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...to leave my EBF 3 month old...

45 replies

Auroraspyjamas · 20/11/2025 15:13

...with DH to go for a drink down the road with friends tonight? A typical night for us = I feed DS to sleep 7-8 and then he sleeps in DH's arms while we watch tv. We go up to bed approx 11 and he is transferred to the side cot and sleeps until 3pm. Would say it is this wake time or later for him 90% of the time but obv would be sods law this time he'd wake earlier!

My plan would be to feed him to sleep 7/8 as normal and go for a couple glasses of wine at a pub 10 mins away. If he sleeps until 3 I can still breastfeed and I've pumped some milk if he wakes up earlier for me or DH to feed him (depending on if I am back yet). However, we haven't properly tried with a bottle before (I gave him a little bit yesterday and he took some but then I switched to boob) so if he wakes earlier than normal and won't bottle feed from DH I would pop home to try with bottle (or BF as a last resort as alcohol would still be in my milk).

What do you think? Is it too soon? Too many variables? Or am I being over-anxious? Last baby I didn't go out in the evenings until almost a year as I had PPA and I'm trying to be more relaxed this time but don't want to swing too far the other way so need some guidance.

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VenusClapTrap · 20/11/2025 17:41

Go! The longer you leave it, the harder it is. Get the baby used to Dad looking after him. Good for everyone.

MidnightPatrol · 20/11/2025 17:39

mashandgravy · 20/11/2025 17:38

Why not just leave the baby all the time?

Ok, no justification then

Happymchappyface · 20/11/2025 17:38

Go and enjoy yourself. You’re close by if you need to come home to feed.

you can drink alcohol and breastfeed (pump and dump is pointless) while some alcohol will be in your milk, in order to be enough to have any impact on your baby, you’d be at risk of alcohol poisoning.

mashandgravy · 20/11/2025 17:38

MidnightPatrol · 20/11/2025 17:36

But why?

Why not just leave the baby all the time?

Seawolves · 20/11/2025 17:37

Of course go, you still need time to be you as well as being a mum. I think it is really important for both physical and mental health to take time out for yourself. Have a lovely evening.

TemuTrinny · 20/11/2025 17:37

Go and enjoy it. He’s with his dad and you’re only 10 minutes away if you need to get home. Have a lovely time!

MidnightPatrol · 20/11/2025 17:36

mashandgravy · 20/11/2025 17:36

Not at three months.

But why?

mashandgravy · 20/11/2025 17:36

MidnightPatrol · 20/11/2025 17:34

Why do you think it is too soon?

You learn it’s ok to have some separation, by having some separation! Popping down to the local pub while they’re asleep is a great first step.

Edited

Not at three months.

Yuropean · 20/11/2025 17:36

I can’t believe you would drink alcohol whilst breastfeeding. Pump and dump is a myth it can be in your milk for a while. Is a drink needed?

Youdontseehow · 20/11/2025 17:35

Your baby sleeps from 11pm to 3pm????

MidnightPatrol · 20/11/2025 17:34

mashandgravy · 20/11/2025 17:34

Honestly, I think it's too soon. You would probably not really be able to enjoy drinks anyway from worrying about it, so is it worth it?

Why do you think it is too soon?

You learn it’s ok to have some separation, by having some separation! Popping down to the local pub while they’re asleep is a great first step.

mashandgravy · 20/11/2025 17:34

Honestly, I think it's too soon. You would probably not really be able to enjoy drinks anyway from worrying about it, so is it worth it?

DappledThings · 20/11/2025 17:33

No issues at all. If he does wake up early and you're just down the road you can pop back to feed him but it sounds unlikely.

Don't worry about the pump and dump stuff either. You can feed him as soon as you're home if you need to

Mulledjuice · 20/11/2025 17:32

Go! DH and baby will go through their little learning curve if necessary. You will be the better for a change of scene and a rest. Well done

DaisyChain505 · 20/11/2025 17:32

You’ll be 10 minutes away, go for it and enjoy your night.

MidnightPatrol · 20/11/2025 17:31

GO

This all sounds very straightforward

IndigoIsMyFavouriteColour · 20/11/2025 17:30

Go and have a good time, baby will take a bottle if hungry and you can have a blissful few hours off

Allswellthatendswelll · 20/11/2025 17:30

Yes of course! I went swimming twice a week from when DD was about 2 months and she was EBF..

Auroraspyjamas · 20/11/2025 17:29

Bump

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ThatGreenFawn · 20/11/2025 15:17

I would go, enjoy your night!