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To think I’ve blown my chances of looking after DGD again

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BadGran · 19/11/2025 18:36

I recently looked after my DGD who has just turned 1 for the first time.

It was all going really well and I was holding her on my hip whilst making her tea and she arched back and I accidentally dropped her 😢she fell head first onto my wooden floor and obviously cried a lot.

I obviously have apologised profusely to DS and DIL, and to be fair they were very understanding about it but they haven’t asked me to have her since. I know they’ve got quite a lot of Christmas parties coming up so I’m guessing they don’t trust me now.

Should I say something or just wait for them to ask me. I’m so cross with myself !!

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OneBookTooMany · 19/11/2025 18:42

They will be annoyed until they drop, knock, the child touches something hot, and then they will realise how easy it is have an accident that doesn't have lasting consequences.

It's not ideal that you dropped her but I am sure there are very few parents who haven't had an accident happen to their child on their watch.

If they think that won't happen or that your DGC will be safer with anyone other than you, then let them get on with it.

You aren't perfect because no-one is, including them.

Festivewishes · 19/11/2025 18:42

What did you do after she fell? Did you know what first aid to give and what checks to do? Did you ring them straight away?

I ask because your response would be just as important to me as the accident. If I felt you messed up twice, I definitely wouldn't have you mind them again. Even if it was an appropriate response though, my trust would be totally shaken. I wouldn't want you offering to take them again, might be a better idea to have supervised visits for a while?

TonTonMacoute · 19/11/2025 18:42

Oh, I'm sorry OP, but I think it might be a while before they will be happy to leave her with you, and I'm not sure that there's anything you can say to change that.

That doesn't mean you won't see her, but I think you will have to wait and see what they decide re looking after her.

AnxiousAnnieeeeeeeeee · 19/11/2025 18:40

Oh what a shame - it was an accident and if something like that happened in isolation it wouldn’t necessarily stop me from asking you again.

Are they likely to have other worries OP? Are you generally fit, healthy and able?

Also just noticed that it was the first time you had looked after her, despite her being 1. Is there a reason for this?

AnneLovesGilbert · 19/11/2025 18:39

Did you take her to hospital?

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