Obviously “attractiveness” is subjective and love isn’t just about looks, I get that. But the older I get, the more I notice something: people don’t often marry someone in their “looks category” (whatever that is to them) and when there’s a big gap, especially where one partner knows they “married up” or “married down”, things often get shaky long-term.
I’ve seen it play out in different ways:
-Resentment or insecurity on one side
-Complacency or power imbalance on the other
-Or one person constantly being reminded that “you’re lucky to have them”, which slowly erodes the dynamic
Of course there are exceptions, loads of beautiful people with average-looking partners and vice versa. But AIBU to think when there’s a big mismatch and they both know it… the odds of staying together long-term are lower?
(Not saying it’s right, just something I’ve observed.)