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To invoke the ‘otherwise’ option for school absence?

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KuanKaKu · 20/11/2025 10:58

AIBU to send this letter in and request temporary de-registration?
WWYD if you are a Headteacher and received this?
Dear Headteacher,
I am writing to inform you that for the period xxx 2026 to xxx 2026 inclusive, my children, [Child’s Name(s)], will be receiving their education otherwise than at school, in accordance with Section 7 of the Education Act 1996, which places the legal duty for securing a suitable education on me as the parent.
Section 7 states that:
“The parent of every child of compulsory school age shall cause him to receive efficient full-time education suitable to his age, ability and aptitude, and to any special educational needs he may have, either by regular attendance at school or otherwise.”
During this period I will be exercising the “otherwise” option. As such, my children will not be attending school between these dates. You may therefore treat them as temporarily deregistered for this period, as their education is being lawfully provided by me.
This is not a permanent withdrawal. My intention is for them to return to school-based provision on xxx 2026.
For clarity:
Parents are the duty-holders under Education Act 1996 s.7 with the right to elect for education “otherwise”.
Elective Home Education does not require the school’s permission (DfE Elective Home Education Guidance, 2019).
Temporary periods of home education are legally valid where the parent is providing suitable education under s.7.
Compulsory school attendance requirements under s.444 apply only where the parent is relying on school attendance to discharge the s.7 duty, which is not the case during this period.
Please confirm receipt of this notification for your records.

OP posts:
Elleherd · 20/11/2025 13:17

KuanKaKu · 20/11/2025 11:13

Is there a law that prevents temporary de-registration? People are saying no you can’t temporarily de-register your child but are not providing the legal basis to this. Does anyone actually know if the request in the letter is legal?

Excluding som SEN or SS situations which have their own things going on; There aren't laws preventing you temporally de-registering from the state provided education, taking responsibility, and later abdicating that and re-registering for state provision.

There aren't laws requiring the school to hold open a place for them once you de-register. The LEA becomes responsible for allocating your children a school when you re-register.

Attempting to abuse the Education act for the benefit of holidays and fine avoidance, could see your children on SS CIN register, if someone takes exception, as some red flags fluttering there..

Hons123 · 20/11/2025 13:16

RudolphTheReindeer · 20/11/2025 11:05

You can't hold the space. You're either home educating or not.

If it is a private school, yes, you can.

Happyholidays78 · 20/11/2025 13:16

A friend of mine took her son out of Senior school during covid times as she had underlying health issues & high risk for a few months. He had to come 'off role' & reapply to the school, thankfully there was a space. She did actually home educate him & took her responsibility very seriously.

noidea69 · 20/11/2025 13:16

RudolphTheReindeer · 20/11/2025 11:05

You can't hold the space. You're either home educating or not.

they are going on holiday is what they are doing.

ThatJollyGreySquid · 20/11/2025 13:16

You cannot temporarily de-register. You can choose to home educate, but then you’ll need to re-apply for a space. If there’s a waiting list for the school in their year group then your child’s place will be given to the child at the top of the list.

MiniCooperLover · 20/11/2025 13:15

What a pompous email, it sounds like you asked AI 'what happens if' ... the HT would release that space before you'd even taken off for whatever educational trip I'm sure you're trying to make it out to be and then your child has no school place.

TaupeRaven · 20/11/2025 13:14

YABU to think that copying and pasting some legislation into a letter will enable/entitle you to circumvent the policies in place, regardless of your view of those policies.

YANBU to deregister your children, YABU to expect the school to hold a place for them and YABVU to - it would appear - take your children out of education to avoid a holiday fine with no apparent intention to provide them with an actual education (I'm pro-homeschooling, but not just so you can go on a jolly and 'educate' your child with a guided tour of the resort and some poolside reading, or whatever you have planned.)

ReadingTime · 20/11/2025 13:13

Just talk to the head and explain what you want to do, no need for a longwinded letter quoting the law at them which is guaranteed to piss them off.

A friend of mine took her two junior school age kids on a 6 month trip around the world, talked to the school about it well in advance, and was confident the older one would almost certainly get back in because they had a few spare places in that year, but that they were taking a gamble on the younger one being able to get back into the school that year. In the end it was fine and both kids got back in and the school were fine with it, because they had been honest from the start.

You don't get to decide that their withdrawal is temporary.

IHopeYouStepOnALegPiece · 20/11/2025 13:13

Just pay the bastard holiday fine, why would you risk your Childs education and place at school?

Ineedanewsofa · 20/11/2025 13:12

@Elleherd I had wondered if something existed but not looked into it, that’s really interesting to know 😊

TheignT · 20/11/2025 13:11

Elleherd · 20/11/2025 13:07

It's not exactly no questions asked - it's pre arranged.
Children in the traveling community can hold a 'green card.' It means they have and attend a base school where their reccords etc are held, but can move around (sometimes enforced moves, sometimes for parents work) and turn up at another school with the card get it stamped, and temporally be educated there.

That's interesting. I had no idea that system existed. We live and learn.

JinglingtoChristmas · 20/11/2025 13:09

KuanKaKu · 20/11/2025 11:13

Is there a law that prevents temporary de-registration? People are saying no you can’t temporarily de-register your child but are not providing the legal basis to this. Does anyone actually know if the request in the letter is legal?

No, there is not law to stop you deregistering the children, except if they’re in a special school or if SS are involved it can cause complications. But once you deregister your child the school needs to offer that place to anyone on the waiting list. So if there are students on the waiting list, or some apply in the mean time or the LEA place them their under fair access there may not be space for your child when you re apply.

Elleherd · 20/11/2025 13:07

Ineedanewsofa · 20/11/2025 12:57

As PP had said, the only exemptions I’ve seen where places were held were for children belonging to the travelling community. DC had traveller kids in her class who would stop attending after May half term and return after October half term, no questions asked. Both girls were permanently removed from school after may half term in yr5.

It's not exactly no questions asked - it's pre arranged.
Children in the traveling community can hold a 'green card.' It means they have and attend a base school where their reccords etc are held, but can move around (sometimes enforced moves, sometimes for parents work) and turn up at another school with the card get it stamped, and temporally be educated there.

Tiswa · 20/11/2025 13:05

also school fines come from the Local Authority and the LA will want to ensure that you are indeed offering an education - so would definitely be aware if it was a holiday

cestlavielife · 20/11/2025 13:05

When you took school place you agreed to followthe rules....
Whatcare the dates covering? A holiday of 2 weeks? 3 ? 6 months?
Or two months travelling?
Yes you can withdraw but
Either way no it will not work if you trying to avoid a fine ... de register and go back on wait list/re apply asmid year application if you want to come back after 6 weeks etc

HouseWithASeaView · 20/11/2025 13:01

Is the school over subscribed? Falling birth rates where we live mean that, in KS1 at least, all of the primary schools have places and there just aren’t waiting lists. It is totally different to how it was even a few years ago. So here, whilst I don’t think I’d want to go to the hassle of de-registering, re-registering and demonstrating that I was providing an education, I don’t think that there is much risk of there not being a space in the same school when you eventually decide that it fits in with your diary.

Sugargliderwombat · 20/11/2025 12:57

Lol!!! The audacity of this. To think that they would not get any funding for your child, and potentially keep a different child out of education, to save you a space. No of course they won't do this!

If there are less than 30 as it is you could risk it.

Ineedanewsofa · 20/11/2025 12:57

As PP had said, the only exemptions I’ve seen where places were held were for children belonging to the travelling community. DC had traveller kids in her class who would stop attending after May half term and return after October half term, no questions asked. Both girls were permanently removed from school after may half term in yr5.

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 20/11/2025 12:56

There’s no right to do what you are suggesting. If you withdraw you will lose your child’s place. Is it a popular school? The pla
may still be available if not. How long is the proposed absence?

AlleycatMarie · 20/11/2025 12:54

Your child is either registered or de-registered, there is nothing temporary about it. Your child is either registered and you are potentially fined for keeping them off school or your child will be automatically deregistered. If you de-register you go to the back of the queue to get them registered. There is no other legal way around this.

Sahara123 · 20/11/2025 12:44

TidyDancer · 20/11/2025 12:26

Just take your kids on holiday and pay the fine. No need to be a knob about it. They will see right through you and you’ll be a laughing stock.

Yup!
This will definitely be the talk of the staff room …

user927464 · 20/11/2025 12:43

This doesn't work legally. You can absolutely deregister. However the school is not required to hold a place open for you and will not hold the place open for you. It will be offered to any child who needs it.

HevenlyMeS · 20/11/2025 12:40

I'm sorry I'm not quite sure whether you would classify as being otherwise, from reading others responses
Maybe The Family Rights group might be able to confirm for you? Wishing you&your Children the utmost best 💚

diddl · 20/11/2025 12:40

Oh Op, you & your kids might love the "otherwise" education that you will provide.

How can you be so sure when it will end?
😂

Descendentsfrompilgrams · 20/11/2025 12:40

I think there is some clause that allows head teachers to keep the child registered but not on-roll, designed for medically unwell children and siblings (eg undergoing cancer treatment some distance away from home) but you could explore if you could make use of this?

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