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Am I right to cut off my 81 year old Dad at the age of 50?

29 replies

Motheroffive999 · 21/11/2025 10:19

Is it a bad thing and why do I feel guilty ?
I have to side with my adult children because he has pushed things too far.
Mainly rudeness , lies and broken promises and before my Mum passed away he was an absolute , more than 10 affairs that I know of , unkind and would beat us( not mum ).
Does anyone else have broken contact as an adult with an elderly parent?
Thank you for reading .

OP posts:
Nutmuncher · 21/11/2025 10:23

Definitely get rid - and have a lovely Christmas.

Tiddlywinkly · 21/11/2025 10:22

Do what you need to do to gain peace. 💐

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 21/11/2025 10:21

We reap what we sow.

I usually feel very sorry for elderly people who are alone, but relationships require effort and investment on both sides. It doesn't sound like your dad has earned the right to a relationship with you.

I'm sorry.

TallulahBetty · 21/11/2025 10:20

Not been there myself, but I would cut him off in a heartbeat.