Mum asked to stop breastfeeding a TWO YEAR OLD in shoe shop.

My now 9 year old was BF til the age of 3 and is a patient, well-mannered, kind boy. I know there is a certain breed of parent who thinks that parenting responsively creates spoiled and entitled brats, but those of us with a modicum of emotional intelligence are actually able to have boundaries in place AND recognise there is nothing wrong with having a drink if you're thirsty.

Lucky you can't spill breast milk direct from the breast then isn't it!

(After the initial few weeks when new mums leak everything from everywhere)

The fact is if a fussing toddler is given an unhealthy snack in a shop no-one bats an eye lid

Im nothing if not fair, I'd judge this too....

People will give all sorts of ludicrous arguments to cover up the fact that actually what they're uncomfortable with is the fact a child is feeding from a breast, and they think breasts are sexual things.

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"getting boring" = I have been pressed to answer questions that expose my agenda so I'm ducking out.

I don't know about you, but if I'm feeling thirsty and I want a sip of water, I get my water bottle out wherever I am

I don't. I was raised to think you eat and drink at appropriate times and places and in shops would not be included. What if someone bumps into you and you spill on the shops products? I would always wait until I'm outside. I am not really a believer in sipping constantly.

I think a lot of how we parent has meant that children now are unable to wait for anything. I think that's a bad thing.

Yes, it does recommend BF on demand until age 2 (and beyond if wished).

If you would not have an issue with a child having a sip of water but you would have an issue with them having a breastfeed you need to have a word with yourself, because that problem is yours.

The fact is if a fussing toddler is given an unhealthy snack in a shop no-one bats an eye lid, but if a fussing toddler is given a breast, people like you judge them.

What's your issue with milk but not water?

Yes. Yes I do. 🙄

Or.....I've been reading the thread and am using examples of what has previously been suggested is better than breastfeeding.

Other parenting options are available ! do you literally think non BF mums only parent with screens or food?

Do you make your child wait every time they ask for something? I definitely don't do that, no. Sometimes I make them wait if necessary. Why would they automatically need to wait to be breastfed though?

And most mums start to have a life that doesn't involve lecturing others on how they are/aren't allowed to parent.

As I said earlier, if a 2yo was fussing in a shop, I'd much rather see them bf than have a tablet shoved in front of their face to shut them up, or fed a twix. But developmentally stunting devices and UPFs are apparently preferable. 🤷‍♀️

Thats fine for those mums, I hope they are happy making the choices they make with no judgment from others. It is boring you're right. It should be a non issue. I wish we could live in a society with more support and less judgement, where women wouldn't feel shame for doing what they think is best for their children.

this convo is getting very boring now but most mums do start to have a life that doesn’t revolve around stopping everything to BF their child on demand by the age of 2.

Ok so it's the 'demand' that's the issue.
They can breastfeed when they are two but it has to be at a time when the parent thinks is suitable and the parent should only think it's suitable at home. How unnecessarily controlling to both a mother and child that you haven't even met and know nothing about.

So you aren’t teaching your 2 year old to wait for anything but to be able to demand what they want NOW?

Why should they wait? If they want to be breastfed and mum is happy to do it?

does the WHO recommend BF on demand at age 2 ? Are your children not eating anything or able to drink water from a cup and wait for a BF ? Were no one else’s children in nursery at age 2 or are all these passionate mums SAHP ? It’s the ON DEMAND bit please note!

As this Mum could have done for her child? I doubt he drinks no liquids other than breast milk.

You are aware the WHO recommends breastfeeding til age 2 (minimum) for its health benefits, aren't you.

I don't know about you, but if I'm feeling thirsty and I want a sip of water, I get my water bottle out wherever I am.

No I don’t have a problem with extended BF in public? But I do think that by the age of 2 , BF on demand is perhaps done by mums who are still wanting to treat their children as young babies rather than growing children .

99% of the time when a woman is breastfeeding in public you don't even see the breast FGS.

Omg you do with toddlers! They hang off your breast, squirm, look around! It was what pushed me to wean.

I should add, i don't like seeing 2 yr olds with dummies in their mouths either!

I breastfed mine into toddler years and think its biologically appropriate but i didn't go in for feeding toddlers on demand. At that age they don't need a "moment of closeness" in a shoe shop. They might want one but the world doesn't revolve around them and they learn to wait.