapeless’ thank you very much.

I love the theory that we get to a point that we know what we like and stick to it.
So I will be looking at clothes and instantly think. Oh that’s S. she wears nothing but woodland coloured cotton and corduroy spriggy floral things. Or a black Lycra thing with chunky silver zips and a logo. That’s J!
If I’m looking at a rack and see a navy 3/4 sleeved jersey top with a scoop neck I instantly pick it up because it feels like home.

This has been such an interesting chat!
@Todayismyfavouriteday we all think so differently don't we? If I see someone in beige I tend to think they probably don't go out and get grubby ( a fleeting thought)
I might think that a woman with grey hair and hastily thrown on clothes has more interesting things to think about than what she looks like.
I might feel slightly inadequate if I'm with someone who looks way more put together than me...
But on the whole I really don't use clothing to express myself, more to fade into the background. I think it's clear that it says something about me but I don't do it deliberately to express myself, which is what the OP was about...I think?

I think I mean something that draws my eye and literally makes me think “oooh, that’s interesting.”

For example, later last night I saw another women who’s clothes caught my attention. She was in black jeans and a black jumper - but the jumper had silver studs around the neckline, and she had on severally chunky silver rings, and an unusual clip in her hair. Those little details made an otherwise plain outfit interesting to look at.

I try to do similar myself - a burst of colour or pattern, or an unusual texture. Something about my clothes that make them more interesting to look at, rather than just very plain and simple. And I completely get other posters’ about most people not actually noticing or caring much, but I notice and appreciate other women’s clothing, and I can’t be the only one.

I love clothes; and I always notice what other people wear. I express myself through clothes, in addition to many other more artistic, deeper ways.
I agree with the poster who said that clothes/ fashion are awful at the moment: square loose sweaters, big, loose pants, shapeless dresses that hang loose. Women look very unattractive in them, unless you have a boyish, shapeless figure... then anything floating around you looks good, and there's no shape to show off anyway. Being an hourglass figure, I shop in op shops for vintage pieces, have my clothes made or altered for my shape, and favour unique pieces that I will rarely find another person wearing.

Just the thought of plain beige or pastel-coloured clothes of simple, traditional cut bores me to death. Of course, everyone is free to dress the way they choose, but when I see someone in beige pants and a plain or navy striped T-shirt, I never fail to think they must be very boring... I'm sure I'm wrong, but that's how I feel. I can choose what I wear, and I can choose how to feel about those who wear plain, shapeless clothes.

I often have people stopping me in the street to ask where I got this or that... I travel a lot and my job involves public speaking, and wherever I am I'm always congratulated on my unique fashion sense, so I must be doing something right. Ok, let the comeback start... The OP knew her post would trigger those who don't care about clothes, or don't want to be bothered, or were born without a fashion sense. Happy to share the lashing!

Sometimes I wish I cared more about clothes but it’s just don’t. I love a good pair of baggy jeans and a jumper. I’m a bit rubbish at putting outfits together and quite self conscious if I do wear something that’s out of my comfort zone, so mainly just stick with to what I know.

I absolutely love clothes - any excuse to dress up.

Do you mean style or labels? I can't see the point of dressing in labels just for the sake of saying "I'm wearing such and such", it's shallow and meaningless. As for style, whatever one wears it's a "style". Whether that is chic, business-like, smart-casual or scruffy, it's still a style. It's still a reflection of the person wearing it. I'm autistic and dislike shopping for clothes as I find it difficult to find clothes that are comfortable. A label digging in and a seam in the 'wrong' place and that's it, I can't wear it. So I tend to buy several of the same item whenever I find something I like, that is comfortable. Hence my 'style' is dictated by comfort, not looks, and is fairly uniform. I'll often wear the same clothes on consecutive days, just in a different colour. I'm also not ashamed to say I'm getting more childish as I age (and as I unmask), so I'll often be seen in Tigger t-shirts, or Harry Potter scarves, etc, or funny caption tees. Life is short, make fun of it....

And that probably wouldn't be a loss for either of us....

Clothing is to keep warm, cool, season dependant for most of us. Some, like me on a walk, food shopping trip, cannot be arsed. I save that dress code energy for dates or a night out when it means something for me, not judgy bored fuckers who I'll never get to see inside their minds, so it TRULY doesn't matter. Good chat 👍

I'd be a bit more interested in clothes if designers actually made clothes for a variety of different shapes. I gave up 15+ years ago when realizing they basically design for slim and D cup max, or fat and D cup max. I'm an F-G cup, with a pretty normal dress size otherwise. It's not uncommon to literally try on a store's entire range, across multiple brands, and not find a single top or dress that fits the boobs properly. Even going up by 4-5 dress sizes doesn't do it, you just get enormous gappy shoulders and a bustline still across the nipple, classy. The other option is busting out the porn star look (pun intended), thanks but no thanks.

I didn't get depressed or opt for breast reduction (did consider it for a minute) - I developed IMO a well deserved fuck-em attitude instead. I go for mostly classy staples (usually from old-lady stores that seem to understand bigger breasts do in fact exist), look reasonably well put together but not expensive or exciting at work, very much don't care / thrift store bogan at home, casual out and about.

Of course what I wear communicates to others, but I get to decide how much that communication matters to me. As far as I'm concerned the fashion industry excommunicated my body first, I don't owe them or anyone else pretty, or a huge investment of time and money in order to communicate "acceptably".

I wear band shirts because I like the band and it makes it easier to tell who has good music taste

I’ve found this thread really interesting, (and am pleased to have found so many women like me who are missing the clothes gene!) Reading the responses from the style enthusiasts has reminded me a bit of how I’ve felt at times when I’ve met people who say they aren’t interested in music, or in food. I am very interested in both- they are base sensory experiences which enrich my life so much and which I couldn’t be without (obviously none of us can be without food, but some people just view it as fuel and don’t get excited about ingredients, flavours etc. My Mum was a bit like that- food was a chore or something she had to fit into her day). But I just have to accept that for some people they aren’t important or interesting- it just doesn’t float their boat. Our brains must come in myriad varieties after all.

Me neither

I kind of understand how to dress to flatter my shape (not that I generally bother) but interesting? How do you do that?

I’m not even sure what putting together clothes in an interesting way is. What do you mean by that - genuinely interested

Try walking to work in the lashing rain in pajamas and tell me that's comfortable. Also my boss thinks that pyjamas are unsuitable work wear, not sure why!

It’s funny, I am very interested in clothes, and I was just thinking earlier tonight that I wish I wasn’t. I noticed a woman around my age in very plain, practical clothes - perfectly appropriate for the weather and the activity she was doing, but clearly no effort had been made to match anything or put anything together in a flattering or interesting way.

I looked at her and thought “god, I wish I was like that. Life would be so much simpler, and I’d gain so much spare time if I didn’t care about what I wore other than for purely practical reasons.

But sadly I’m a vain, superficial baggage, and I can’t see that changing at this stage in my life!

I'm slim and pretty attractive (if I do say so myself 😂) but am happy in a hoodie and joggers most of the time. Might put on jeans if I'm leaving the house. Only really make a proper effort for events or if on a night out.

But I spend Mon-Fri driving heavy plant vehicles around in the mud and most of my evenings in the gym lifting. Not a girly office worker type tbh. I scrub up quite easily though so don't need to make much effort. Some people need a lot of make up to not look like a troll so it's different for everybody.

EDIT: The humour may not have come across quite as planned. I probs shouldn't post when I've had a 🍷 lol.

I love certain types of clothes. Well the idea of wearing them. I have many beautiful dresses, coats, shoes etc. Despite not being a dress.person at all. I think I just like the look of them.
However...I never get to wear them as I spend most of my time alone, at home or in the countryside. It would be utterly pointless and uncomfortable to to go camping or traipse around the woods in such items of clothing. As such I spend the vast majority of time in comfortable practical clothing appropriate for the weather.
I also have sensory issues and dislike the feel of things like shoulder straps, jeans, anything around my waist, tight clothing. I also have no desire to make any statement and do not care what strangers think of my appearance. Never have.

I've decided to keep a few favourites for 'just in case'/the odd social event etc and flog the rest on Vinted.

I like clothes and am aesthetically minded. Very visually driven. So everyday I wear jeans and a top, which is what my life requires generally. For a funeral or wedding, I dress for the occasion. But day to day, the choice of jeans and the choice of jumper are never just 'that will do'. I buy items of clothing to reintroduce old stuff, I think about how colours will work together and I only throw stuff away if it is completely past it. For the last few years, this has meant motheaten so quite a lot has had to go. I don't look dressed up ever, but in my opinion, even my jeans and jersey are chosen carefully. Today I have on a cotton Guernsey jumper my late mum made 30 years ago and red jeans I have owned for six years. Thermals under. Other than a Buck House investiture, there's not much I could not pull together an outfit to suit from my wardrobe, and I could make a decent stab at Buck House too.

Yep.

I personally don't like pyjamas (too flappy and loose) but wear leggings all the time at home and at work. But for work I will adapt and wear fleece-lined ones in winter, or shorter length ones in summer. I'll wear thicker teddy fleece hoodies on colder days, loose t-shirts on warmer days etc.

I basically DO wear pyjamas, just more practical versions of them.

I would honestly absolutely love that.

But PJs aren’t suitable for my work- I have a practical job. Aside from that, I do wear PJs to sleep in and also wear them to lounge in at home. When I walk the dog, I wear old ‘loungewear’ which are basically PJs. So in fact I am wearing PJs and PJ adjacent clothing a lot of the time.

I mean why does it bother you so much what other people choose to wear?

And also to protect.