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To invoke the ‘otherwise’ option for school absence?

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KuanKaKu · 20/11/2025 10:58

AIBU to send this letter in and request temporary de-registration?
WWYD if you are a Headteacher and received this?
Dear Headteacher,
I am writing to inform you that for the period xxx 2026 to xxx 2026 inclusive, my children, [Child’s Name(s)], will be receiving their education otherwise than at school, in accordance with Section 7 of the Education Act 1996, which places the legal duty for securing a suitable education on me as the parent.
Section 7 states that:
“The parent of every child of compulsory school age shall cause him to receive efficient full-time education suitable to his age, ability and aptitude, and to any special educational needs he may have, either by regular attendance at school or otherwise.”
During this period I will be exercising the “otherwise” option. As such, my children will not be attending school between these dates. You may therefore treat them as temporarily deregistered for this period, as their education is being lawfully provided by me.
This is not a permanent withdrawal. My intention is for them to return to school-based provision on xxx 2026.
For clarity:
Parents are the duty-holders under Education Act 1996 s.7 with the right to elect for education “otherwise”.
Elective Home Education does not require the school’s permission (DfE Elective Home Education Guidance, 2019).
Temporary periods of home education are legally valid where the parent is providing suitable education under s.7.
Compulsory school attendance requirements under s.444 apply only where the parent is relying on school attendance to discharge the s.7 duty, which is not the case during this period.
Please confirm receipt of this notification for your records.

OP posts:
HildegardP · 20/11/2025 13:44

KuanKaKu · 20/11/2025 13:40

Actually it's only that simple because public voice and opinion on the matter is not being fairly heard! The number of petitions started on school absence in term time clearly evidences there is a high level of demand for a changes to the current system, change has to start somewhere, being a doormat doesn't enable progress...

Actually it is that simple because that's the law. I realise you may feel similarly miffed that you're not allowed to drive off from the petrol station without paying for your fuel or organise your house moves by simply breaking into whichever dwelling strikes your fancy, but like all of us you are subject to the law.

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 20/11/2025 13:44

KuanKaKu · 20/11/2025 13:40

Actually it's only that simple because public voice and opinion on the matter is not being fairly heard! The number of petitions started on school absence in term time clearly evidences there is a high level of demand for a changes to the current system, change has to start somewhere, being a doormat doesn't enable progress...

What progress is to be made by people taking their kids out of school whenever they fancy?

spanieleyes · 20/11/2025 13:44

If you want the law changing, that’s absolutely fine, petition away. But don’t expect the current laws to be bent to suit you.

ApplebyArrows · 20/11/2025 13:43

One suspects the local authority might be particularly interested in arranging a quick inspection to check up on the quality of this temporary "education"?

GoingbackwardsForwards · 20/11/2025 13:42

You must have a lot of time on your hands to be considering this nonsense. Get a hobby or a job and stop being so ridiculous

TheDenimPoet · 20/11/2025 13:41

KuanKaKu · 20/11/2025 11:13

Is there a law that prevents temporary de-registration? People are saying no you can’t temporarily de-register your child but are not providing the legal basis to this. Does anyone actually know if the request in the letter is legal?

Of course you can de-register. But they don't have to keep the place open.

KuanKaKu · 20/11/2025 13:40

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 20/11/2025 13:33

This whole thing is absolutely insane.

Either, don’t take your kids out of school for term time holidays, or do - and pay the fine.

it’s THAT simple.

Actually it's only that simple because public voice and opinion on the matter is not being fairly heard! The number of petitions started on school absence in term time clearly evidences there is a high level of demand for a changes to the current system, change has to start somewhere, being a doormat doesn't enable progress...

OP posts:
AlleycatMarie · 20/11/2025 13:39

You can ChatGPT it and disagree with the system all you want; the rules still apply to you as they do to everyone else!!!

Stompythedinosaur · 20/11/2025 13:38

You can de-register your child, but there's no guarantee the school won't give their place to someone else before you re-register them. You can't temporarily de-register and also hold the school place.

Is this for a holiday? Honestly, just pay the fine.

Lindy2 · 20/11/2025 13:36

Why won't you say how long you intend to "educate at home" for?

Your child is either registered for a school place or not. Therefore no dipping in and out according to your preferences.

If you deregistered at our school the place would be filled within a few days. There simply isn't the capacity to hold unfilled places. Another child will be there filling the place.

If it's a for a term time holiday you're being ridiculous and risking your child having no school place when you get back.

If it's genuinely to home educate then stick with that on a long term basis.

You use far too many words.

Buscobel · 20/11/2025 13:35

Well, if you think you can do it OP, try it.

CandidHedgehog · 20/11/2025 13:34

KuanKaKu · 20/11/2025 11:13

Is there a law that prevents temporary de-registration? People are saying no you can’t temporarily de-register your child but are not providing the legal basis to this. Does anyone actually know if the request in the letter is legal?

You have it the wrong way around. There is a law that covers de-registration / home schooling - you’ve quoted it.

For temporary de-registration to be legal and the school to be bound by the requirement to let a child back in after a ‘temporary’ departure, there would need to be legislation that says this.

There isn’t any.

Swiftie1878 · 20/11/2025 13:34

KuanKaKu · 20/11/2025 13:27

Both of course...

Yeah, that’s a big idiotic.

You can’t take your kids out and ‘reserve’ their places for their return. Once they’re out, they’re out, and their places are up for grabs.

TaupeRaven · 20/11/2025 13:34

OP will be back as soon as generative AI has created a response for her to post...

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 20/11/2025 13:33

This whole thing is absolutely insane.

Either, don’t take your kids out of school for term time holidays, or do - and pay the fine.

it’s THAT simple.

Asunciondeflata · 20/11/2025 13:33

oneoneone · 20/11/2025 13:30

I'm not that poster, but you posted it here asking what we would think if we were the headteacher and received that letter. We're providing the feedback you asked for. One of the things many of us would think is that it's a poorly written letter that smacks of lazy AI drafting. No one here is required to edit the overly verbose writing in exchange for having given correct and requested feedback.

I'm beginning to suspect the headteacher won't miss you.

Yes, I think that's the point. A headteacher receiving such a clunky and verbose letter, won't be impressed. It's always best to go for clarity with communication.

TaupeRaven · 20/11/2025 13:33

Swiftie1878 · 20/11/2025 13:32

No. If other kids want the places whilst they’re free/vacant, they get them.

Not even if mum writes a Very Big Letter with lots of words and a strong sense of outrage? Doesn't that elicit special treatment?

CitizenofMoronia · 20/11/2025 13:33

It is about recognising the attendance system we are all working within was made for a society that no longer matches how families live work or travel today..

Speaking from a school perspective, how families work or travel is not our priority; we care about educating the pupils, and that is best served by them all staying in class and being taught the same thing at the same time. We also don't expect parents to expect schools to play catch-up when their kids fall behind.

HildegardP · 20/11/2025 13:33

Barrenfieldoffucks · 20/11/2025 11:29

I'm getting Freeman of the Land vibes here.

Does sound like someone confidently gave the OP a bum steer.

Tiswa · 20/11/2025 13:32

@KuanKaKu but the local authority will kick in once you do and want to see your plans and register as a home education student failure to do so will invoke a fine

Frankly people like you piss me off with your entitlement - DS has had EBNSA in the past and it is exactly parents like you wanting to play the system which has meant some arguments this week about whether his attendance should be authorised without medical evidence when he is bloody ill with a virus

YouHaveAnArse · 20/11/2025 13:32

OP, are you one of the people I see outside my local supermarket on a Saturday protesting about 5G and chemtrails?

Asunciondeflata · 20/11/2025 13:32

KuanKaKu · 20/11/2025 13:26

Feel free to edit the English to suit your own language requirements!

Not my letter. You go for it if you want to!

Swiftie1878 · 20/11/2025 13:32

KuanKaKu · 20/11/2025 11:04

So you don’t think specifying the ‘otherwise’ option is temporary will keep the place/s with full time education?

No. If other kids want the places whilst they’re free/vacant, they get them.

Whichhandbag · 20/11/2025 13:31

If you are unable to articulate your views without the aid of AI, I would suggest you have no place educating your child. Hth.

oneoneone · 20/11/2025 13:30

KuanKaKu · 20/11/2025 13:26

Feel free to edit the English to suit your own language requirements!

I'm not that poster, but you posted it here asking what we would think if we were the headteacher and received that letter. We're providing the feedback you asked for. One of the things many of us would think is that it's a poorly written letter that smacks of lazy AI drafting. No one here is required to edit the overly verbose writing in exchange for having given correct and requested feedback.

I'm beginning to suspect the headteacher won't miss you.