Page 3 | Mum asked to stop breastfeeding a TWO YEAR OLD in shoe shop.

GinaDavva · 2025-11-20T11:30:16+00:00

Mixed feelings with this one. Shaming a mother publicly breastfeeding a small baby is never acceptable but breastfeeding a two year old child in a shop? Surely at that age a bottle is more convenient in the middle of a shop? My first thought was that this was more about attention than the actual principle of the matter. After breastfeeding 3 of my own I can honestly say there has never been a time where it felt necessary to start breastfeeding any of mine in the middle of a shop at two years old. Frankly at that age they wouldn’t find much in mine anyway! https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cj3z31jn7v1o

Notadame · 20/11/2025 18:20

Tiddlyswink · 20/11/2025 18:19

Please give over ,I have never said it’s wrong to feed a 2 year old in public , I have solely argued that there are other ways to parent a 2 year old than automatically putting a breast in its mouth when it’s distressed….but somehow the fanaticists can’t understand that ….

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No one has argued against this, we've simply asked you (multiple times) why you feel a breastfeed is a less valid way to offer comfort than any of these alternatives? Why do you think I should be offering those alternatives first?

Tiddlyswink · 20/11/2025 18:19

Fargo79 · 20/11/2025 18:15

I mean you've had 17 whole pages now to give a legitimate reason for your opinion that it's wrong to breastfeed a 2 year old in public (or on demand, or at night, or whatever else you also object to). You've not come up with anything yet 🤷

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Please give over ,I have never said it’s wrong to feed a 2 year old in public , I have solely argued that there are other ways to parent a 2 year old than automatically putting a breast in its mouth when it’s distressed….but somehow the fanaticists can’t understand that ….

Fargo79 · 20/11/2025 18:18

Yesimmoaningaboutbenefits · 20/11/2025 18:10

Try reading my post again. Just double checked, I posted it at 17:30. You haven't made any sense if that was your reply. You are just spouting nonsense at this point.

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It's absolutely batshit that she's lying when her comment is literally there in black and white for all to see. It's typical, though, of somebody who can not defend their point.

Notadame · 20/11/2025 18:15

Tiddlyswink · 20/11/2025 18:10

Some people might think it’s disgusting that you think the only reason someone might have an alternative opinion is because of sexual associations when they are actually posing questions about parenting skills.

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And yet you still haven't been able to explain why a breastfeed is a less valid parenting skill than a hug, a cuddy toy, or another distraction.

Fargo79 · 20/11/2025 18:15

Tiddlyswink · 20/11/2025 18:10

Some people might think it’s disgusting that you think the only reason someone might have an alternative opinion is because of sexual associations when they are actually posing questions about parenting skills.

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I mean you've had 17 whole pages now to give a legitimate reason for your opinion that it's wrong to breastfeed a 2 year old in public (or on demand, or at night, or whatever else you also object to). You've not come up with anything yet 🤷

Yesimmoaningaboutbenefits · 20/11/2025 18:10

Tiddlyswink · 20/11/2025 18:07

Err no I didn’t you just didn’t read my post?

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Try reading my post again. Just double checked, I posted it at 17:30. You haven't made any sense if that was your reply. You are just spouting nonsense at this point.

Tiddlyswink · 20/11/2025 18:10

Notadame · 20/11/2025 18:04

I would have far more respect for people who are anti extended breastfeeding if they simply came out and said they find it gross because they think breasts are sexual things and they don't want to see children sucking on them. Why bother trying to make out it's for any other reason when those reasons simply don't hold water?

Some people might think it’s disgusting that you think the only reason someone might have an alternative opinion is because of sexual associations when they are actually posing questions about parenting skills.

Notadame · 20/11/2025 18:08

Tiddlyswink · 20/11/2025 18:07

Err no I didn’t you just didn’t read my post?

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Yes we did.

Tiddlyswink · 20/11/2025 18:07

Yesimmoaningaboutbenefits · 20/11/2025 18:05

Did you??? And then edited your post with irrelevant statements? I don't see the edit label on your post?

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Err no I didn’t you just didn’t read my post?

Notadame · 20/11/2025 18:07

SouthLondonMum22 · 20/11/2025 18:05

So I've been thinking and I think my initial reaction (why not just wait and give the 2 year old a snack?) is due to the fact that breastfeeding toddlers and older is something that you don't see often so I naturally associate it with babies.

I have a 2 year old and I can't imagine breastfeeding him because yes, he's still very little but he very much isn't a baby any more. I also appreciate the fact that you don't just breastfeed a 2 year old, you breastfeed a newborn and that newborn grows into a 2 year old (if that makes any sense?).

Other options such as offering the toddler a cuddly toy, a snack, a hug etc aren't associated with just babies like breastfeeding is in society.

But I have realised that to someone who has always breastfed her 2 year old, it is exactly the same as a cuddly toy or a hug.

Thank you for reflecting and altering your opinion!

Fargo79 · 20/11/2025 18:06

Notadame · 20/11/2025 18:04

I would have far more respect for people who are anti extended breastfeeding if they simply came out and said they find it gross because they think breasts are sexual things and they don't want to see children sucking on them. Why bother trying to make out it's for any other reason when those reasons simply don't hold water?

Yep. But I think they lie to themselves as much as anything. I don't think they want to admit internally that they are just captured by misogyny. Cognitive dissonance at its finest.

SouthLondonMum22 · 20/11/2025 18:05

So I've been thinking and I think my initial reaction (why not just wait and give the 2 year old a snack?) is due to the fact that breastfeeding toddlers and older is something that you don't see often so I naturally associate it with babies.

I have a 2 year old and I can't imagine breastfeeding him because yes, he's still very little but he very much isn't a baby any more. I also appreciate the fact that you don't just breastfeed a 2 year old, you breastfeed a newborn and that newborn grows into a 2 year old (if that makes any sense?).

Other options such as offering the toddler a cuddly toy, a snack, a hug etc aren't associated with just babies like breastfeeding is in society.

But I have realised that to someone who has always breastfed her 2 year old, it is exactly the same as a cuddly toy or a hug.

Yesimmoaningaboutbenefits · 20/11/2025 18:05

Tiddlyswink · 20/11/2025 17:57

I did ? I replied to each of your points? There are alternatives to each that aren’t automatic BF.

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Did you??? And then edited your post with irrelevant statements? I don't see the edit label on your post?

Notadame · 20/11/2025 18:04

I would have far more respect for people who are anti extended breastfeeding if they simply came out and said they find it gross because they think breasts are sexual things and they don't want to see children sucking on them. Why bother trying to make out it's for any other reason when those reasons simply don't hold water?

Notadame · 20/11/2025 18:01

Tiddlyswink · 20/11/2025 17:59

Err because all children should be having their teeth brushed at this age before bed? Feeding to sleep is what young babies too, an older child should be able to settle themselves well before age 2 .

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Breastfed children do get their teeth brushed.

Your second point is incorrect.

https://www.breastfeeding.asn.au/resources/breastfeeding-and-tooth-decay

Breastfeeding and tooth decay | Australian Breastfeeding Association

Is breastfeeding bad for teeth? Will breastfeeding to sleep cause decay?

https://www.breastfeeding.asn.au/resources/breastfeeding-and-tooth-decay

Fargo79 · 20/11/2025 18:01

Tiddlyswink · 20/11/2025 17:59

Err because all children should be having their teeth brushed at this age before bed? Feeding to sleep is what young babies too, an older child should be able to settle themselves well before age 2 .

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So, no source? Just an opinion.

Tiddlyswink · 20/11/2025 17:59

Fargo79 · 20/11/2025 17:56

What's your source for this: "no 2 year old should be needing to be fed to sleep at this age!"?

I think it's fairly obvious that you just find other women breastfeeding "icky" for some reason you aren't able to articulate like a grown up, and so you're making all these silly, bogus claims about child development that are based on absolutely nothing but your own feelings and opinions.

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Err because all children should be having their teeth brushed at this age before bed? Feeding to sleep is what young babies too, an older child should be able to settle themselves well before age 2 .

Fargo79 · 20/11/2025 17:59

Notadame · 20/11/2025 17:58

And why are they preferable, in your opinion? Are you ever going to answer that question or....?

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She won't. Every time she's pressed, she pretends she can't see the questions 🙈🤣

Fargo79 · 20/11/2025 17:58

Tiddlyswink · 20/11/2025 17:57

I did ? I replied to each of your points? There are alternatives to each that aren’t automatic BF.

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No you didn't. Stop lying about things.

Notadame · 20/11/2025 17:58

Tiddlyswink · 20/11/2025 17:57

I did ? I replied to each of your points? There are alternatives to each that aren’t automatic BF.

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And why are they preferable, in your opinion? Are you ever going to answer that question or....?

Tiddlyswink · 20/11/2025 17:57

Yesimmoaningaboutbenefits · 20/11/2025 17:56

Try reading the post before you attempt a reply. It'll make more sense.

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I did ? I replied to each of your points? There are alternatives to each that aren’t automatic BF.

Notadame · 20/11/2025 17:57

Tiddlyswink · 20/11/2025 17:53

It’s a 2 year old ! The majority of 2 year olds are not constantly round their mother! The majority of 2 year olds are not nutritionally dependant only on breast milk ! No 2 year old should be needing to be fed to sleep at this age!

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This is such a weird post. Yes we know that most 2 year olds attend nursery and are not nutritionally dependent on breast milk. Mine doesn't feed to sleep either. Yet I wouldn't have an issue breastfeeding him in public and as of yet you still have not explained why it's less acceptable to you to see someone breastfeed as a form of comfort than see someone offer an alternative form of comfort.

Fargo79 · 20/11/2025 17:56

Tiddlyswink · 20/11/2025 17:53

It’s a 2 year old ! The majority of 2 year olds are not constantly round their mother! The majority of 2 year olds are not nutritionally dependant only on breast milk ! No 2 year old should be needing to be fed to sleep at this age!

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What's your source for this: "no 2 year old should be needing to be fed to sleep at this age!"?

I think it's fairly obvious that you just find other women breastfeeding "icky" for some reason you aren't able to articulate like a grown up, and so you're making all these silly, bogus claims about child development that are based on absolutely nothing but your own feelings and opinions.

Yesimmoaningaboutbenefits · 20/11/2025 17:56

Tiddlyswink · 20/11/2025 17:53

It’s a 2 year old ! The majority of 2 year olds are not constantly round their mother! The majority of 2 year olds are not nutritionally dependant only on breast milk ! No 2 year old should be needing to be fed to sleep at this age!

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Try reading the post before you attempt a reply. It'll make more sense.

Tiddlyswink · 20/11/2025 17:56

Fargo79 · 20/11/2025 17:54

But why should we? Yes we can (and do) use words, cuddles, a million other things. But we can also breastfeed. So why shouldn't we do that sometimes if we want to?

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I’ve not said you can’t ? You don’t need anyone else’s permission?