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A man who doesn't see his children

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Darkyrees · 20/11/2025 16:18

If you met a man who seemed great, got one well with his family, financially secure and responsible, lots of friends and hobbies, but he told you he had a child that he didn't see. Would this just be a bit of a red flag that you'd weigh up against every thing else, or would it make you run for the hills?

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CleanSkin · 20/11/2025 16:21

Initially I’d think it was sad, and obviously not an admirable quality…
however it does depend on context. If there was a really significant reason then it may be understandable. Do you know what the reason is?

Are they in touch in any way?
And does he support the child financially?
These two also matter very much.

ACatNamedRobin · 20/11/2025 16:21

Do you want children OP?
Otherwise pragmatically can you explain why would it bother you?

Beekman · 20/11/2025 16:20

Huge red flag. Don’t bother with this one, OP. No matter how charming and sound he might seem.

QueenClinomania · 20/11/2025 16:20

I would start with the assumption it was a red flag unless he had ample evidence to the contrary.

Evidence being court records of his never ending fight to be part of his children's lives, and records that show he pays child support in full and on time

MidnightPatrol · 20/11/2025 16:19

What’s the reason?

a bit suspect though yes

Melsy88 · 20/11/2025 16:19

Whats his reason for not seeing the child?

Onekidnoclue · 20/11/2025 16:18

RUN