To ask how you survive this cold as an office worker?

I am wondering if this is genuine what the OP does want. All suggestions are met with a defensive comment back and the Father controlling the house heating is very strange.

I don't think it's a joke, but I do think that what the OP really needs from it is sympathy and attention rather than tips on which thermal leggings to buy, which is what it presents as.

I am wondering if this a joke thread.

The Father's behaviour is not normal. Throwing away items that you buy? really - how dare he?

I presume you pay some rent. Increase the rent and then agree that you can have the heating on or will he just take the extra rent and carry on with his ridicilious behaviour and control.

What happens when he goes to the Caribbean? Monitor your heating from another country?

OP - this really isnt normal behaviour.

Just get an electric blanket and a heated throw. Stop messing around and potificating. Honestly - you can thank me later!

When I was NHS the heating was pretty warm, even in the offices away from patients. For those with colder offices, heaters were provided. Is this not done at your Trust?

If he spots her filling it from a hot tap he'll probably time how long it's running and invoice accordingly because he's abusive.

I’m always freezing at work.

We do have heating but a) it’s crap and b) my boss is an arsehole who only lets us put in on for an hour here and there. My office is in one of those old 60s warehouses with no insulation so as soon as it goes off, all the heat is gone in about 5 minutes.

I usually wear thermal base layers (tops and bottoms, or fleece lined tights), some thermal socks, trousers, jumper, body warmer and a coat.

Boss is out today though so we’re rinsing the heating and I’ve taken my coat off.

And are you absolutely unable to get warm no matter what you do?

Were you up all night crying because you were so cold?

Are you cold at work and at the gym?

Does the heat drain from your body when you get out of a warm bath, such that bath has no long term impact on wanting you up?

Mounjaro lowers your temperature by affecting your brain stem! Ive been so cold and cannot warm up. Usually have a hot water bottle the minute i wake up and layers upon layers and a scarf on constantly.

OP, would you mind me asking how old you are?

Many electric blankets are cheaper than that and a kettle costs less than 10p per boil.

This is not about being tight or having grown up in poverty. Its bullying and control. No adult lays down 'rules' to another adult in a normal relationship. Particularly rules that impact that adult's health and happiness.

That's on the expensive side for an electric blanket. Some of them cost 2-3p an hour to run.

An electric blanket costs about 6p per hour to run so you can probably afford to boil the kettle every evening as well with your £15. Oil filled portable radiators are also pretty cost effective, it would be worth looking into that. If he isn't abusive, then he will allow you to pay for heating your own room so you don't have to live in discomfort.

How much do you pay to live there in total?

Do you have a mum? What is her view of his behaviour?

Does he not get the hint if visitors keep their coats on?

It's not really a laughing emoji issue OP.

You're in denial.

Yep.

This morning for my part of Dorset when we got up it was forecast as -1C with "feels like" -4C.

We don't keep the rads on overnight and it was 15.5C in the dining room and lounge and only 6.6C in the (never heated) downstairs loo when we got up this morning. There was a frost and the bird baths were frozen over.

It's unusually cold this week for Dorset in November.

Being tight to the detriment of the wellbeing and happiness of people you're supposed to love? That's worse than tight, that's mean and unkind

I think you've been so ground down by this man's behaviour that you can't see how unreasonable he is.

What does he do if you have visitors to the house? Are they expected to sit in a cold house and not offered hot drinks because he considers it's too expensive to boil a kettle for 3 minutes?

Frankly, it's batshit behaviour and I suspect he'll get worse as he ages.

Can you afford a flat share or to lodge with someone? I could not remain in an environment like this.

If you don't like how it is at home you can either

-Move out and be an independent adult
-Pay more 'rent' at home and use as much heating as you want to
-Do neither and waste your energy and working time on MN!

I really hope that patients are not waiting for calls from you today OP as you have discussed yourself and your life most of the morning.
Way outside of what would be your 30 mins for lunch you say you get.

For safety reasons, you should not be using boiling water for hot water bottles, it will shorten the life of the rubber and spillages or a burst or leaking hot water bottle may result in serious burns.

OP, I am in my early 70s - so like your dad, I also grew up in the 50s and 60s.

We lived in a three bedroomed house with no central heating. There was a coal fire in the living room (later replaced with a gas fire) but no heating in any of the other downstairs rooms and no heating upstairs in the bathroom or the bedrooms. If you needed to heat a bedroom to do your homework in or while studying for GCEs, for example, we would put on a one bar electric heater. When you wanted a bath, you had to put on the emersion heater and wait for it to heat up if someone else had just had a bath.

We lived in the Midlands where the winters were much colder than they are in Dorset, where I now live. There was no double glazing in our house and ice on the inside of windows was common during cold winters. We had no car so often waited for buses to go to school or into town in freezing temperatures. I can remember as a young child crying at bus stops because my feet were so cold.

I now live in a house with central heating and I would not be without it.

Yes, gas and electricity are expensive but I would not deny a child or an adult child living in my house the comfort of a warm room, hot drinks and hot water.

I think you father is being very unreasonable.

Also, if you are restricting your calorie intake to 1400 a day is this enough to keep you warm during cold weather?

Please get your iron levels tested.