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To invoke the ‘otherwise’ option for school absence?

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KuanKaKu · 20/11/2025 10:58

AIBU to send this letter in and request temporary de-registration?
WWYD if you are a Headteacher and received this?
Dear Headteacher,
I am writing to inform you that for the period xxx 2026 to xxx 2026 inclusive, my children, [Child’s Name(s)], will be receiving their education otherwise than at school, in accordance with Section 7 of the Education Act 1996, which places the legal duty for securing a suitable education on me as the parent.
Section 7 states that:
“The parent of every child of compulsory school age shall cause him to receive efficient full-time education suitable to his age, ability and aptitude, and to any special educational needs he may have, either by regular attendance at school or otherwise.”
During this period I will be exercising the “otherwise” option. As such, my children will not be attending school between these dates. You may therefore treat them as temporarily deregistered for this period, as their education is being lawfully provided by me.
This is not a permanent withdrawal. My intention is for them to return to school-based provision on xxx 2026.
For clarity:
Parents are the duty-holders under Education Act 1996 s.7 with the right to elect for education “otherwise”.
Elective Home Education does not require the school’s permission (DfE Elective Home Education Guidance, 2019).
Temporary periods of home education are legally valid where the parent is providing suitable education under s.7.
Compulsory school attendance requirements under s.444 apply only where the parent is relying on school attendance to discharge the s.7 duty, which is not the case during this period.
Please confirm receipt of this notification for your records.

OP posts:
donaldtrumpsfaketandealer · 20/11/2025 15:07

OP.
You do know that deregistering your kids so you can go skiing educate them elsewhere temporarily means the school will erase any and all trace of them the day the letter arrives on the head's desk. Don't bank on them going back into the same class, sitting in the same space, having the same drawer, the same peg.

Besides, what education are you planning on providing while your children are in kid's clubs while you are on the piste you are temporarily HE them? Although there's no legal obligation to provide it, a lot of LA's now ask to see flight tickets HE plans.

DontGoJasonWaterfalls · 20/11/2025 15:07

You can deregister and re-register a child at any time; what you can't do is guarantee their school place will still be available. If the school is oversubscribed or someone new moves into the area, the school place will absolutely be gone by the time you try to return them. They have no obligation or reason to hold the place open for you.

If you deregister your child, you'll be expected to provide evidence to the local authority fairly soon. Some LAs have a two step policy where they want plans outlined for the education within a couple of weeks, some LAs will wait about six weeks for a response outlining the progress made and education provided so far. There's no option to be unknown to the LA if you're deregistering a child, so that will definitely happen.

Please don't deregister spuriously. There's a community of responsible, dedicated home educators pushing to maintain the rights of home educating families, and things like deregistering for a big holiday make it much harder for those of us who are in this for the long haul.

YouHaveAnArse · 20/11/2025 15:06

Is there not an online school, King's Interhigh or something, that is aimed at children who can't attend school in person for whatever reason but particularly kids who are acting/competing in sports? There's an option.

TaupeRaven · 20/11/2025 15:06

KuanKaKu · 20/11/2025 14:50

You’re coming across as complacent, old fashioned and set in your ways… out with the old and in with the new! Time will tell.. younger generations will not accept these antiquated policies

Ah, who knew that any complex policy issue could be resolved with a simple "Out with the old and in with the new!"?

wordler · 20/11/2025 15:04

I think some schools will work with special circumstances for children with exceptional needs for chunks of time away like high level sports or child actors but most of those children go the private route and also hire tutors.

Were you considering taking a tutor with you on your trip @KuanKaKu ?

CautiousLurker2 · 20/11/2025 15:03

elevenpiperspiping · 20/11/2025 15:00

Use private schools - they’ll hold places for you as you’ll still be paying fees. Over the years I’ve known children have a term/year off for travelling during a sabattical or returning to a home country. You just need to be happy to pay to keep your place. The onus would also be on you to ensure that your child can keep up with the curriculum on your return.

Think the OP would find the idea of paying private school fees rather ‘antiquated’ too!

YouHaveAnArse · 20/11/2025 15:03

I love the idea that , as with the travelling community, wanting to take your kid skiing for less money means you're a protected minority and should be treated as such.

My parents couldn't afford to take us on holiday outside of term-time, so we just didn't go. If you can afford a holiday at all you're doing better than a lot of families are right now, so spend the time you're spending on this Chat GPT legalese nonsense on trying to find a break that's more suitable for your dates and budget. That would be more productive.

Rockschooldropout · 20/11/2025 15:03

General School Governor here (sec) The simple answer is no .. you are welcome to withdraw your child from
school but they’ll be removed from roll with no guarantee of being able to return

kodakpp3 · 20/11/2025 15:02

In a neighbouring LA there was a deal of off-rolling when parents took children out of school to go on a pilgrimage to Saudi Arabia. The date changes every year and so when it coincided with the summer holiday - no problem. But when Hajj falls in term time children could return to find they'd lost their place.

Pressure schools attendance rates, lack of communication, pressure on places all exacerbated the problem.

Some of the schools in that area were quite popular and oversubscribed.

Hajj itself is a relatively short festival but some children would be out for 2+ months if the parents included a trip to see relatives in their heritage country. Often schools were not given a return date, sometimes the children were just not there.

As worries about forced marriages came into public awareness then social services would be involved if the child concerned was a 14-16 year old girl.

If you feel that you need to be away and take your child with you then honesty and an open discussion is probably best for all concerned.

Lunde · 20/11/2025 15:02

KuanKaKu · 20/11/2025 14:50

You’re coming across as complacent, old fashioned and set in your ways… out with the old and in with the new! Time will tell.. younger generations will not accept these antiquated policies

What do you mean by antiquated? Didn't the more draconian attendance rules come in recently? Under Gove? Because of a link between missing chunks of school, disruption and poor educational outcomes.

If you don't like the system you have the choice of HE full time and take full control of your child's education exactly how you wish - so you don't have to use a system you disagree with. In some countries HE is not legal and you do have to use the system.

MrsTerryPratchett · 20/11/2025 15:01

Frynye · 20/11/2025 14:48

I’m getting
“I want a term time holiday but I don’t want it be fined vibes”

hope it works for you op. I disagree with school fines (as a blanket rule with no leeway), I don’t think it will though

I'm getting, I can afford a fine, but just don't want to pay it. And I don't want another child to have the school place while I ponce about travelling.

Muffinmam · 20/11/2025 15:01

When I was in primary school one of my friends went travelling around Australia for about 8 weeks (possibly longer). The school just accepted her absence. She didn’t have to do any extra homework. She just had a massive holiday.

In highschool that same person left year 12 months before graduation to get a job in an office. She came back to visit wearing her office clothes and high heels. The Deputy Principal still allowed her to graduate even though she didn’t meet the 80% attendance requirement and obviously never even submitted her assignments or attended tests. She also missed her final exams. It was so unfair that she was allowed to graduate when she didn’t earn her place.

It seems like the mother wants to take her child out of school to go on holiday and doesn’t want to get fined.

I would suggest you acknowledge receipt of her email and report her to be fined for failing to attend school as it’s very clear she isn’t going to be homeschooling her child and is only using the Act to get out of the attendance requirements. You either homeschool or not. It’s not up to you to make that determination- it’s up to the Court. She can explain to the Court the reason for the withdrawal from school.

I would formally acknowledge the request and tell her that it’s not possible to temporarily de-register from school and keep her child’s place and as she has not indicated she has registered for homeschooling you will escalate this matter.

Then send all correspondence through your normal channels for the purpose of a fine being issued.

Franjipanl8r · 20/11/2025 15:00

You’re well within your rights to lobby for change on this issue at school trust level and higher. But on a single school basis, if you de-register you’ll have to re-register afterwards and then you might find your child’s place has been given to someone else in the mean time! Both my kids school have waiting lists and they can’t refuse school children are enrolled if a space comes available.

I had to de-register and re-register mid term on a single day when my child changed school last year and admin wise it wasn’t an easy thing to do.

elevenpiperspiping · 20/11/2025 15:00

Use private schools - they’ll hold places for you as you’ll still be paying fees. Over the years I’ve known children have a term/year off for travelling during a sabattical or returning to a home country. You just need to be happy to pay to keep your place. The onus would also be on you to ensure that your child can keep up with the curriculum on your return.

ContinuewithGoogle · 20/11/2025 14:58

KuanKaKu · 20/11/2025 14:50

You’re coming across as complacent, old fashioned and set in your ways… out with the old and in with the new! Time will tell.. younger generations will not accept these antiquated policies

You haven't managed to give one single argument on how the actual education would work and be beneficial to the children?

aside from you wanting to swan on cheap holidays whenever and for how long you fancy, but having teachers available to do the catch up with your kids when you finally feel like coming back.

I cannot wait to hear how your new and better system would work.

Dockthepeek · 20/11/2025 14:58

I sincerely hope you are a bot, OP, because the thought that you are an actual parent, responsible for actual children and their wellbeing is, frankly, depressing and terrifying. Spaffing incoherent AI slop into an email makes you neither clever nor informed and it certainly isn’t going to effect any change in the law. But you knew that.

Doobedobe · 20/11/2025 14:57

We went to another country for a period of 7 months. We had to deregister them and then hope the place was still there when we got back. The school was undersubscribed so we felt confident it would be but it was a risk.
You can't temporarily remove and hold a place. It doesn't work like that.
Neither is it fair to hold a place open. As there is no guarantee that you will come back and another family might move in near the school desparately wanting and needing a place. And its not fair to hold places open for if and when you decide to come back.
What if every one did this?

Elleherd · 20/11/2025 14:56

KuanKaKu · 20/11/2025 14:50

You’re coming across as complacent, old fashioned and set in your ways… out with the old and in with the new! Time will tell.. younger generations will not accept these antiquated policies

Then they will find themselves with their children either on forced school attendance certificates, parental supervision orders, forced to home educate or having to pay to provide a compatible education to meet their childrens needs.

I have sympathy for family life matters. But that's why we have the right to use systems other than state provided education.

Itsallstressstressstress · 20/11/2025 14:56

How do you propose the education is provided consistently?

wordler · 20/11/2025 14:55

@KuanKaKu I started to read your post with interest thinking you were hoping to use this option for a family emergency or need with a large chunk of the school year - ie four months or more.

For example being sent abroad on a diplomatic mission, or a family emergency abroad. Or the chance for an experience of a lifetime like doing one of those tall ship adventures.

That’s where your ‘otherwise’ exemption could work. And you’d commit at least one parent to teaching, monitoring and reporting the educational development of each child during this period.

That it turns out you want a ten day skiing holiday is ridiculous - how many hours per day were you planning on doing school work in those ten days???

Oioisavaloy27 · 20/11/2025 14:55

What an absolute load of shit op, your ai generated letter sounds ridiculous, do yourself a favour and keep your children in school.

Marinade · 20/11/2025 14:55

KuanKaKu · 20/11/2025 14:50

You’re coming across as complacent, old fashioned and set in your ways… out with the old and in with the new! Time will tell.. younger generations will not accept these antiquated policies

Okey dokey. Would bet my bottom dollar that time will NOT tell and that the status quo will remain. You are not Rosa Parkes fighting for injustice with courage and dignity. You are just another out of touch person who wants their own way, which in this instance, means a nice sking holiday in term time.... Crack on OP.

NimbleDreamer · 20/11/2025 14:54

KuanKaKu · 20/11/2025 13:23

Thanks again for the replies. I do understand the concerns. However to clarify this is not about avoiding a fine for a holiday. It is about recognising the attendance system we are all working within was made for a society that no longer matches how families live work or travel today.

  1. Outdated system versus modern realities
  2. The current model assumes parents work fixed hours in one place, that families only travel during the school designated windows, that travel outside those windows is rare and that education must happen in a school building Monday to Friday. That framework may have made sense decades ago but it does not reflect the United Kingdom in 2025.
  3. Modern family life global mobility seasonal patterns and real constraints
  4. For many families today travel and family time are shaped by real world factors rather than just cost.
Take Spain as a very clear example. Spain welcomed around 85 million international visitors in 2023 which was about a 19 per cent increase on the previous year and which went beyond the pre pandemic figure of 83.5 million in 2019. The income from those visitors reached about 108.7 billion euros. Spain received roughly 17.3 million visitors from the United Kingdom, 11.8 million from France and 10.8 million from Germany. The country is now dealing with overtourism in regions such as Catalonia the Balearic Islands and the Canary Islands where residents feel the impact of very high visitor numbers. Spanish authorities have started to bring in measures to spread visitors more evenly across the year and to reduce pressure from intense peaks. Working patterns have also changed. Many parents now work remotely or in hybrid roles or with international teams in different time zones. These jobs do not align neatly with the United Kingdom school calendar and coordinating family time inside the rigid structure becomes extremely difficult. This is not luxury. It is the reality for many modern working families. Seasonal and climate factors also affect some travel. For example reliable snow in the northern hemisphere now tends to fall later and less predictably than in previous decades. This means some families cannot fit certain activities into the narrow half term week without overlapping with term time. This is not about extravagance. It is about how travel timing and seasons have shifted.
  1. The legal right to provide education otherwise and the relevance of the 10 day proposal
  2. Section 7 of the Education Act 1996 states parents must ensure their child receives efficient full time education suitable to their age ability aptitude and any special educational needs either by regular attendance at school or by education provided otherwise.
This legal route means ta parent is authorised to provide education outside school when they choose to and still meet their duty. There is currently a call for families to be allowed up to 10 days of term time absence without penalty each year. This mirrors the idea a parent might elect for education otherwise for a short defined period without it being treated as a permanent move out of school. Recent reporting has shown strong public support for this type of flexible approach.
  1. School place the 10 day holding period and why this is seen as a loophole
  2. In practice parents are aware that a school cannot simply erase a child from its roll the moment they are not in the classroom. There is a period, commonly understood to be around 10 school days, in which the child’s place is effectively held while the absence is clarified and any decision about the roll is made.
From a parent perspective this creates a de facto safety window. If they exercise their right to provide education otherwise and the absence is contained within that same 10 day span, the school is still treating the child as having a place. The child does not instantly lose their place and there is no realistic risk of it being handed to another family inside that time frame. That is why many parents see the combination of Section 7 and this 10 day holding period as a VALID loophole. It allows them to provide education otherwise, for up to 10 days, in a way that is within the law, while the school still has to hold the place. This lines up exactly with the petition request for 10 days of flexible term time absence and shows that the system already contains the shape of a workable middle option. It is just not openly acknowledged or sensibly structured.
  1. The absence of any meaningful middle option
  2. Currently parents are left with two extremes. They can request authorised absence which is almost always refused unless the circumstances are exceptional. Or they can elect to provide education otherwise under Section 7 which is lawful but is often treated as a major step because of how the school roll and place holding are normally managed.
There is no formal structured option for short term flexi schooling or educational travel aligned with global work and modern family mobility even though the practice around 10 days on the roll shows that the system could support it.
  1. The core issue
  2. A modern education system in 2025 should reflect how families actually live travel and work. Instead the current attendance framework forces every family into a rigid model that no longer matches the reality. That mismatch is what leads some parents to consider short periods of education otherwise. Not because they want to undermine schools but because the existing system offers no viable alternative.
Until reforms bring the policy into line with real life, it is therefore very possible for families to rely on the lawful option that Section 7 provides and on the practical 10 day window in which the school still holds the place. It is not misuse. It is a rational response to a system that has not kept pace with society.

So you want to take them out for a holiday then.

PurpleThistle7 · 20/11/2025 14:53

Oh I hope you send it, the teachers will have a good laugh. How totally ridiculous.

Waterbaby41 · 20/11/2025 14:52

What an irresponsible way to play fast and loose with your children's education.