To take DS for a burger after football?

Yes completely concur with you
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Just ignore him and make the burger after football a weekly treat. I did when I took my boys, we'd stop off at the chippy on the way home. My arsehole XH, just after we'd split but before he'd moved out, said to my boys, then 5 and 6, that I'd put more chips on the plate of the youngest and what an awful mother I was to have a favourite. I hadn't, obviously, but it made me more determined that we'd enjoy our weekly treat. You should do the same, your H can fend for himself instead of being a drama queen.

I'd have said "I tried to call you... Sorry we've already eaten". Then put the pasta in the fridge for the next day and turned it into pasta bake. We would've brought my DH some food though.

Your DH reaction is a bit housewife of the 1950s.

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If he is an otherwise OK person and this is a one off (I'm not seeing anything ok about him from your post) then ignore his sulking, it's ridiculous. Have a serious conversation so he knows his behaviour isn't acceptable and won't be tolerated.

If he has other issues then you need to seriously think and figure out if you want to live on tenterhooks forever. And if you want your child to grow up in that environment.

I can't imagine ever having to discuss buying a burger for kids with anyone except with whoever will be eating it. Or an adult sulking and 'feeling hurt and sad' because you got a burger. I can't imagine living with another adult making a child cry over a damn burger and be ok with it.

Definately a permanent 'ick'.

Hey op fuck the man child you are entitled to do what you want if he had slaved away for ages or you were skint fair enough but it’s a bloody burger and your son wanted it and you did too. Tell him to stop acting like you just had a 3 course meal somewhere fancy whilst he stayed home and cooked for hours. I would suggest you try to keep your phone charged up tho for emergencies.

This sounds less of a partnership and more like your DH likes to get his own way. Some spontaneity should be allowed in life, especially when spending time with your DS. The fact that your DS cried makes me feel really sad for him, that your DH is like this regularly and it has an effect on him. I'd definitely want a serious conversation with DH (TBF, I'd probably make more serious decisions on my relationship, but I refuse to put up with dicks in my relationships anymore)

Wow, it's not you who's being a total dick. Your DH needs to get over himself.

The only thing you did wrong was apologise to the pathetic manbaby you’re married to.

What a ridiculous twat he is.

Im shocked that even 2% think you’re unreasonable but this one imo so clear cut that HE is the arsehole

Oh I hate it when people sulk! Did he message before heating the pasta sauce to see what was going on?

I can't believe he made DS cry over this. He sounds mean.

YANBU to have taken him, but I’d have been a bit miffed in your DH’s shoes at the lack of communication. However, that’s not something your DS should ever have been aware of, as you say it’s you that made the decision and then didn’t tell DH about it. Nevertheless, it’s such a minor thing that he’s an arse if he’s still sulking about it.

Awful he upset your DS over this. Of course you did nothing wrong DH needs to grow up and get over himself.

Your poor son. Your DH took a nice one off treat and pissed all over it to make it about him.

He was obviously cross. The quiet, disappointed in you, pass agg kind of cross. Apparently it hurt his feelings and made him sad. This made DS cry because he felt really guilty

Jesus Christ I’m horrified reading this. Your poor son 😔

This would be an absolute non-issue in my house. Your husband sounds like a complete freak!

I agree with the general consensus on here. Your DH is a bully.

However I do have to ask am I the only one who thinks it’s weird to go and out on music for Sunday lunch? Is that a thing?

What a A hole your is. DH..He sounds very controlling and almost toddler like in throwing a strop and sulking and almost pissing in his shoe.

Tell him to get a life then just ignore him.

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Call his bluff and ask him to cook the pasta for Sunday dinner instead of you cooking a roast.

God Bless You & Your Dear Son
Original commenter, I don't know how you can possibly even doubt yourself or wonder if you're being unreasonable 😥I feel so upset for you & your sweet Son - Of course you've both done completely nothing wrong
How dare your husband have the audacity to have the hump & such double standards - What's good for the goose
I mean it's perfectly understandable & natural your dear Son would be hungry following all the physical exertion of football training - Your husband oftentimes takes your dear Son for food following football too so what possible leg does he honestly feel he's got to stand on? 😥💚😞
Really hope & I'm praying you&your sweet Son totally stop blaming yourselves & you find the justified righteous words, to help your husband takes a good look in the mirror, doing some imperative soul searching
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Your husband sounds like a very peculiar mixture of childish and controlling. Did he expect a medal for defrosting some pasta sauce? I think you are giving him far too much consideration. He sounds completely self centered.

What a child he is.

Get an in car charger

he’s a knob @Burntoutandsevered

if he never cooks usually and he did that’s weird but to guilt trip you over a burger

tho if you and ds has eaten would have been nice for you to have for one for dh

maybe a few less roasts till they appreciate you

He made his child cry???? Over something that he got out the freezer? That you presumably cooked in the first place.
I hope he’s suitably apologetic. He’s behaving like a childish twat.
I’d be fucking fuming.

I would get counselling tbh. It sounds like quite a miserable interaction. You're decision was reasonable seeing as your the one usually responsible for cooking so you wouldn't have expected him to prepare anything. He shouldn't have made you feel bad about it, you weren't to know.

I do think "now you know how it feels" (although I can imagine myself saying something similar in a moment of hurt!) is unhelpful and it indicates some bubbling resentment about the fact that they sit around playing Xbox while you slave away in the kitchen.

If you are unhappy with your share of the chores and don't think it's fair, you need to speak about this with him because otherwise you will resent him and this is very damaging in a relationship.

He wanted a gold star from you for being such a good boy and thinking about making dinner. You didn’t give it to him. He took it out on his child because he is still, in fact, a child himself. Typical manchild behaviour by the sounds of it!